FINAL Flashcards
There is a time in the life of every problem when it is big enough to ____ and still small enough to _____.
See, handle
Don’t outsmart your ____ _____
Common Sense
Stay under the _______ of the authority under which the Lord has put you
Umbrella
Learn your families: Communicate using the ______ method
correct
______ records should always follow telephone or face to face conferences
Written
Get feedback: communication is a _________ ________
Two-way street
Stay calm. Don’t ____ or _____
freak or freeze
Take charge. Do ______
something
Don’t be a _____. Don’t operate on the basis of crisis
fireman
Realize you must be able to ____ a decision
make
You must be able to ___ ____ your decision
live with
Most of the time, ____ decision is better than ____ decision
any, no
The teacher is an equal; a friend and companion to students
Existentialism
method is learning by doing
Progressivism/Pragmatism
education is the primary agency for radical change
Reconstructionism
No pressure, manipulation or regimentation
Existentialism
Methods: whatever encourages individuality and creativity
Existentialism
The teacher is a behavioral technician who carries out the modification plan
Behaviorism
Methods: each step is supported by positive reinforcement
Behaviorism
The teacher is a helper, guide, discussion leader, organizer of group experiences.
Progressivism/Pragmatism
Roots in Darwinian Evolution; Horace Mann
Progressivism/Pragmatism
You have some basic philosophical problems if you:
Believe ______ is a good substitute for intelligence
emotion
You have some basic philosophical problems if you:
Have misconceptions about ________
discipline
You have some basic philosophical problems if you:
Fail to plan ______
minutely
God created it all: the seen and the unseen exist together
Christian view of Metaphysics
The study of correct reasoning
Logic
What is beauty
Aesthetics
Deals with what is right and good and how it is determined
Ethics
Art must reflect God’s truth and His order
Christian view of Aesthetics
Deals with what is real
Metaphysics
The guaranteed premise for all thought is based on God’s unchanging Word
Christian view of logical
Reconstructionist believes education is the primary agency for what
Schools changing society
What is the goal of Modern Sociology
to improve the human species
Alarming trends of modern secular education:
The _____ of the Bible from society
Retraction
Alarming trends of modern secular education:
The _____ of the only concrete and personal revelation of God in Jesus Christ
Rejection
The _____ against the holy and moral regulations of the universe as found in the Bible
Rebellion
The ______ to accept or recognize the validity of religious knowledge and experience.
Refusal
The _____ of the dignity and worth of man as a being created by God.
Removal
Repetitive, boring, often ineffective
Behaviorism
Hostility towards Judeo-Christian values, morality
Progressivism/Pragmatism
Emphasis on manipulation and loss of individual freedom
Behaviorism
Blatantly interferes with parent rights and obligations
Reconstructionism
Neglects basic skills and content
Reconstructionism
Believe humans are basically good, curriculum is used to indoctrinate
Progressivism/Pragmatism
“Do your own thing” can be harmful to the individual and society
Existentialism
Hurts rather than helps the individual because accomplishment
Existentialism
Indoctrinates gullible youth
Reconstructionism
Positive of Progressivism
Children are active learners
Positive of Reconstructionism
Exciting activities
Positive of Behvaviorism
helpful to those mentally and developmentally handicapped
Philosophy is the system…
of values in which we live
Philosphy is defined as…
the love of wisdom
Philosophy at it’s heart is
a quest for truth
Epistemology-
Believes God revealed Himself through inspired people or an inspired book
Revelation
Epistemology-
Stresses observation and experience
Empiricism
Epistemology-
Believes the mind must interpret what the senses tell us
Rationalism
The Christian must base his philosophy on the right foundation which is:
the _____, authenticity, and reliability of the Bible as the complete and final revelation
Authority
The Christian must base his philosophy on the right foundation which is:
A ______ commitment to Jesus Christ on the part of all who are involved in the educational processes.
Personal
There are none so blind as those who _______ to see
choose not
The moral principles of the Bible teach us that there are distinctions between _____ and _____ and that among other things the ______ is not to be blamed for man’s sin.
Right, Wrong, Environment
Some clearly defined goals and objectives found in the Bible are:
The _______ of unbelievers
salvation
Some clearly defined goals and objectives found in the Bible are:
The _________ of believers in doctrine and practice.
