Important stuff Flashcards
Quadrant 2 organizer tool will need to meet six important criteria
Coherence
Balance
Quadrant 2 focus
A people dimension
Flexibility
Portability
Quadrant 2 organizing involves four key activities
Quadrant 2 organizing involves 4 key activities
Identifying roles – write down your key rolls
Selecting goals – one or two important results you should accomplish in each role during the next seven days
Scheduling-look at the week ahead with your goals in mind and schedule time to achieve them
Daily adapting – daily planning becomes a function of daily adapting of prioritizing activities and responding to unanticipated events, relationships, and experiences.
Habit one says you’re the programmer, habit 2 says write the program, habit three says?
Run the program
Ideas for developing a personal mission statement (4)
Free write
Plan retreat
Branch out
Use a template
IBM stands for three things?
The dignity of the individual, excellence, and service
Effective goals, focus primarily on results rather than……?
Activities
Frankel says we detect rather than ______ our missions in life.
Invent
Brain dominance theory. Each hemisphere of the brain – left and right – tends to specialize in and preside over different functions, processes, different kinds of information, and deal with different kinds of problems.
What do each side do?
Left hemisphere, logical/verbal, deals with words, with parts and specifics, analysis, which means to break apart, sequential, thinking, time bound.
Right hemisphere, intuitive, creative, pictures, holes, and the relationship between the parts, synthesis, which means to put together, simulationist and holistic thinking.
Brain dominance theory. Each hemisphere of the brain – left and right – tends to specialize in and preside over different functions, processes, different kinds of information, and deal with different kinds of problems.
What do each side do?
Left hemisphere, logical/verbal, deals with words, with parts and specifics, analysis, which means to break apart, sequential, thinking, time bound.
Right hemisphere, intuitive, creative, pictures, holes, and the relationship between the parts, synthesis, which means to put together, simulationist and holistic thinking.
We live in a primarily ____ brain dominated world.
Left brain
Your ______ is the source from which your attitudes and behaviors flow.
Paradigm
Nine alternative centers
Spouse centeredness
Family centeredness
Money centeredness
Work centeredness
Possession centeredness
Pleasure centeredness
Friend/enemy centeredness
Church centeredness
Self-centeredness
Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security, guidance, wisdom, and ________
Power
The most effective way I know to begin with the end in mind is to develop a____________.
Personal mission statement or philosophy or creed.
Effective management without effective leadership is, as one individual phrased it, like straightening deck chairs on the ____________
Titanic
Habit two is based on principles of personal leadership, which means that leadership is the first ______
Creation
Management is the second__________.
Creation
Begin with the end in mind is based on the principle that all things are created________.
Twice
Habit 2
Begin with the end in mind
Principles of personal leadership
Being proactive comes down to two things. First, take.________ for your life. Second, take._________.
Responsibility/ initiative
At the very heart of our circle of influence is our ability to make and keep ____ and ______
Commitments and promises
The problems we all face fall in one of three areas…?
Direct control
Indirect control
No Control
Habit one
Be proactive
Principles of personal vision
Habit three
Put first things first
Principles of personal management
Habit 4
Think win win
Principles of interpersonal leadership
Habit five
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Principles of empathic communication
Habit six
Synergize
Principles of creative cooperation
Habit seven
Sharpen the saw
Principles of balanced self renewal
Two kinds of delegation
Gofer delegation and stewardship delegation
Stewardship delegation, involves clear, upfront, mutual understanding, and commitment regarding expectations in five areas
- Desired results.
- Guidelines
- Resources.
- Accountability.
- Consequences.
Trust is the highest form of human_______
Motivation
Effective delegation is perhaps the best indicator of effective management simply because it is so basic to both personal and organizational growth
Effective delegation is perhaps the best indicator of effective management supply because it is so basic to both personal and organizational growth
Quadrant one is the procrastinator
Quadrant two is the prioritized
Quadrant three is the yes, man
Quadrant four is the ______
Slacker
Affected people prioritize people over things, _______ over schedules.
Relationships
Effective interdependence can only be built on a foundation of true independence. Private victory proceeds________ victory. Algebra comes before calculus.
Public victory
Interdependence is a choice only__________ people can make.
Independent
_________ opens up worlds of possibilities for deep, rich, meaningful associations, for geometrically, increased productivity, for serving, for contributing, for learning, for growing. But it is also also where we feel the greatest pain, greatest frustration, the greatest Rob do happiness and success.
Interdependence
______________ is a metaphor that describes the amount of trust that’s been built up in a relationship. It’s the feeling of safeness you have with another human being.
The emotional bank account
If a large reserve of trust is not sustained by continuing deposits, a marriage will________
Deteriorate
Six major deposits that will build the emotional bank account
- Understanding the individual.
