final Flashcards
Primary sex characterstics
biological differences that men and women are born with
secondary sex characterstics
biological difference that adapt over time ie. deep voice
gender=no biological dif
proximity
liking people who are near you
- may signal familiarity and/or similarity
- close to partner more rewarding
sociosexual orientation
biological difference that adapt over time ie. deep voice
6 characteristics of intimacy
knowledge, caring, interdependence, mutuality, trust, commitment
tertiary sex characterstics
behavioral dif
behavioral confirmination
behavior towards partner matches their specific relationship beliefs & values
- respond to partners lateness w/ a similar or accusing ?
- partner behavior w/ their partner will likely respond in accordance to partner’s behavior self-filling prophesy
perceptional confirmination
partner behaves in ambiguous ways, they use their specific relationship beliefs & values to interpret the behavior
-rejection sensitivity & relationship beliefs/expectations
demand/withdrawel
1 partner wants a change & pushes the other for discussion on the topic, the partner does not respond (women want change, 1 partner wants more than other)
-partner A disengages b/c parner b demand (polarized)
misattraction
people meet in a situation where their heart rates increase each person may feel the arousal was caused by the other person, finding the person more attractive
reciprocity
liking people who like us, judgement on how likely it is that someone will like us in return matters for overall appeal
balance theory
balance theory
people desire consistency among their thoughts, feelings, and social responsiblity
sexual attraction
potential intimate partner
attraction
positive feelings about someone
primary appraisals
noticing the conflict & determining whether there is any threat posed by it
secondary appraisals
understanding why the conflict is occurring
involves self blame
Public health model
help couples before distressed
- primary prevention
- secondary prevention
primary prevention
help couples before have difficulties
secondary prevention
help couples before their problems b/c worse
clinical health model
helping couples once they are distressed
stress spillover
stress from one area of someones life impacts the other
stress crossover
stress 1 partner faces has an impact on the other
- most common in high satisfying relationships
efficacy study
randomly assigned to a control group or type of therapy
effectiveness study
study of therapy outcomes- examined in a more natural setting (clinical office)
can therapy work
- couples who went to therapy tend to function better than couples who didn’t
- 1/2 of couples who went remained distress
- unclear how long changes will last
- dif. types of therapy have same level of efficacy
percent of cohabiting relationship ending in 5 years
90%
percent of married couples who live together before marriage
50%
phases of forgiveness
impact, meaning, moving on
impact
victim absorbs what happened & how the trans gressor acted
meaning
tries to find an explanations for the transgression
social penetration theory
more topics greater depth
self serving bias
relationship conflict, each partner feel that they deserve credit for positive outcomes & should not be blamed for neg. outcomes
-credit for success, blame external factors for failures
adaptive attributes
explanations we use to understand each other’s behavior
-links specific explanation to a broader cause
locus
location of the cause of a behavior
internal/external
stability
duration of the cause of a behavior
temporary or continual
stable/ internal
partner is late because he is a jerk
stable/ external
partner was late b/c his crappy car broke down
temporary/internal
late b/c he forgot to set his alarm
temporary/external
late b/c he got stuck in traffic
attributions and satisfaction
satisfied couples tend to give each other credit for positive behaviors excuse each other for negative ones
flexible standards
alter the relationship standards based on how partner behaves
-helps us preserve positive feelings about our relationship, as partner changes overtime and no longer meets our standards.
destiny beliefs
assume that 2 people are destined to be together, take inflexible view of relationships
growth beliefs
good relationships develop gradually are partners work to overcome challenges, with enough effort, any relationship can succeed.
romantic love
intimacy and passion
infatuation
passion only
fatuous love
passion adn commitment
empty love
commitment alone
companionate love
intimacy and commitment
liking
intimacy alone
consummate love
intimacy, passion, commitment
dependent vaiables
outcome researcher wants to understand
attachment theory
looks at primary caregiver and how experiences in early childhood shape the course of adult development,
-dev. an attachment behavior system that seeks to mex. felt security
secure
easy to get emotionally close to someone. comfortable showing and receiving afftection
