How To Win Friends and Influence People Flashcards
Faddish
Fashionable but not likely to stay fashionable for a long time.
Anew
Again or one more time, especially in a different way.
Tamper
To touch or make changes to something that you should not, usually without enough knowledge of how it works or when you are trying to damage it.
To touch or change something without permission or without enough knowledge of how it works.
To touch or make changes to something when you should not, especially when this is illegal
Brash
(Of people) showing too much confidence and too little respect.
(Of clothes) too bright and colourful.
Poise
Behavior or a way of moving that shows calm confidence.
Finesse
Great skill or style.
To deal with a situation or a person in a skilful and often slightly dishonest way.
To improve something so it is the best it can possibly be.
Under the auspices of sb/sth
With the protection or support of someone or something, especially an organization.
Financial success of an engineer
15% due to one’s technical knowledge
85% due to skill in human engineering (personality and ability to lead people)
¿What kind of person is headed for higher earning power?
Those who have the technical knowledge plus the ability to express ideas, to assume leadership and to arouse enthusiasm among people.
Stint
A fixed or limited period of time spent doing a particular job or activity.
To provide, take, or use only a small amount of something.
Belligerence
The wish to fight or argue.
Slate
To attack by criticizing; to write or say that something is very bad
Gush
To flow or send out quickly and in large amounts.
To express a positive feeling, especially praise, in such a strong way that it does not sound sincere.
A large amount of liquid or gas that flows quickly.
A sudden strong and positive feeling, or an expression of positive feeling, usually so strong it does not sound sincere.
In the offing
Likely to happen soon.
Siege
The surrounding of a place by an armed force in order to defeat those defending it.
Necking
To kiss and hold a person in a sexual way.
Kissing someone for a long time.
(UK informal) to drink something, especially alcohol, very quickly.
Prostrate
Lying with the face down and arms stretched out, especially as a sign of respect or worship.
(Very tired) Having lost all strength or all determination because of an illness or an extremely bad experience.
Crumple
To become, or cause something to become, full of folds that are not equal in size.
If someone’s face crumples, it becomes full of lines because of a strong emotion.
If someone crumples, they fall to the ground suddenly.
Warden
The person in charge of a prison.
A person who is in charge of (the people in) a particular building.
The head of a college.
A person whose job is to make certain that members of the public obey particular rules.
Stoutly
In a firm and determined way.
Scold
To speak to someone angrily because you disapprove of their behaviour.
To criticize angrily someone who has done something wrong.
Fretting
Being nervous or worried.
Blunder
A serious mistake, usually caused by not taking care or thinking.
To dawn
To become known or obvious.
Futile
(Of actions) having no effect or achieving nothing.
Achieving no result; not effective or successful.
How do humans learn more rapidly?
By getting rewarded for good instead of punished for bad, because by criticising we do not make lasting changes and often incur resentment.
Engender
To make people have a particular feeling or make a situation start to exist.
To cause something to come into existence.
Sullen
Angry and unwilling to smile or be pleasant to people.
Silent and unpleasant.
Compliance
The act of obeying an order, rule, or request.
The state of being too willing to do what other people want you to do.
Bristling
(Of hair) to stand up.
To react angrily.
Quarrel
An angry disagreement between two or more people or groups.
Stench
A strong, unpleasant smell.
A bad effect that follows an unpleasant event or situation and is noticeable for a long time.
Homing pigeon
a pigeon (= a type of bird) that is trained to return to its home from any place that it starts its journey.
Dismal
Dark and sad, without hope, or very bad.
Lampoon
To criticize a famous person or a public organization in a piece of writing, a drawing, etc., in a humorous way, allowing their or its bad qualities to be seen and making them or it seem stupid.
Sandbar
A long raised area of sand below the surface of the water, especially where a river enters the sea, usually formed by moving currents.
Lurid
(Especially of a description) shocking because involving violence, sex, or immoral activity.
What did Lincoln say in response to the criticisms to the Southern people?
“Don’t criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”
Tantamount to sth
Being almost the same or having the same effect as something, usually something bad
Rebuke
To speak angrily to someone because you disapprove of what they have said or done.
the act of speaking angrily to someone because you disapprove of what they have said or done, or the things that someone says to show disapproval like this.
Hasty
(Too much) speed.
Great speed.
What did Lincoln learn by bitter experience?
That sharp criticisms and rebukes almost invariably end in futility.
Proofreader
A person whose job is to check text before it is printed or put online.
What did Confucius say about judging?
“Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbour’s roof, when your own doorstep is unclean.”
