final Flashcards
why are younger people having less sex
could mean that there is less peer pressure around sex, covid, hookup culture, surging anxiety rates, widespread antidepressant use, internet porn, increased frequency of masturbation, helicopter parents, careerism, smartphones, news cycle, info overload, sleep deprivation. masturbation rates are still high
masturbation
encourages self acceptance as a sexual being, - partnered or multiple-partnered masturbation can alleviate performance pressure while providing erotic fantasy material for all partners. Mutual masturbation is one of the safest forms of sexual activity, as penetration does not occur and fluids are typically kept outside the body.
- suggest that educated people masturbate more than less educated people and that women (but not men) who are religious are less likely to masturbate than women who are not religious
justin lehmiller
- Justin Lehmiller: most common fantasy themes are muiltparnter, BDSM, taboo sex acts, new positions or toys or settings, passion or romance or intimacy, non monogamous relations, gender bending and homoeroticism
sexual touching
manual stimulation, foreplay is used to describe intimate touching that proceeds penetrative forms of sex. Many people, however, enjoy it all on its own, especially since it is less likely (but not impossible) to lead to pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections
- The first includes oral, non-genital contact, such as kissing, sucking, and nibbling of the lips, neck, earlobes, chest, and abdomen. Some people also extend this to include kissing and sucking fingers, toes, or buttocks. oral, non genital contact
oral sex
- Oral sex is mouth-to-genital stimulation (lips, teeth, and tongue included).
- Many men love receiving fellatio and, anecdotally, find the ingesting of their semen by a partner to be an especially erotic sign of acceptance of their sexuality. Many people who perform fellatio also thoroughly enjoy it, and feel aroused by the power they feel in arousing their partner.
- Cunnilingus – mouth stimulation of the vulva
- Fellatio – mouth stimulation of the penis
- Analingus – mouth stimulation of the anus
- Sixty-Nining (69) – simultaneous mouth-genital stimulation
intercourse
- Vaginal intercourse: penis-vagina
- Anal intercourse: penis-anus
- Pegging: typically refers to someone without a penis using a strap-on to penetrate the anus of someone with a penis
- Strap-on sex: typically refers to someone without a penis using a strap-on to penetrate the vagina or anus of someone without a penis
- Double-ended dildo: typically refers to two people using a long dildo to simultaneously penetrate each other vaginally or anally
coitus
penis in vagina, emotional issues, position is personal preference
Positions
- The missionary position is the most popular sexual position in heterosexual couples and involves two people facing each other during coitus.
- Missionary can also allow for deep penetration and relatively rapid thrusting. As such, it may not be suitable for men who believe they ejaculate too quickly. most liket to lead to pregancy
- The receptive partner on top position allows the person being penetrated to control the rate and depth of thrusting. For people with a vulva, it also allows them or their partner to stimulate the clitoris during coitus.
- Some people also refer to this as riding referring to the receptive partner sitting on the penis.
- A variation of this position is the reverse cowgirl
doggy: The position involves the penetrative partner inserting themselves or an object into the receptive partner from behind. In heterosexual couples, it provides the best angle for the tip of the penis to stimulate the G-spot, which is located on the front wall of the vagina. The female can control/optimize this angle by lowering or raising the angle of her own back/body. The penetrative partner is also able to reach and stimulate the clitoris and women’s breasts in this position. good for controlling the speed of the thrusting and depth of penetration. - The spoons position (Figure 13.14) allows both partners to be on their sides. It is less tiring and thus is useful during pregnancy or in case of illness. Also, it can be sustained for longer periods.
- A variation of the spoons position is the X position in which the partners engage each other by creating an X with their legs
fetishes
- Fetishes are attractions or sexual desires that are often related to parts of the body or accoutrements that adorn the body such as lingerie or jewelry
kinks
- A kink refers to anything that is considered an unconventional sexual practice. The use of this term is subjective depending on a person’s interpretation of what falls outside the norm. People may describe themselves as kinky based on any number of sexual practices. Some might include BDSM, watersports, public sex, and more.
types of fetishes
- Foot fetish: most common, Freud say feet are a symbol of the penis,
- Objectophilia: involves a strong sexual desire, attraction, and often a feeling of commitment toward an inanimate object. Occasionally, however, the object can involve a well-known landmark (e.g., one woman fell in love with and married the Eiffel Tower) or even a tree. Data does suggest that many objectophiles have autism spectrum disorder, which makes establishing social relationships with people very difficult
- Furries: Furries are diverse groups of people who enjoy dressing up as animal characters that have human personalities and characteristics.
- These groups use anthropomorphic methods of bringing the characters to life. In other words, furries use human characteristics such as intelligence, walking on two legs, and interacting with others while maintaining some of the personas of the animal they are dressed up as.
