Final Flashcards
What does family dynamics include
Communication and behavioural patterns, finances, employment issues and beliefs about parenting
What does the term dynamics refer to
Forces and motions which characterizes a system
What does dynamics of conflict refer to
To factors which influence and act upon a conflict situation
List of 13 dynamics of conflict
1) position vs interest
2) cultural background and expectations
3) belief and perception of conflict
4) cooperation vs competition
5) characteristics of the issue
6) audience
7) sense of identity
8) threats to social identity(saving face)
9) continuity
10) Involvement of 3rd party
11) perception of balance(gains and concessions)
12) organization and leadership
13) intractability
What does an initial demand represent
Their position
What does interest refer to
Their underlying need
Position is
Represented by
What you say you want
Represented by demands or statements of intent that may have little to do with underlying interests
What constitutes a position in a conflict
- we choose to take position in conflict because we think it is best way of dealing with our needs
- position is how we choose to represent our interests
- stating position and refusing to budge may be limiting factor in terms of conflict resolution
- focusing on position does not produce collaborative resolution
What constitutes an interest in a conflict situation
- interest in conflict is what you actually want
- interest is your underlying need like freedom opportunity self- actualization, or your needs like jealousy the trail and hopelessness that motivates you to behave in a certain way
- conflicts often result when we perceive someone else as limiting our interests
What is ethnocentrism
It is a believe that a cultural groups way of doing things is better, more moral or more right than other groups ways of doing things
Are individualist or collective culture less confrontational
Collective
High context cultures rely heavily on….
Situation and nonverbal cues to communicate their feelings. Use space, gestures and physical contact is important part of communication
Low context cultures are …..
Uncomfortable around such overt displays and lean towards non contact and highly verbalized interactions
Cultural expectations related to ………
Are ………..
What are the results of these
Pride and loss of face are particularly powerful
May result in danger to police and other justice officials unless they are identified
Beliefs are
The things that you hold as being true or false, right or wrong
Values are
Central and enduring goals in life that individuals feel are important and right
According to EYOLFFSON, conflict is
By nature a competitive process with winning as the goal
Competition is
The process of striving towards a goal or objective and raises barriers to collaborative resolutions
What are the barriers competition raises to collaborative resolution
1) prompting attack and defend behaviours
2) prompting face- saving behaviours
3) focusing on positions rather than interests
4) promoting rigidity
Following ……… Characteristics of conflict can ………….
Intrinsic
Impact how it is managed
4 characteristics of conflict that will affect how it is managed
1) issue content (is conflict difference of opinion or a difference of principle)
2) issue type (what is the issue about)
3) issue size (how big of an issue is it, is it annoying, relationship or life threatening. Complex issues need to be broken down)
4) issue rigidity (how fixed are the boundaries)
Differences of principle are ……..
Value related and tend to be valiantly defended. Loosing a principle based conflict means conceding that fundamental and deeply held principles are flawed.
When thinking about the audience for a conflict what questions circulate
1) Who is watching
2) Who will be affected
3) Will anyone beside us care
4) do we represent a group or constituency who expects us to defend our positions
5) if we do not get what we want out of the conflict resolution how it will we explain our actions
According to EYOLFSSON, the stronger a groups sense of identity is……..
The more rigid they may present in response to management strategies.
How do group leaders encourage adhesion to norms and expectations
By fostering a belief in common cause and reinforcing the need to belong.
EYOLFSSON listed several other dynamics which affect course of conflict and conflict management
1) threat to social identity(save face)- social identity is threatened, we may feel strong need to protect our image/reputation
2) Continuity- continuous relationships facilitate constructive outcomes. Convincing argument for community policing which assures both officers and community that relationship will be continuing even if a conflict occurs.
3) involvement of 3rd party- 3rd parties are less likely to be emotionally involved in conflict, not interested/ invested in particular event/result. (Mediation or orbitration)
4) perceptions of balance(gains and concessions)- most easily resolved when both parties perceive that a loss in one area is balanced by a gain in another
5) organization and leadership- grounds with strong leaders are more easy to manage then most cases as the leader can be seen as speaking for the group.
Intractable conflicts defined as conflict that
- go on and on (process rather then proceed)
- Are destructive
- Are self-perpetuating
- Resist any attempts at resolution
Check relationship against following characteristics to see if it is intractable
1) exhibit long history of grievances
2) display a strong desire for redness/revenge
3) involve intangible issues such as identity, sovereignty and values
4) involve violent and destructive behaviour
5) have a history of failed peacemaking attempts by 3rd parties
What should you begin with when trying to work towards a resolution (mediator or participate)
- recognize networks of causation
- circumventing the conflict (increase positivity, decrease negativity without address the conflict directly)
- welcoming a weak power (3rd party who is trust worthy, non-threatening and reliable may be best catalyst for change)
- supporting islands of agreement
- identifying invisible 5% (good parts of relationship, highlight it)
- capitalize on instability (may cause cracks in conflict which opens opportunity for resolution)
- rethinking time (seldom a short term solution for Long term conflict)
Significant part of conflict management involves
Awareness—- awareness of environment, awareness of other who are involved and awareness of what you are thinking and feeling
What is the key to successful management of conflict
Ability to stand outside of yourself and the conflict
What is another word for outside self
META SELF
What do skilled negotiator and mediators usually operate with
Underlying interests
What areas of communication skills did we cover in reference to conflict
1) personal attributes which facilitates conflict communication
2) reflective listening
3) the DAJ trio
4) first person language—- I messages
When you are truly seeking resolution at a deep level you must
Allow others to share their thoughts and feelings
Resolution at a deep level only happens when we exhibit what attributes
1) warmth
2) genuineness
3) respect
What does warmth mean
You communicate your interest in and acceptance of others verbally and non verbally. Implies an open body posture and perhaps a smile
What does genuineness mean
Being open about your feelings, thoughts, hopes; expectations, fears, disappointments; values and beliefs
Three + 1 key ingredients for genuineness are
- self awareness
- self acceptance
- self expression
- active listening
What does respect mean
Valuing others and believing in another persons ability to solve problems
Accept others even though you may not agree with them
Give them time to think and respond to your questions
4 aspects of active listening process
1) paraphrasing
2) reflection
3) empathizing
4) summarizing
What do you do to paraphrase
State content of what you have heard but in your own words
What does reflection involve
What statements should you use
Mirroring feelings back to others.
Make statement in following forms : you feel ____ because ____ OR do you mean that______
Empathizing- what does this do? What does it mean?
- puts content and feeling in one response
- you not only reflect what they are saying but do so in such a way other person know or senses you understand them.
Summarizing is useful to communicate reflectively…… Give examples when
- before taking action
- before responding defensively
- when speaker feels strongly
- when speaker has a problem they wish to resolve
- when emotions affecting the ability of speaker to communicate clearly
- when speaker needs a sounding board
When would reflection not likely to be useful.
- when unable to accept what the other person is saying non-judgementally
- when you do not trust others ability to make responsible decisions
- when you are fatigued and not in personal place to do this
- unable to manage your own emotional response
- when you want to hide yourself