Loom
To appear as a large, often frightening or unclear shape or object.
If an unwanted or unpleasant event looms, it seems likely to happen soon and causes worry.
A piece of equipment for weaving (= making thread into cloth)
Adroit
Very skilful and quick in the way you think or move.
What was the secret of the success of B. Franklin?
“I will speak ill of no man and speak all the good I know of everybody.”
What did Carlyle say about compassion?
“A great man shows his greatness, by the way he treats little men.”
Deft
Skilful, clever, or quick.
What did Dr Johnson say about judging?
“God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days.”
Crude
Simple and not skilfully done or made.
What is the deepest urge in human nature?
The desire to be important.
Gnawing
(Vb.) to bite or chew something repeatedly, usually making a hole in it or gradually destroying it or (adj.) to make you feel worried or uncomfortable
Unfaltering
Never stopping or losing strength; not faltering.
Muslin
A very thin cotton material.
Plunder
To steal goods violently from a place, especially during a war.
To steal or remove something precious from something, in a way that does not consider moral laws or is more severe than it need be.
Viceroy
Someone who represents a king or queen and rules for him or her in another country.
Lustre
The brightness that a shiny surface has.
A very special, attractive quality that people admire.
What do some authorities declare about this feeling of importance?
“That people may actually go insane in order to find the feeling of importance that has been denied them in the harsh world of reality.”
Barkentine
Bergantín
Billowing
To spread over a large area, or (especially of things made of cloth) to become filled with air and appear to be larger.
A large, moving mass of something, such as smoke or cloud, that spreads over a large area.
A large wave.
Mast
A tall pole on a boat or ship that supports its sails.
Mástil.
What words can transform your life is you live them?
“I consider my ability to arouse enthusiasm among my people. The greater asset I possess and the way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement.”
Be loath to do sth
To be unwilling to do something.
Lavish
Large in quantity and expensive or impressive.
Bawl
To shout in a very loud voice.
To cry loudly.
Heaping
Large.
Dazzle
If light dazzles you, it makes you unable to see for a short time.
If you are dazzled by someone or something, you think they are extremely good and exciting.
Gallantry
Polite and kind behaviour towards women, especially when in public. Ser un galán.
Deluge
A very large volume of something, more than can be managed.
A very large amount of rain or water.
To send a very large volume of something to someone.
Deft
Skilful, clever, or quick.
Adroit
Very skilful and quick in the way you think or move.
What are the wise words of the philosophy of General Alvaro Obregon carved in his bust?
“Don’t be afraid of enemies who attack you. Be afraid of friends who flatter you.”
Maxim
A short statement of a general truth, principle, or rule for behaviour.
Proffer
To offer something by holding it out, or to offer advice or an opinion.
Ripple
A ripple is also a sound or feeling that is slight but is noticed.
A small wave on the surface of water.
A sound or feeling that spreads through a person or group of people, gradually increasing and then becoming smaller.,
Plain ice cream with thin lines of other flavours in it.
What did Ralph Waldo Emerson say about appreciation?
“Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.”
Bait
A small amount of food on a hook (= curved piece of wire) or in a special device used to attract and catch a fish or animal.
What is the only way to influence people?
“Talk about what they want and show them how to get it.”
Predicament
An unpleasant situation that is difficult to get out of.
According to Harry A. Overstreet what is the best piece of advice which can be given to would-be persuaders?
“Arouse in the other person an eager want. He Who Can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who Cannot Walks a Lonely Way.”
Frantic
Almost out of control because of extreme emotion, such as worry.
Wager
An amount of money that you risk in the hope of winning more, by trying to guess something uncertain, or the agreement that you make to take this risk.
Muster
To produce or encourage something such as an emotion or support.
Heedlessly
In a way that does not give attention to a risk or possible difficulty.
Sputter
To make several quick explosive sounds.
What is THAT secret of success?
“It lies in the ability to get in the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”
Foreclosing
(Especially of banks) to take back property that was bought with borrowed money because the money was not being paid back as formally agreed.
Mortgage
An agreement that allows you to borrow money from a bank or similar organization, especially in order to buy a house, or the amount of money itself.
Hollyhocks
A garden plant that has very tall stems covered with brightly coloured flowers.
Bulwark
Something that protects you from dangerous or unpleasant situations.
Gall
Rudeness and the quality of being unable to understand that your behaviour or what you say is not acceptable to other people.
Freight
Goods, but not passengers, that are carried from one place to another, by ship, aircraft, train, or truck, or the system of transporting these goods.
