Final Exam 11/21 Flashcards
Love
a special kind of attitude, with strong emotional and behavioral components. It is also a phenomenon that eludes easy definition or explanation
Passionate love
aka romantic love or infatuation, is a state of extreme absorption with and desire for another. It is characterized by feelings of tenderness, elation, anxiety, sexual desire, and ecstasy. It is often short-lived
Companionate Love
a less intense emotion than passionate love, it is characterized by friendly affection and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with the loved one.
3 dimensions of Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love
- Passion
- Intimacy
- commitment
Passion
the motivational component of Sternbergs TTL. tends to develop rapidly and intensely in the early stages of a love relationship and then declines as the relationship progresses
intimacy
the emotional component of Sternbergs TTL. continues to build overtime at different rates
commitment
the thinking component of Sternbergs TTL. continues to build overtime at different rates
Non-love
the absence of all 3 components of Sternbergs TTL
Lee’s 6 styles of loving
- romantic
- game-playing
- possessive
- companionate
- altruistic
- pragmatic
Romantic love style (eros)
tend to place their emphasis on physical beauty as they search for ideal mates
Game-playing love style (ludus)
like to play the field and acquire many sexual “conquests” with little or no commitment
possessive love style (mania)
tend to seek obsessive love relationships, which are often characterized by turmoil and jealousy
companionate love style (storge)
are slow to develop affection and commitment but tend to experience relationships that endure
altruistic love stype (agape)
characterized by selflessness and caring, compassionate desire to give to another w/o expectation of reciprocity
pragmatic love style (pragma)
tend to select lovers based on rational, practical criteria that are likely to lead to mutual satisfation
neurotransmitters
chemicals that wllos brain cells to communicate with each other and are chemically similar to amphetamines and produce similar effects like euphoria, giddiness, and elation
endorphins
another set of neurotransmitters that are pain-blunting chemicals and are soothing substances that help produce a sense of euphoria, security, tranquility, and peace
Oxytocin
secreted by the hypothalamus during cuddling and physical intimacy plays an important role in facilitating social attachment and in fostering feelings of being loved
proximity
the geographic nearness of one person to another, which is an important factor in inter-personal attraction
mere exposure effect
a phenomenon in which repeated exposure to novel stimuli tends to increase an individual’s liking for such stimuli
similiarity
shared beliefs, interest, and values which is a factor in attracting people to one another
homophily
the tendacy to form relationships with people of similar or equal status in various social and personal attributes
reciprocity
the principle that when we are recipients of expressions of liking or loving, we tend to respond in kind
physical attractiveness
physical beauty, which is a powerful factor in attracting lovers with one another
attachment
intense emotional tie between 2 individuals, such as an infant and a parent or adult lovers
securely attached
best equipped to establish stable and satisfying relationships. These individuals find it easy to get close to others and feel comfortable with others ebing close to them, They feel secure in relationships and do not fear being abandoned. relationship duration avg 10 yrs
anxious-ambivalent attached
often have poor self-image and feel insecure in relationships. these indiv. might want to get close to a partner very much but fear that their partner does not want to get close to them. characterized by rollercoaster emotional shifts and obsessive sexual attraction and jealousy. relationship duration avg 5 yrs
avoidant
very uncomfortable being close to others. worry about being dependent on another and distrustful of someone depending on them. fear intimacy and experience emotional shifts from highs to lows.relationship duration avg 6 yrs
hook-ups
short-term, loveless sexual liasons that occur during a brief interval
friends with benefits
sexual interaction between friends who do not define their relationship as romantic
jealousy
an aversive emotional reaction evoked by a real or imagined relationship involving one’s partner and a third person
Ingredients commonly present in a lasting love relationship
- self acceptance
- acceptance of one’s partner
- appreciation of one another
- commitment
- good communication
- realistic expectations
- shared interests
- equality in decision making
- the ability to face conflict effectively
How to talk about sex (7 ways)
- talk about why it is hard to talk about it
- reading and discussing
- sharing sexual histories
- be an active listener
- maintain eye contact
- provide feedback
- support your partner’s communication efforts
- express unconditional positive regard
5 Strategies for Expressing Complaints
- choose the right time and place
- temper complaints with praise
- avoid why questions
- express negative emotions appropriately
- limit complaints to one per discussion
4 Ways to Receive Complaints
- acknowledge a complaint and find something to agree with
- ask clarifying questions
- express your feelings
- focus on future changes you can make
celibate
a physically mature person who does not engage in sexual behavior
Erotic Waking Fantasies
commonly occure during daydreams, masturbation, or sexual encounters with a partner