[John 4] "Learning to Listen"

Question 0

How do relationships first fail?

Answer 0

Lack of Communication

Question 1

Name the “6 levels of Listening:”

Answer 1

1) Ignoring People
2) Destructive Listening
3) Pretend Listening
4) Selective Listening
5) Attentive Listening
6) Empathetic Listening

Question 2

Summarize the events of John 4:

Answer 2

In Samaria, Jesus asks Samaritan woman (prostitute) for water. She says he does not have jug. Jesus says he will just use hers. Jesus speaks of having water not to physically quench thirst but having the water of eternal life. She becomes saved and tells her story to all in Samaria saving many people

Question 3

Destructive Listening is….

Answer 3

Listening only for your benefit

Question 4

Pretend Listening is….

Answer 4

“Listening” but not listening

Question 5

Selective Listening is….

Answer 5

Only listens to parts of conversation

Question 6

Attentive Listening is….

Answer 6

You connect but not at a necessary deepest level

Question 7

Empathetic Listening is….

Answer 7

Listen with eyes, ears, and heart

Question 8

Jesus vs. Disciples:

Jesus did what? (7 things)

Answer 8

Jesus: 
a) INTENTIONALLY traveled to
              Samaritan woman
b) SPEAKS to her
c) ACKNOWLEDGED her
d) affirmed her HUMANITY and
              VALUE
e) CLARIFIES WHO SHE IS in
              relation to God
f) cared more for SOUL than for
             RELIGIOUS TRADITIONS
g) practiced "ACTIVE" listening

Question 9

Jesus vs. Disciples

Disciples did what?

Answer 9

Disciples:
a) overlooked woman
b) didn't acknowledge her spiritual
              need 
c) didn't affirm her value
d) Ignored Jesus and what he was
              doing
e) missed obvious spiritual
              opportunity in front of them
f) failed to see spiritual harvest ripe
             before them (Samaria)

Question 10

List the 6 Key Listening Mistakes:

Answer 10

1) Make Believe Listening
2) Selfish Listening
3) One-Up Listening
4) Dr. Phil Listening
5) Barney Fife Listening
6) iPod Listening

Question 11

iPod Listening…

Answer 11

Inhibits the ability to connect

Question 12

Dr. Phil Listening…

Answer 12

says, “How’s that working for you?”

Question 13

Barney Fife Listening is….

Answer 13

“Nip it in a bud!”
(There is more value in listening
than a solution)

Question 14

Seven hints for Listening with Understanding (Active Listening):

Answer 14

1) check your heart, be prepared to
              care
2) reflect back the other person's
              feelings
3) seek to determine their
              perspective in life
4) ask good strategic questions 
5) give the other person room to
              respond 
6) always seek to "continue the
              conversation"
7) we are tour guides, not ticket
              takers!