Final Flashcards
What 5 things did we say that forgiveness is in class?
- Giving up or ceasing to harbor resentment for a wrong someone has committed to oneself.
- Reducing negative feelings, thoughts, and behaviors towards the person.
- Increasing positive thoughts, behaviors, feelings towards the person.
- A process
- A paradox that we come out enriched and not diminished.
Who is Kim Phuc and how is her story related to forgiveness?
She was a burn victim in Vietnam war. Met a pilot. Forgave him. Prayed. Is president of NPO for child war victims
What 5 things did we say forgiveness is NOT in class?
- Pardoning what someone has done
- Condoning or justifying what someone has done
- Excusing what someone has done
- Forgetting what someone has done
- Denying the harm of what someone has done
What are the 6 reasons people give for forgiving?
- Quiet your angry feelings and be more peaceful.
- To reduce the harmful effects of anger and hostility on health.
- To free move on from the past.
- To develop better relationships with others.
- To improve your relationship with the one who hurt you.
- To motivate the other person to change(?).
What are the four phases of forgiveness?
- Uncovering your anger.
- Deciding to forgive.
- Working on forgiveness.
- Discovery and release from negative emotions.
5 questions for determining when positive thinking is beneficial?
- Does the person telling us about it have something to gain?
- Is it presented as a solution for all your problems?
- Is it just a wish or does it include action?
- Is it just a way of denying reality?
- Can we use science to determine if it works?
Definition of humility?
The ability to see yourself accurately with all of your strengths and weaknesses.
4 negative associations with humility?
- Being weak
- Being passive
- Lacking self-respect
- Lacking self-confidence
Definition of narcissism?
The tendency to overestimate ones abilities or importance.
How might humility protect against mania and depression?
Accurately seeing your weaknesses may protect you against the inflated self-esteem of mania.
Accurately seeing your strengths will protect against the low self-esteem of depression.
Definition of prudence?
The ability to know how and when to regulate your behavior to meet your goals.
Ways that self-control is like a muscle?
- It requires both psychological and physical exertion.
- The capacity for self-control becomes depleted after it is used.
- It can grow stronger through regular exercise.
What were the findings of Walter Mischel’s marshmallow experiment regarding the grabbers and the waiters?
Grabbers- were found to have low self esteem, be stubborn, envious and frustrated.
Waiters- better copers, more socially competent, self-assertive, trustworthy and dependable. Also more academically successful.
Findings of Rodin and Langer’s experiment regarding those who were and were not assigned to care for plants?
Those that were assigned improved in health. They were also more vigorous and social able.
More died in the low control group.
Definition of self-efficacy?
Belief that you can do what it takes to reach an important and specific goal.
4 ways that self-efficacy may make a difference?
- It may make you more likely to approach difficult tasks as challenges to be mastered rather than threats to be avoided.
- It may make you set more challenging goals.
- It may enable you to quickly recover and sustain your efforts in the face of failure.
- It may reduce the stress and emotional distress you experience when engaging in a challenging activity.
2 ways self efficacy may improve your health?
Increase good health behaviors
Decrease stress response