intimate relationships test 3 Flashcards
test 3
What are the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse? What are aspects of each?
criticism, defensivness, stonewalling, contempt
Criticism
attacking the partners character/personality
Examples: attacking partner personality
attacking partner character
Defensiveness
defending innocence
stonewalling
refusing respond or engage
contempt
aggressive disrespect to be hurtful
What are the main types of cheating?
physical, emotional, emotional and physical.
Sexual
Emotional
A mix of both
What are the types of money management systems that couples often engage in?
pooling, partial pooling, allowance. whole wage, independant management
Whole Wage
Allowance
Pooling
Partial Pooling
Independent Management
Jealousy can manifest in many ways. What are the three types of jealousy introduced in the textbook?
anxious jealousy, reactive jealousy, possessive
Reactive
Triggered by an actual event that leads to negative emotions (e.g. anger)
anxious
Stems from ruminating and daydreaming about potential threats. Causes feelings of worry
possessive
An individual purposefully works to prevent contact between their partner and ‘perceived threats.’ Can lead to isolation
An individual purposefully works to prevent contact between their partner and ‘perceived threats.’ Can lead to isolation
violence
Intimacy Healers
**Build the house that creates a strong relationship. Add the level title and describe what it looks like.
Level 7: Shared meaning
Level 6: Make life dreams and aspirations come true
Level 5: Manage conflict
Level 4: Positive perspective
Level 3: Turn towards
Level 2: Share fondness and admiration
Level 1: Build love maps
According to Gottman
most arguments end the same way they begin. What are some techniques that couples can use to better manage conflict?
Soften start-ups
Complain but don’t blame
and accept partner’s flaws (avoiding contempt)
“I” statements
Recognize repair attempts
Individual soothing techniques
Seek a win/win outcome (not a win/lose outcome)
What are the five love languages? What is one example of each?
Physical touch
Example: Hugging
kissing
Quality time
Example: Spending one on one time together
date nights
Words of affirmation
Example: Saying I love you without prompting
compliments
Receiving gifts
Example: Gifts at birthdays/anniversaries
making something for the partner
Acts of service
Example: Doing chores without having to offer
filling up gas in the car for partner
LGBTQ+
Describe each term based on prior knowledge and information learned in class.
Heterosexual: A person who is attracted to the opposite gender/sex
Homosexual: A person who is attracted to the same gender/sex
Cisgender: A person who identifies with the sex assigned at birth
Transgender: A person who does NOT identify with the sex assigned at birth
Asexual: A person who feels little to no sexual attraction towards other people
Bisexual: A person who is attracted to two or more genders/sexes
Highlight the correct answer for the true or false prompts.
Coming out is a one time event. true/false
Families either accept or reject their LGBT+ child
as there is no nuance. true/false
LGBT+ parents are equally
or sometimes more
Long Distance Relationships
What are the two major types of LDRs?
Adjusting commuters
Established commuters
**What are three couple-level stressors and strains? Then consider what each means in terms of the relationship.
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Potential answers: Loss of da-to-day intimacy
poor technology communication
What are three couple-level resources/coping strategies? Then consider what each means in terms of the relationship.
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Potential answers: Compartmentalize
partner is friend
