Final Flashcards
Harvest Principle
Galatians 6:7-8
Take every thought captive
2 Corinthians 10:3-5
Anxiousness
Philippians 4:6
Incarnating Christ in Personal Ministry
Colossians 3:12-17
Listening
Proverbs 18:13
Confrontation
Leviticus 19:18
Forgiveness
Matthew 18
Love in Biblical Counseling
Philippians 1:9-11
Model For Biblical Counseling
Luke 10:25-27
A Model for personal Ministry
Matthew 9:35-36
Fear of Man
Proverbs 29:25
Idols of the heart
Ezekiel 14:1-8
Agenda setting; Say yes and no to things
Titus 2:11-12
Put on put off principle
Ephesians 4 and Colossians 4
Speaking truth in love
Ephesians 4:15
What does “solver” stand for?
Squared shoulders Open stance Lean forward slightly Vocal quality Eye contact Relational posture
What am I trying to accomplish in listening?
I’ve heard and understand their struggle
What kind of data are you searching for?
Physical data Resources Emotions Actions Worldview Historical data
What are the principles in avoiding assumptions?
- Ask people to define their terms
- Ask people to clarify with concrete, real life examples
- Ask people to explain why they responded the way they did
What are seven ways you can show respect to the counselee?
- Use proper verbal communication
- Use proper nonverbal communication
- Take counselee’s problems seriously
- Believe the Counselee
- Express confidence in counselee
- Welcome counselee’s input
- Maintain confidentiality
What are the characteristics of confrontation?
• Characteristics
o Confrontation is rooted in the First Great Commandment
o Confrontation is rooted in the Second Great Commandment
o Confrontation does not force a person to deal with you, but places them before the Lord.
What are the steps to confrontation?
o Consideration – What does this person need to see and how can I help him see it?
o Self-Examination
o Lovingly confront sin
o Lead to restoration
Why is it necessary that we confront?
o The deceitfulness of sin
o Wrong and unbiblical thinking
o Emotional thinking
o My own experiences
What is confrontation rooted in?
Rooted in first and second great commandment to love God and your neighbor
What are the benefits of accountability?
i. It provides structure.
ii. It provides guidance.
iii. It provides assistance.
iv. It gives encouragement.
v. It is warning
What are the four promises I make when I forgive?
- I cancel the debt you owe me.
- I will not bring up this offense again to you or use it against you.
- I will not bring up this offense to others through gossip or use it to malign you in public or private.
- I will not bring up the offense to myself and dwell on this offense
What are the twin principles of forgiveness?
Truth and love
What is a biblical definition of love?
A selfless and enduring commitment of the will to care about and benefit another person by righteous, truthful, and compassionate thoughts, words, and actions
What are the implications of love in our personal ministry?
- God has a higher goal for our relationships than our personal happiness.
- God wants our relationships to be the context of change he works in & through us.
- We need to build relationships that encourage this work of change.
- We need to become better lovers in the biblical sense of the term.
What is the four step process of biblical love?
Love. Know Speak. Do.
What are the twin themes of scripture?
Grace and Truth
Why is the incarnation our model in personal ministry?
- It is protection for you
- It offers a living example
- It gives evidence of what the Lord can do
- It keeps Christ central
What are the four G’s of peacemaking?
Glorify God
Get the log out of your own eye
Go and show your brother his fault
Go and be reconciled
What are the goals of leading?
The gospel
i. Lead CSE to understand his real need
ii. Lead CSE to true repentance
iii. Lead CSE to experience freedom from sin
iv. Lead CSE to commit his life to Christ
v. Lead CSE to obey Christ’s commands
vi. Lead CSE to grow in faith
What are four different desires we may hold?
Evil
Inordinate
Subordinate
Holy
Why should we be interested in someone’s situation?
- To develop compassion toward him
- To develop an understanding of what is functionally ruling his heart
- To develop a wise agenda for change that matches his problem
- To develop hope in the counselee that God is in the circumstance
How do I identify my ruling desires?
- What must I have right now in order for life to be good?
- What do I think I need? Or what do I want?
- What exactly is it that I am willing to break relationship with you for if I do not get it?
- What must be in my life in order for me to be satisfied?
What is the principle of inescapable influence?
Whatever rules the heart exercises inescapable influence over the person’s life and behavior.
What is the principle of change?
As a person moves closer to God through His love – which includes both mercy and truth and is expressed through His word and through his Holy Spirit – he will change in the areas of thoughts, emotions, and actions.
