Final Exam Flashcards
Intimacy
a connection between two people that includes psychological, emotional, and behavioral bonds
Components of Intimacy
closeness, openness, trust, affection, mutuality
Closeness
a feeling of union between two people that emerges when people spend time together and influence one another’s actions and beliefs
Openness
our willingness to reveal private information about ourselves to a relationship partner through self disclosure
Trust
the feeling that a relationship partner will keep us safe and protect us from harm
Affection
the positive feelings that we have for another person that we communicate through our actions with that person
Mutuality
when both partners in a relationship acknowledge and value the bond that exists between them
Johnson’s Conceptualization of Commitment
have to (no alternatives, can’t leave), ought to (moral obligation, other’s expectations), want to (emotional desire for partner)
Love Styles- Eros
love characterized by beauty and sexuality
Love Style- Ludus
love characterized as a game that is entertaining and exciting
Love Styles- Storge
love characterized as peaceful and grounded in friendship
Relational Dialectics
autonomy v. connection, novelty v. predictability, openness v. closedness
Love Languages (Chapman’s work)
words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch
Relational Maintenance Behaviors
the actions people take to keep their relationship in a desired state
Friendships Across the Lifespan
early childhood, middle childhood, adolescence, early/middle adulthood, older adulthood
Goals
end-states or outcomes that a person seeks to achieve or maintain
Primary Goal
the influence goal that motivates the interaction
Secondary Goals
considerations other than the primary goal that arise during interpersonal influence interactions and shape communication strategies
Options for Pursuing Multiple Goals
prioritize, pursue goals in sequence, pursue all goals simultaneously
Politeness Theory
a set of assumptions about how intimacy and power are related to the use of more or less polite influence messages
Positive Face
the desire to be well-liked and admired by others
Negative Face
the desire to be autonomous and unconstrained
Face Threatening Act
a request for compliance that violates one’s positive or negative face
Types of Power
coercive, legitimate, referent, expert, reward
Coercive Power
the ability to use threats and punishment to gain compliance
Reward Power
the ability to use incentives to gain compliance
Legitimate Power
the degree of power gained by one’s position or title
Referent Power
the extent to which individuals are well-liked and admired
Expert Power
the extent to which individuals have information, knowledge, and expertise on a given topic
Types of Influence Goals
gain assistance, give advice, change orientation, obtain permission, enforce rights + obligations
Characteristics of Compliance-Seeking Messages
explicitness, dominance, argument
Explicitness
the degree to which a message clearly reveals the speaker’s intentions
Dominance
the extent to which a speaker expresses power through the form and content of an influence message
Argument
the degree to which reasons are given for complying with a request
Politeness Strategies
bald-on-record, positive politeness, negative politeness
Bald-On-Record Strategy
used to straightforwardly address the other person or the hearer to express the speakers needs
Positive Politeness Strategy
intended to avoid giving offense by highlighting friendliness, seeks to minimize threat to the hearer’s positive face, seeks to make hearer feel good about themselves
Negative Politeness Strategy
oriented towards the hearer’s negative face, emphasizes avoidance of imposition on hearer
Criteria Defining Conflict
interdependence, perceived incompatible goals, interference, negative emotions