Maturing
The most serious kind of blindness
Spiritual Blindness
Christian thinking
always begins with God and scripture
Viewing everything through God’s eyes
Christian thinking
The Christian school
Does not relieve parents of their responsibility
Purpose of education
Teach students who there are and what they are intended to become in the plan of God
A biological organism, highest on the evolutionary scale, but still an animal
Humanist
A passive organism to be traine
Behaviorist
A reservoir of great potential for good when under the control of the Holy Spirit
Christian
Nothing but a machine, determined by his environment
Behaviorist
No true self- they are social contructs
Postmodernist
Sinful
Christians
Basically good, wanting to do right
Humanist
Man is the result of a social construct- all knowledge must be in relationship to his own particular culture
Postmodernist
Believes curriculum should have limited or no direction
Humanist
Believes that the teacher should be a facilitators, friend, observer, not-influential
Humanist
Their ultimate goal is to develop into the best human possible and help that person find satisfaction
Humanist
Believes the teacher should be a called ministry of teaching
Christian
Believes that curriculum should be balanced design using various techniques modeled from Jesus’ teaching style; seeks to impart wisdom in both knowing and obeying God’s Word
Christian
Their ultimate goal is to win our students to Christ
Christian
Their ultimate goal is to by proper stimulus and response, to get man to react according to a prescribed code.
Behaviorist
Believes the teacher should be a manager of learning environment
Behaviorist
Believes curriculum should be highly controlled, outcomes specified and minutely arranged
Behaviorist
Believes the teacher should be a biased facilitator, must become constructors of knowledge
Postmodernist
Believes curriculum should lead students into constructing their own knowledge; must not be told conclusions are wrong
Postmodernist
Their ultimate goal is to empower the students for revolutionary, social change
Postmodernist
Diplomacy
Art of letting someone else have your way
Negotiation
Back and forth communication aimed at reaching agreement
Methods
The means teachers use to communicate truths to students
Should reflect a teacher’s underlying philosophy
All methods
When negotiating “Don’t react” instead
Go to the balcony
When negotiating “Don’t argue” instead
Step to their side
When negotiating “Don’t reject” instead
Reframe
When negotiating “Don’t push” instead
Buil them a golden bridge
When negotiating “Don’t escalate” instead
Use power to educate
“for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
Applies to objects, not minds
The hardest tactics to recognize
Lies
The simplest way to buy time to think
is to pause and say nothing
Listening to someone
May be the cheapest concession you can make
Giving in usually results in
An unsatisfactory outcome
Obstructive (stone walls)
a refusal to budge
Offensive (attacks)
designed to intimate and make you feel uncomfortable
Deceptive (tricks)
Designed to “dupe” you into giving in
Your position
The concrete things you say you want
Your interests
the intangible motivations that lead you to take position
Object reacts
Minds can choose not to
If “all truth is God’s truth,”
Then a variety of teaching methods will be used
Dress about ____ better than you expect your prospective employer to be dressed.
10% do not overdress or underdress
People feel most _____ when others seem to be like them in appearance, beliefs, and values.
comfortable
You should be ______ when you meet your prospective employer.
clean. Physically appear as good as you can.
Be certain to note and match the perspective employers speaking and listening ____ as closely as possible.
rate
Be familiar with the _____ of the profession of your prospective employer.
jargon
Show sincere ____ with your prospective employer. Very important in building rapport is an ____ and ____ interest in person you are trying to influence.
interest, honest, caring.
No-no’s for parent conferences
______
Lecturing
No-no’s for parent conferences
Overwhelming parents with _____ concerns
multiple
No-no’s for parent conferences
Approaching an issue without adequate ____ for thorough discussion
time
No-no’s for parent conferences
trying to be an all-knowing _______
“Know-it-all” expert
No-no’s for parent conferences
Blaming the failure of the conference on the ______
parent
Warn: Don’t Threaten
The key lies in ______ what you say as a warning rather than a threat.
stating
Warn: Don’t Threaten
A threat appear subjective and _______
Confrontational
Warn: Don’t Threaten
A warning appears objective and _____
respectful
Warn: Don’t Threaten
Use the ____ power necessary
minimum
Warn: Don’t Threaten
You ought to leave your most _____ offer on the table in full view
generous
Warn: Don’t Threaten
Power is useless if it makes them _____ you will all their might
resist
Warn: Don’t Threaten
A difficult negotiation can strain your ____ if the other side leaves the table with sour feelings.
relationship
Warn: Don’t Threaten
It is in your interest for your counterpart to feel as satisfied as possible at the ____ of the negotiation
outcome
Warn: Don’t Threaten
Remind the other side _____ that the golden bridge is open to them.
continually- help them make the choice that is best for them and for you.