- Attending to the little things.
- Keeping commitments.
- Clarifying expectations.
- Showing personal integrity.
- Apologizing sincerely, when you make it withdrawal.
Dag Hammarskjold: past secretary, General of the United Nations said
It’s far more noble to give yourself completely to one individual then to labor diligently for the salvation of the masses
Dag Hammarskjold: past secretary, General of the United Nations said
It’s far more noble to give yourself completely to one individual then to labor diligently for the salvation of the masses
By recognizing that the P/PC balance is necessary to effectiveness in an interdependent reality, we can value our problems as opportunities to increase______
PC
By recognizing that the P/PC balance is necessary to effectiveness in an interdependent reality, we can value our problems as opportunities to increase______
PC
You can’t change the fruit without changing the_____
Root
You can’t change the fruit without changing the_____
Root
Six paradigms of human interaction
- Win-win.
- Win lose.
- Lose win.
- Lose lose.
- Win
- Win-win or no deal.
Win-win is a frame of mine and a heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human______
Interactions
Anything less than win-win in an interdependent reality is a poor second best that will have impact in the long-term_________.
Relationships
Anything less than win-win in an interdependent reality is a poor second best that will have impact in the long-term_________.
Relationships
Five dimensions of win-win
- Character.
- Relationships.
- Agreements.
- Structure and systems.
- Process.
________ - the value place on ourselves
Integrity
________ - the value place on ourselves
Integrity
________ - the balance between courage and consideration
Maturity
The basic task of leadership is to increase the standard of living and the quality of life for all the__________.
Stakeholders
Three character traits essential to the win-win paradigm
Integrity
Maturity
Abundance mentality
From relationships, flow the agreements that give definition and direction to_________.
Win win
In the win-win agreement, the following five elements are made very explicit
Desired results
Guidelines
Resources
Accountability
Consequences
“ learner controlled instruction” was a win-win agreement that involved identifying specific objectives and criteria that would demonstrate their accomplishment and identifying the guidelines, resources, accountability, and consequences that would result when objectives were______.
Met
There are basically four kinds of consequences (rewards, and penalties) that management or parents can control-
Financial
Psychic
Opportunity
Responsibility
Win-win can only survive in an organization when the systems ________ it.
Support
So often the problem is in the systems, not the people. If you put good people in bad systems you get._______ _______.
Bad results
52% of lawyers describe themselves as________ with their career.
Dissatisfied
CS (Louis) said “ pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the ________ man.
Next
Communication is the most_______ skill in life.
Important
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to_______.
Reply
When a person speaks we are usually listening at one of four levels those levels are?
Ignoring
Pretending
Selective listening at tentative listening
The highest form of listening, the fifth level is?
Empathetic listening
Listening with the intent to understand, seeking first to understand, to really understand is the definition of?
Empathetic listening
10% of our communication as represented by the words we say, 30% is represented by our sounds, and 60% is represented by our?
Body language
If you don’t have confidence in the diagnosis, you won’t have confidence in the______
Prescription
Because we listen autobiographically, we tend to respond in 1 of 4 ways
1.We evaluate – agree or disagree
2.We probe - ask questions from our frame of reference
3. We advise – give council based on our experiences.
4. we interpret we try to figure people out, to explain their motives and behavior based on our own motives and behavior
The skills of empathetic, listening, involve for developmental stages
- First and least effective is to mimic content.
- Second is to rephrase the content
- Reflect feeling.
- The fourth stage includes both the second and third stages, rephrase the content and reflect the feeling.
Ethos, pathos, and logos these three words contain the essence of seeking to understand and making effective presentations
Ethos is your personal credibility the faith people have in your integrity encompasses your emotional bank account.
Pathos is the empathetic side. It’s the feeling.
Logos is the logic, the reasoning part of the presentation
What is synergy?
It means that the hole is greater than the sum of its parts. It means that the relationship that the parts have to each other is a part in and of itself. It is not only a part, but the most catalytic it, the most empowering, the most unifying, and the most exciting part.
Synergy means that one plus one may equal eight, 16, or even
1600
Valuing the differences is the essence of________, the mental, the emotional, the psychological differences between people. And the key to valuing those differences is to realize that all people see the world, not as it is, but as they are.
Synergy
Is it logical that two people can disagree and that both can be right? It’s not logical: it’s.________.
Psychological
Sociologist Kirt Lewin developed a_______ ________ analysis model, and which she described any current level of performance or being as a state of equilibrium between the driving forces that encourage upward movement and the restraining forces that discourage it
Force field analysis
All nature is
Synergistic
When you see only two alternatives, yours, and the wrong one, you can look for a synergistic ______ alternative.
