Interpersonal Comm. Theory Final Flashcards
3 Types of Opening Lines
- ) Innocuous (“Hey can you pass me that drink?”)
- ) Flippant (Could be too sweet or too offensive)
- ) Direct Approach (“Hey do you want to meet up tonight?”)
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Shyness
an individuals discomfort and or inhibition in interpersonal situations that interferes with pursuing and interpersonal professional goal
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Dispositional Shyness
Part of your personality
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Situational Shyness
Specific environmental circumstances that develop feelings, physical reactions, and thoughts that create a state of anxiety, discomfort, and inhibition.
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6 dimensions associated with the strength of ones “want to” commitment
- ) perceiving a rewarding future,
- ) identifying with the relationship,
- ) perceiving fewer attractive alternates,
- ) willingness to exert effort for the relationship,
- ) investing more in the relationship,
- )accepting responsibility for your commitment
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7 ways to effectively communicate commitment
1) repeat commitment over diff. ways
2) unqualified absolute statement (i’ll love you forever)
3) talk about future relationship awards,
4) make public statements about commitment to relationship
5) make statements of commitment more permanent
6) things that show effort
7) initiate at least as much as you respond
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Personal Idioms
unique speech patterns that distinguis the relationship (pet names, inside jokes)
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2 Functions of personal idioms
1) serves to make the pair a more concise unit, 2) help couples to define relationship norms
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8 Categories of Idioms
1) expressions of affection (squeezing hand)
2) teasing insults
3) partner nicknames
4) names for others outside the relationship
5) requests and routines
6) confront actions
7) sexual invitations
8) sexual references and euphemisms (nicknames for sexual things)
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3 Patterns of successful comforting
1) talk about feelings
2) talking about value of person being helped
3) signals that underscore the authenticity of the helpers response
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Lee’s Theory of Love - main points
1 - Love can mainfest itself in different ways
2- Different people have different styles of loving
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Love of beauty - Lee
passionate and intense
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Playful Love - Lee
Love to play the game. Love is not a top priority; Want to maintain control and independence; Seek variety & good times
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Companionate love - Lee
Patient, Stable, Predictable; based on friendship and having someone to spend time with
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Obsessive Love - Lee
Passion & desire. very needy and dramatic; love is like an addiction
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Realistic Love - Lee
Combines Control & manipulation of playful love with companionate love; guided by practicality and logical thinking more than feelings. Think online dating sites like eharmony that match you based on combatibility/ shared goals and values
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Altruistic Love - Lee
General compassion for others; Unselfish, generous, kind; place others’ needs above your own
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Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love - 3 traits
Commitment, passion, intimacy
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Consummate love - STT
intimacy, commitment, passion
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Companionate Love - STT
Intimacy & commitment
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Fatuous Love - STT
Commitment & Passion
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Romantic Love - STT
intimacy & passion