After winning a child to Christ the ultimate goal of the Christian teacher is…
____ them to be God reliant
teach
After winning a child to Christ the ultimate goal of the Christian teacher is…
_____ students to the image of Christ
?
After winning a child to Christ the ultimate goal of the Christian teacher is…
Teach them to _____ all input by the Word of God
Filter
After winning a child to Christ the ultimate goal of the Christian teacher is…
Teach them to live for Christ and be a good witness
live
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
______
Smile
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
Leave _____ bags outside
bulky
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
Make ____ contact with everyone
eye
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
Let them know you’re ____ to be there
delighted
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
Be prepared, not _______
scripted
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
Be prepared with your own _____
questions
Ten ways to make a great first impression…
Don’t _____
fidget
Ten ways to make a great first impression…Be _______. Planning doesn’t mean being fake.
Authentic
Ten ways to make a great first impression…The goal of preparation is to give you the ____ that allows the real you to shine through.
confidence
Five Barriers to Cooperation
Your Reaction, Their Emotion, Their Dissatisfaction, Their Position, Their Power
Stepping to their side means….
_____ to what they have to say
Listening
Stepping to their side means….
______ their point, feelings, competence, and status
Acknowledging
Stepping to their side means….
_____ with them wherever you can
Agree
Joint problem-solving is ____ on the people, ____ on the problem.
soft, hard
Prepare ____ every meeting, and _____ every meeting
before, after
Being watchful means being alert: put on your ___ not your ______
Radar, Armor
Remember your reaction; it takes two to ____ but two to _____
tango, tangle
Striking back more often provides them with a ___ for their ____ behavior
justification, unreasonable
Giving in usually results in an ______ outcome.
unsatisfactory
Sometimes we appease unreasonable people under the ____ that if we give in we will get them off our back and never have to deal with them again.
illusion
The essence of the breakthrough strategy is ____ action. It requires you to do the opposite of what you ___ feel like doing in difficult situations.
Indirect, Naturally
Action provokes ___, reaction provokes
Reaction, counteraction
The first step of going to the balcony is not to control the other person’s behavior. It is to control ____ own.
your
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
In reacting, we lose sight of our
?
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
Buy time to think by pausing and saying _____
nothing
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
Pausing helps the other side ___ down. By saying nothing, you give them nothing to push against.
cool
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
______ the silence. ____ is your friend!
Embrace, silence
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
We cannot eliminate our feelings. We need only to _____ the automatic link between emotion and action.
?
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
An easy way to slow down the negotiation is to take ___ notes.
?
Don’t React: Go to the balcony
Don’s get hurried into making important decisions. Your worst enemy is your own _____ ______; “only you can make the concession you will later regret.”
hurried reaction
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
A common mistake is in trying to _____ with a person who is not receptive.
reason
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
listening requires _____ and self-discipline. Instead of reacting immediately or plotting your next step remain ____ on what your counterpart is saying.
Patience, focused
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
Acknowledging the other person’s point DOES NOT mean that you agree with it nor is it not an act of weakness. To the contrary, it reflect your _____
?
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
The secret of disarming is ____. Do the opposite of what they expect.
Surprise
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
Offer an ______
?
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
Project Confidence- adopt a calm, confined posture and tone. Stand up straight, make eye contact, and use your attacker’s name. ____ dosarms
?
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
“Yes” is a powerful tool for ____ the other side.
disarming
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
A good time to lay a foundation for a good relationship is ____ a problem arises
before
Don’t Argue: Step to their Side
Don’t say “but” say “yes, … and” THe key is to present your views as an ____ to, rather than contradiction of the other person’s point of view.
Addition
Don’t Reject: Reframe
Ask How?
Do not treat the other side’s position as an obstacle; treat it as an opportunity.
Don’t Reject: Reframe
Ask Why not?
Proppose an option
Don’t Reject: Reframe
Ask What If?