Third
Howard Gardner a psychologist who teaches at Harvard graduate school of education, proposes nine different types of intelligence and suggest that individuals possess one or more of these attributes
- Spatial.
- Linguistic.
- Logical Matt.
- Kinesthetic .
- Musical.
- Interpersonal.
- Intrapersonal.
- Naturalist.
- Existential.
Five step simple process to synergy
- Define the problem or opportunity.
- their way, seek first to understand the ideas of others
- My way, see to be understood by sharing your ideas.
- Brainstorm, create new options and ideas.
- Highway, find the best solution.
Synergy is the ultimate habit – the accumulation of all previous habits. It is the reward, or the delicious._______, of effective living
Fruit
Habbit seven is personal PC. It’s preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have-you. It’s rewarding the four dimensions of your nature – physical, spiritual, mental, and social emotional.
Read it again
Sharpen the saw basically means expressing all four motivations. It means exercising all four dimensions of our nature, regularly, and consistently and wise and balanced ways.
Read it again
You are considered minimally fit if you can increase your heart rate to at least 100 bpm and keep it at that level for_____ minutes
30
You are considered minimally fit if you can increase your heart rate to at least 100 bpm and keep it at that level for_____ minutes
30
Renewing the spiritual dimension provides leadership to your life. It’s highly related to habit 2. The spiritual dimension is your core, your center, your commitment to your value system.
Read it again
There’s no better way to inform and expand your mind on a regular basis then get into the habit of reading good literature
Read it again
While the physical, spiritual, mental dimensions are closely related to habits 1, 2 and three centered on the principles of personal vision, leadership and management – the social emotional dimensions focus on habits 4, 5 and six – focused on the principles of interpersonal leadership, empathetic, communication, and creative cooperation
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Peace of mind comes when your life is in harmony with true principles and values and in no other way
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Elden Tanner said, service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth.
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Most people are a function of the social mirror, scripted by the opinions, perceptions, and paradigms of the people around them. As interdependent people you and I come from a paradigm that includes the realization that we are part of the social mirror.
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Renewal is the principal – and the process – that empowers us to move on an upward spiral of growth and change, of continuous improvement
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Renewal is the principal – and the process – that empowers us to move on an upward spiral of growth and change, of continuous improvement
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The voice of conscious is so so delicate that it is easy to stifle it: but it is also so clear that is impossible to mistake it.
Mademe de Stael
Moving along, the upward spiral requires us to learn, commit, and do on increasingly higher planes
The upward spiral
A strong intergenerational family is potentially one of the most fruitful, rewarding, and satisfying interdependent relationships.
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Achieving unity – wellness – with ourselves, with our loved ones, with our friends and working associates, is the highest best and most delicious fruit of the seven habits.
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By centering, our lives on correct principles and creating balance focus between doing and increasing our ability to do, we become empowered in the task of creating effective, useful, and peaceful lives, for ourselves and our posterity.
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Paradigms are foundational
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Paradigms are foundational
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three foundational concepts of the seven habits
- Sequence matters.
- Paradigms are foundational.
- We are not in charge – principals are.
10 - Seven habit memes:
Highly effective zombies
Highly overrated people
Highly bitter people
That make you seem less intelligent
Incredibly smart people
Highly lazy people
Highly effective idiots
Highly mediocre entrepreneurs
Fearless people
Highly effective Pirates
Principles are natural laws that are external to us, and that ultimately control the consequences of our actions. Values are internal and subjective and represent that which we feel strongest about in guiding our behavior.
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Interdependence is 10 times more difficult then independence
Interdependence is 10 times more difficult than independence
You can pretty well summarize the first habit with the expression, make, and keep a promise. And you can pretty well summarize the next three habits with the expression, involve others in the problem and work out the solution together.
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Integrity is a higher value than loyalty. Integrity is the highest form of loyalty. Integrity means being integrated or centered on principles, not on people, organizations, or even family. Overtime, integrity produces loyalty.
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Principles are important because principles like fairness, honesty, respect, vision, accountability, and creative cooperation govern our lives. They are in control.
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What does live life crescendo mean?
It means the most important work you will ever do is always ahead of you. You should always be expanding and deepening your commitment to that work. Crescendo is a musical term, it means to play music with ever greater energy and volume, with strength and striving.
Stephen Covey passed away in July 2012. He had nine children and 54 grandchildren
Stephen Covey passed away in July 2012. He had nine children and 54 grandchildren
R.I. stands for resourcefulness and initiative
R.I. stands for resourcefulness and initiative
Stephen Covey’s definition of leadership; leadership is communicating others worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.
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Stephen Covey’s definition of leadership; leadership is communicating others worth and potential so clearly that they are inspired to see it in themselves.
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