Stucco
A type of plaster used for covering walls and ceilings, especially one that can be formed into decorative patterns.
Lath
A long, thin, flat strip of wood, used to make a structure to support plaster on walls or tiles on the roof of a building.
Wallop
To hit someone hard, especially with the flat part of the hand or with something held in the hand.
Wag
(Especially of a tail or finger) to move from side to side or up and down, especially quickly and repeatedly, or to cause this to happen.
Ulterior motive
A secret purpose or reason for doing something.
Steadfastly
Strongly and without stopping.
Sheer
Used to emphasize how very great, important, or powerful a quality or feeling is; nothing except.
What is the famous statement from Alfred Adler that he wrote on “What Life Could Mean To You”?
“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”
Dean
An official of high rank in a college or university who is responsible for the organization of a department or departments.
Hobo
Someone who does not have a job or a house and who moves from one place to another.
Legerdemain
Skilful hiding of the truth in order to trick people.
Skilful tricks done as part of a performance.
Idle
Not working or being used.
Fiddler
A violin player.
Valet
Someone in a hotel who cleans clothes.
Someone at a hotel or restaurant who puts your car in a parking space for you.
The personal male servant of a rich man, especially in the past.
Bobwhite
Codorniz de Virginia
Scullery
Especially in a large old house, a room next to the kitchen where pans are washed and vegetables are prepared for cooking.
Usher
To show someone where they should go, or to make someone go where you want them to go.
Acomodador.
Barren
Unable to produce plants or fruit.
Unable to have children or young animals.
Not creating or producing anything new.
Fondle
To touch gently and in a loving way, or to touch in a sexual way.
Haul
To pull something heavy slowly and with difficulty.
To take something or someone somewhere, especially by force.
A usually large amount of something that has been stolen or is illegal.
What did the Roman poet Publilius Syrus say?
“We are interested in others when they are interested in us.”
Welfare
(Social security) a system of payments made by the government to people who are ill, poor, or who have no job.
Ward
One of the parts or large rooms into which a hospital is divided, usually with beds for patients.
One of the parts into which a prison is divided.
Convalescence
The process or period of resting in order to get better after an illness or operation.
Squander
To waste money or supplies, or to waste opportunities by not using them to your advantage.
To waste large amounts of money or other resources.
Glum
Disappointed or unhappy, and quiet.
Sad and discouraged.
If a place is glum, it is not attractive and has nothing that causes pleasure.
Inoculate
To give a weak form of a disease to a person or animal, usually by injection, as a protection against that disease.
To give a person or animal a vaccine (= substance to prevent disease).
Distraught
Extremely worried, anxious, nervous, or upset.
Grin
A wide smile.
What did Professor James V. McConnell the psychologist express about a smile?
“People who smile, tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.”
Bewilder
To confuse someone.
Elated
Extremely happy and excited, often because something has happened or been achieved.
What did Shakespeare say about attitude?
“There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
What did Abe Lincoln say about attitude?
“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Gaiety
Happiness and excitement.
Comradeship
The feeling of friendship between people who live or work together, especially in a difficult situation.
Peruse
To read through something, especially in order to find the part you are interested in.
To read or look at something in a relaxed way.
Peruse can also mean to read carefully in a detailed way.
Utmost
Used to emphasize how important or serious something is.
Veere
To change direction.
Handclasp
Grasping and shaking a person’s hand (as to acknowledge an introduction or to agree on a contract) handshake, handshaking, shake. contract - a binding agreement between two or more persons that is enforceable by law.
Countersign
To write your name on a document that already has the signature (= name written) of another person, especially in order to show that you are certain that the first person is who they say they are.
To sign an important document that someone else has already signed, in order to make it able to be accepted.
Hitch up
If you hitch up a vehicle, you connect it so that it can be pulled, and if you hitch up an animal to a vehicle, you connect it so that it can pull the vehicle.
To pull something, especially trousers or a skirt, upwards to a slightly higher position.
Wheeling
To push an object that has wheels so that it moves in a particular direction.
To fly repeatedly in a circular pattern.
To turn round quickly.
Flair
Natural ability to do something well.
A situation in which something is done in an exciting and interesting way.
Gypsum
A hard, white substance that is used in making plaster of Paris.
Scathing
Criticizing someone or something in a severe and unkind way.
Severely critical and unkind.
Blunder
A serious mistake, usually caused by not taking care or thinking.
To move in an awkward way.
To buck
To oppose or refuse to go along with something.
Indelibly
In a way that is impossible to remove by washing or in any other way.