Turn the conversation into a brainstorming session
Don’t Reject: Reframe
Asking for advice acknowledges their competence and status. It is
Flattering
You should wait for an answer. Let the silence and ___ do their work.
discomfort
If your opponent threatens, insults, or blames you for something that has gone wrong,
Reframe it as an attack on the problem. Don’t take it ____
Personally
If your opponent threatens, insults, or blames you for something that has gone wrong,
Reframe a personal attack as friendly “_____”
Misinterpretation
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
You may be tempted to push and insist instead, do the opposite- ____ them in the direction you’d like things to go.
Lead
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Involve them in the process ____ their ideas
Incorporating
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Help them save face and make the outcome appear as a ____ for them
Compromise
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Building a golden bridge is ____ easy
not
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Start from where the other person is in order to ___ toward an agreement
move
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Building a golden bridge means making it easier for the other side to surmount ____ to agreement
?
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Help them save face by helping them back ___ without backing ____
away, down
Don’t Push: Build them a Golden Bridge
Dont ____ to the finish. Make the terms clear and _____
Rush, Specific
Don’t Escalate: Use the power to educate
Educate them about the ___ of not agreeing
cost
Don’t Escalate: Use the power to educate
Use power ___ if necessary, and minimize their resistance by reassuring them that your goal is mutual satisfaction, not victory
Only
Don’t Escalate: Use the power to educate
Make sure they know the golden bridge is ____ open.
Always
The Power Game
You switch from listening and acknowledging to _____
threatening
The Power Game
You switch from reframing the other side’s position to ____ on our own.
Insisting
The Power Game
You switch from building a golden bridge to _____ them down the gangplank
Forcing
The Power Game
We must make it ___ for the other side to say yes at the same time that you make it ____ for them to say no.
Easy, hard
The Power Game
Use power to bring them to their ____ not to their _____.
Senses, Knees
The Power Game
Use your power to educate the other side that the only way for them to win is for both of you to win ____
Together
The Power Game
Use power to educate ____ with building them a golden bridge
Tandem
Warn, Don’t Threaten
A threat is a ______ promise, an announcement of your intention to inflict pain, injury, or punishment: it is confrontational in manner.
???
Rapport
relationship; especially a close or sympathetic relationship; agreement; harmony
Rapport is
vital to a child’s complete education
Why have 2 winners?
A) Teacher’s Viewpoint
cuts down problems, less stress longevity in field, more taught.
Why have 2 winners?
B) Pupil Viewpoint
More interesting, more learned
How to Establish Rapport
Smile, learn their names, generally be supportive
How to Build their Self Esteem?
Pat on the back (physically and verbally)
A wink & a nod
How to get respect?
Respect must be earned
Don’t be mean
Have definite boundaries
Provides security
students want limits
Make God a part of their lives
Christ is the greatest gift ever given
Keep a balance between the spiritual and the education
Be friendly
Don’t lose your authority
Don’t be their buddy
Don’t ignore the outgoing student
Don’t ignore the shy student
Be honest
be honest with your students
expect honesty from your students
expect your students to lie sometimes
Create an environment where failure is not fatal
realize that students will make mistakes
realize that a fear of failure can destroy creativity and initiative
Pray for them
regularly
Read between the lines
kids say one thing but mean other
Attention getting = please care about me
showing off, cute remarks, ask a lot of questions, and feigned fearfulness
Power seeking = don’t tell me what to do
arguing, talking
Taking revenge = I’m going to hurt back
fighting, stealing, and refusing to cooperate
Three types of teacher
Ringmasters, I.R.S Agents, and Aesops
humor and truth
make teaching better
Three types of humor
Cliche - The light touch
Satire - laugh at the human condition
Jokes - the most obvious and the most difficult
Things to remember
notes should not be monologue
good jokes are natural
be yourself
Lead your students
set high standards
teach principals
challenge them
make success taste sweet
Develop a love of learning
Encourage their curiosity
help the with their work habits
Use role models to encourage success
Relay strong values by showing real life role models
Be professional
show it
place a premium on collaboration
spirit of unity, build allegiance to yourself, your organization, and each other.
love them
genuinely
listen to them
read between the lines
laugh with them
develop a sense of humor; enjoy your job
lead them
let them follow you as you follow Christ
