Final Exam(Chpaters2-3 and extra handouts) Flashcards
The most important questions - from either side of the pastor’s desk - are those that clarify ____________?
Expectations.
The relationship between associates and senior pastors has a lot of parallels to the ________ ____________.
Marriage Relationship.
_____________ is required to avoid issues with differing expectations.
Communication.
Unfortunately, most of our expectations aren’t clear even to us until they’ve been ____________. We don’t recognize or give attention to them until we have a frame of reference, with comes with __________.
Disappointed - Experience
It’s time to leave (your church position) when you can no longer be your pastor’s ___________! Joseph Linn (an arranger and long-time music minister)
Cheerleader.
Like a ________, a church staff relationship must be based on _____.
Marriage - Trust.
What two things are the glue that holds a staff together?
Trust and Mutual Respect.
Regardless of how it feels, it is what we do with _________ that counts.
Criticism.
Name the 3 options available to us when we are having relationship problems.
Whatever opinion you choose, do it carefully and prayerfully. God will give you the grace–and that’s a promise!
- To Confront(without being confrontational.)
- To Stay Put.
- To Leave.
For most people, nothing is more emotionally transparent than the _____.
Voice.
One of the most rewarding things that I have experienced in my ministry is to see someone with little __________ begin to grow musically. I never want it to be said of me that “I didn’t give someone a ______.”
Experience - Chance.
Cultivating excellence in music is a worthy goal, but it must not take __________ over the ______ who make the music
Precedence - People.
Unfortunately the same climate that cultivates musical excellence is also a hothouse for _______________, _____ and _____________ _________.
Competitiveness - Pride - Temperamental Attitudes.
“People need people who _______ in them, _____ them, and ______ much of them.” - Richard L. Evans
Believe - Trust - Expect.
The challenge when dealing with people-related problems is to correct the problems without __________ the person.
Alienating.
Remember, we never have the right to publicly _________ someone in order to curb their undesirable behavior.
Embarrass.
“If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you.” (Matthew 18:15)
I would suggest memorizing this, or at the very least remember the line “just between the two of you”
Staying out of the middle.
- Recognize _____________ games.
- Pray for ______.
- Know where your _________ lie.
- _________ face-to-face discussion.
Psychological - Wisdom - Loyalties - Encourage.
Always, ____ about the situation.
Pray.
“When attacked by a ______, do not become one.” Marshall Shelley
Dragon.
_______ is always necessary when confronting.
Privacy.
It’s ______ to live with the regret of what you neglected to say than with the regret of what you did say.
Easier.
When you have to confront.
- Realize that ______ is important.
- Understand that _______ is necessary.
- _____ through the problem.
- Begin with a ________ statement.
- ______ to the other person.
- Be ________.
- _____ respond in kind.
- Timing.
- Privacy.
- Think.
- Positive.
- Listen.
- Specific.
- Don’t.
“A cheerful heart is good medicine.” (Proverbs 17:22)
Memorize
When leaving your job… Don’t burn _______.
Bridges.
Most companies remember not for why they left –but ___ they left.
How.
You can’t expect to be valuable employee if you don’t make yourself ________.
Valuable.
“Nearly all man can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him _____.” - Abraham Lincoln
Power.