In a way that is impossible to forget, or that has a permanent influence or effect.
(Indeleble)
Upholstery
The cloth used for covering a seat and/or the substance used for filling it.
Chap
A man.
Perfunctory
Done quickly, without taking care or interest.
Petty
Not important and not worth giving attention to.
Complaining too much about things that are not important.
Small or of little importance.
Selfish and mean, esp. because of having too much interest in small and unimportant matters.
Rapt
Giving complete attention, or showing complete involvement, or (of attention) complete.
Extremely happy or excited.
Patronage
The support given to an organization by someone.
The power of a person to give someone an important job or position.
Subdue
Vo reduce the force of something, or to prevent something from existing or developing.
Irate
Very angry.
Rave
To speak in an uncontrolled way, usually because you are upset or angry, or because you are ill.
Stormy petrel
A person who delights in conflict or attracts controversy.
Cantankerous
Arguing and complaining a lot.
Tirade
A long, angry speech expressing strong disapproval.
Grievance
A complaint or a strong feeling that you have been treated unfairly.
Callous
Unkind, cruel, and without sympathy or feeling for other people.
Woollen
Made of wool.
Simmer down
To become less angry or excited about something.
Trifle
Slightly or to a small degree
Scrap
To not continue with a system or plan.
To get rid of something that is no longer useful or wanted, often using its parts in new ways.
Old cars and machines or pieces of metal, etc. that are not now needed but have parts that can be used to make other things.
To have a fight or an argument.
Stray
To travel along a route that was not originally intended, or to move outside a limited area.
To start thinking or talking about a different subject from the one you should be giving attention to.
A pet that no longer has a home or cannot find its home.
Stray things have moved apart from similar things and are not in their expected or intended place.
Stray also means happening by chance and lacking direction.
Carfare
The money paid by a passenger for travelling in a bus, taxi, etc.
Imbue
To fill something or someone with a quality or feeling.
Skirmish
A fight between a small number of soldiers that is usually short and not planned, and happens away from the main area of fighting in a war.
Jamboree
A large organized event that many people go to, or a busy, noisy occasion or period.
A large social gathering.
Stern
Severe, or showing disapproval.
If something, such as a job, is stern, it is difficult.
The back part of a ship or boat.
A person’s bottom.
Ace
One of the four playing cards with a single mark or spot. The ace has the highest or lowest value in many card games.
A person who is very skilled at something.
In tennis, a serve (= a hit of the ball that starts play) that is so strong and fast that the other player cannot return the ball.
To do very well in an exam.
Excellent.
Active Corps of Executives: an organization in the US that consists of working executives who give free help and advice to small businesses.
Rough-hewn
A rough-hewn material, such as wood or stone, has been shaped, but not given a smooth surface.
If someone’s character or behaviour is rough-hewn, they do not seem very polite.
Looking not finished or not smooth.
Not very polite and having a lack of grace and style.
Inveterate
Someone who does something very often and cannot stop doing it.
Done as a habit and not likely to change
Scrap
To not continue with a system or plan.
To get rid of something that is no longer useful or wanted, often using its parts in new ways.
Old cars and machines or pieces of metal, etc. that are not now needed but have parts that can be used to make other things.
A small piece of something or a small amount of information.
A fight or argument, especially a quick, noisy one about something not important:.
What did Benjamin Franklin say about asrguing?
“If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory, because you will never get your opponent’s good will.”
Doggerel
Poetry that is silly or badly written.
Wrangle
An argument, especially one that continues for a long time.
To argue with someone about something, especially for a long time.
Stake
A share or a financial involvement in something such as a business.
:If you have a stake in something, it is important to you because you have a personal interest or involvement in it.
Vitiation
The act of nullifying; making null and void; counteracting or overriding the effect or force of something.
What did opera tenor Jan Peerce say about arguing?
“When one yells, the other should listen—because when two people yell, there is no communication, just noise and bad vibrations.”
Hurl
To throw something with a lot of force, usually in an angry or violent way.
(To hurl at sb.) to shout insults or rude language at someone angrily.
Blighted
Something that spoils or has a very bad effect on something, often for a long time.
To spoil something.
A blight is also any of various deadly diseases in plants.
Heedless
Not giving attention to a risk or possible difficulty.
Shabby
Looking old and in bad condition because of being used for a long time or not being cared for.
Drapery
Cloth hanging or arranged in folds.
Cloth, pins, thread, etc. used for sewing.
Umpire
A person who is present at a sports competition in order to make certain that the rules of that particular game are obeyed and to judge if particular actions are acceptable.
