Final Exam Flashcards
What is a goal?
A future state of affair that we want to attain or maintain
Primary goal
Defines what a communicator is doing
Secondary goal
Shapes how primary goals are pursued
3 Types of Goals
Identity / Relational / Instrumental
Identity Goals
: self - presentation goals
: presenting an image
: preserving the other person’s image
Relational Goals
developing and / or maintaining relationships
Instrumental Goals
: completing tasks, getting things done
: aka to - do lists
Cognitive Complexity
when we have multiple competing goals to manage
Greater Cognitive Complexity
: higher level of interpersonal construct differentiation
: greater awareness of multiple goals
: leads to production of more sophisticated messages
Complex Situations
“Difficult Conversations”
ex: talking friend into getting HIV test
ex: telling someone to improve their behavior
ex: telling your brother to rethink dating his girlfriend
Potential Strategies for Managing Goals
Selection (least sophisticated)
Separation (mid-sophistication)
Integration (most sophisticated)
Selection
picking one goal and going with it
ex: “Hey, next week, could you please not tell that story about when you hitchhiked to Waco?”
Separation
addressing each goal in separate parts of the message
ex: “You know I think your stories are hysterical. My parents have a different sense of humor, though. I wouldn’t bring up anything that could remotely be constructed as raunchy or embarrassing, if I were you”
Integration
addressing multiple goals simultaneously
ex: “I think my family is going to have a great time with you next week, because you are a ton of fun. You should remember to tell them about your internship because they love hearing about the positive things you’ve been doing with your time lately.”
Plans
Presenting actions necessary for accomplishing goals
Planning
Psychological and communicative processes involved in carrying out plans (implementing, modifying & negotiating plans)
Types of Knowledge for pre-conversational plans
Specific Episodes, Hypothetical Episodes, Ensembles of Episodes, Role Models, Instruction & Previous Plan
Specific Episodes
Drawing from actual conversations you have had before
Hypothetical Episodes
Imagining you had this conversation before (practicing it)
Ensembles of Episodes
Take bits and pieces of specific / hypothetical episodes and patch them together for a new plan
Role Models
Think of people you admire (they are good communicators)
Instruction
Formal, educational instruction on persuasion
Previous Plan
Script that you follow (girl scouts cookies selling)
Elements of Pre-Negotiation Plans
Logrolling (quid pro quo), Impression Management, Argumentation, Distributive Bargaining, Setting Limits, & Reactivity
Logrolling
“This or That”
ask for something / offer something else in return
Impression Management
How you want to be seen during your communication
using identity, relational, structural goals
Argumentation
Developing high quality arguments and reasoning
Distributive Bargaining
Unequal exchange
“Ask for this much but negotiate to get that much”
Setting Limits
What am I really willing to throw out?
Reactivity
Not reactance
Monitoring someone else’s reaction and varying strategy depending on how receptive they are
Message Design Logics (MDL)
A theory of individual differences in message production
3 types of Design Logics
Expressive, Conventional & Rhetorical
Expressive Design Logic
(least sophisticated)
“Communication is a medium for expressing feelings
values = clarity, openness, honesty, unimpeded expression
goal = self expression
Conventional Design Logic
(mid-sophistication)
“Communication is a game played cooperatively by social rules”
values = appropriateness, control of resources, cooperativeness
goal = secure desired response
Rhetorical Design Logic
(most sophisticated)
“Communication is the creation and negotiation of social selves and situations”
values = flexibility, symbolic sophistication, depth of interpretation
goal = negotiate social consensus
What MDL works the best?
Rhetorical are the most effective (most personal / person-centered)
Expressives can find _____ messages really frustrating, confusing and ambiguous.
Rhetorical
Dilemmas of Advice
1) Advice Giving
- Being Helpful and Caring vs. Butting In
2) Advice Giving
- Being Supportive vs. Being Honest
3) Advice Receiving
- Showing Gratitude and Respect vs. Making Own Decisions
Dilemma #1 : Being Helpful and Caring vs. Butting In
On the one hand … Showing concern
On the other hand … Being nosy / implying incompetence
Dilemma #2 : Being Supportive vs. Being Honest
On the one hand … People say that they want honest advice
On the other hand … Sometimes people really want validation
Dilemma #3 : Showing Gratitude and Respect vs. Making Own Decision
On the one hand … giving up autonomy
On the other hand … Seeming disrespectful and ungrateful
Face
“The positive social value a person effectively claims for himself by the line others assume he has taken during a particular contact. Face is an image of self delineated in terms of approved social attributes.”
Negative Face
the want to be unimpeded (autonomy)