Learning Points Flashcards
No right no wrong
Just behavior that is appropriate or inappropriate given the circumstances
world isn’t so black and white, different situations call for different behaviors
negotiation is silence, negotiation is listening
power and control come from effective silence
it allows you to observe what they are doing and listen better, putting pressure on other party
the more yo usay the more you give away
negotiation and selling are two different things
selling comes before the negotiation, it persuades and creates the demand
negotiation is determining the terms of the deal
why is selling bad in a negotiation environment?
if you continue to sell in a negotiation you are giving information away and you are justifying yourself/subconsciously showing your weakness
Positioning
shifts the value of an item either up or down in the mind of other party
it’s a subtle way to add credibility, precise/concise and comes before your proposal
sometimes you have to lose
negotiation is not a competition
negotiation is a ritual
we want to make sure both parties are satisfied so the deal goes through
no place for fairness in negotiation
plan your moves in decreasing amounts towards breakpoint - you do not want to be exploited
leave your values at negotiation room door
a skilled negotiatior separates their feelings from their behaviors
if you want to be liked you will pay for it
buying back your comfort
you leave money on the table because you’re uncomfortable and you think it’s not really your money
negotiation will always be uncomfortable
be something different not someone different
adopting specific behaviors, even if they go against your personal value set, are crucial skills for a negotiator. doing so doesn’t make you a bad person or change who you
you can’t let your personal values compromise your negotiation performance. put on your negotiation jacket and behave in a way that is approprate to a given scenario so you will not be exploited
Super competitiveness
You will expose yourself to risk (consciously or otherwise) to ensure that the other party loses more than you do.
But negotiation is not about winning or losing. There’s no place for ego
why do we read the other party’s breakpoints?
so we don’t leave any money on the table and maximize the deal
how can we read the other party’s breakpoints?
by watching their behavior and NVCs. people start to relax once they think they can reach a deal
ask questions, you have more power than you think
what are SEGs?
Soft Exposing Giveaways, or language that is used to soften a proposal (i think, we could possibly…that might work)
why do people use SEGs?
they feel uncomfortable and they’re trying to lessen their discomfort. they soften to alleviate that stress
what should we say to people when they are using too many SEGs?
remind them that negotiation is silence ,negotiation is listening. don’t add fluff you don’t need
what are NVCs?
physical, automatic responses that we’ve been doing for centuries and don’t even realize we are doing half the time (non verbal communication)
How can we encourage someone to watch their NVCs better?
by reminding them of conscious competence, separate our feelings from our behaviors