- Hentai: anime porn
- Infantilism: infantilism is a fetish that involves fantasies of a return to infancy. An adult who engages in this type of sexual activity is sometimes called an adult baby. The acronym ABDL refers to adult-baby diaper lovers. Infantilism does not involve pedophilia, although the two are often confused. Often, infantilism will have a counterpart known as a daddy or mommy who acts out the role. These interactions may or may not involve sex depending on the relationship dynamic
- Asphyxiophilia: chocking or cutting off oxygen for sexual pleasure.
- Urophilia: practice of urinating on someone or being urinated on
- Looner fetishism: sexually aroused by smelling, inflating, playing with, bouncing on, and/or popping ballons or watching someone else
BDSM
(kink) but bondage, dominance, discipline, submission, sadism, and masochism are commonly assumed.
- A sadist is a person who enjoys inflicting pain, and a masochist is a person who enjoys having pain inflicted on them
- Consent is an important aspect of BDSM play. Many BDSM communities emphasize the importance of consent because it allows participants to build trust and immerse themselves in the activities
- Both bottoms and tops report increases in relationship closeness and decreases in psychological stress after acting out scenes.
- Bottoms appear to enter an altered state called transient hypofrontality, commonly referred to as “sub space”, in which sensations of pain are reduced and feelings of floating, feelings of peacefulness, feelings of living in the here and now, and time distortions are all increased. Tops, in contrast, enter the altered state known as flow which is associated with focused attention, a loss of self-consciousness, and optimal performance of a task
paraphilic disorders
- any unusual sexual desire that plays a central role in a person’s life is a paraphilia, otherwise referred to as a kink. Fetishes and BDSM activities in most contexts are examples, therefore, of paraphilias (or kinks). A paraphilic disorder, on the other hand, is an unusual sexual desire that plays a central role in a person’s life and causes that person significant psychological distress, is illegal, or involves other, non-consenting people. As opposed to paraphilias which are considered psychologically healthy ways to add creativity to one’s sex life, paraphilic disorders require clinical intervention.
types of paraphilic disorders
- Exhibitionistic: milder, non-clinical form is a somewhat common form of sexual expression, and might, for example, involve being aroused by showing off one’s naked body to a partner. An exhibitionistic disorder typically involves non-consenting, unsuspecting others. Scatalogia is an auditory form of exhibitionistic disorder in which a person becomes sexually aroused by saying sexually obscene things to a non-consenting person.
- Voyeuristic: person becomes sexually aroused by watching people undress and/or engage in sexual activity.
In its clinical form, voyeuristic disorder involves a perpetrator watching a person who is unaware of their presence (or camera) and who consequently has not consented to being watched. A perpetrator will typically masturbate while watching the victim from some hidden vantage point, such as from a peep-hole into a dressing room or bathroom, an open bedroom door, or the street - Frotteuristic: Frotteurism is a disorder in which a person obtains sexual pleasure by rubbing against an unsuspecting victim. Frotteurism usually occurs in a crowded space such as a subway car (as seen in Figure 14.8), elevator, or crowded bar. Usually, the perpetrator, a male, will rub his penis, hand, or leg against a woman’s genitals, buttocks, or breasts. Often the perpetrator will then ejaculate either into a condom put on in advance or onto the woman’s clothin
- Pedophaliac: - A pedophile is a person who is sexually attracted either primarily or exclusively to prepubescent children. In most cases, pedophiles are identified as men
- such a person has a paraphilia (i.e., pedophilia) but does not have a pedophilic disorder unless he is distressed by this attraction, or is at risk of acting on the attraction. Perhaps unsurprisingly, many researchers disagree with this standard and believe that any adult who is sexually attracted to children to any extent has a pedophilic disorder, regardless of whether or not the adult is at risk of acting on it
- Others: necrophilia, zoophiles, somnophilia
etiology and genetics
premise that kinks and paraphilic disorders run in families, and the data are particularly strong in the case of pedophilic disorder. not certain whether this predisposition is a result of genes or the environment or a combination of the two.
- differences in white brain matter are thought to be predictive of pedophilia
- Impulsivity levels might predict whether someone acts on an urge as opposed to predicting the nature of the urge itself.
learning of paraphilic
learned: enabling nonsexual stimuli to become sexualized for certain individuals. Classical conditioning is probably most relevant when explaining the development of certain unusual fetishes that typically occur around the time of puberty.
social: This finding is called the cycle of abuse and is most prominent in the link between child sex abuse and adult pedophilia. It is not known why some sexually abused children grow up to abuse others whereas some do not.
courtship disorder: . The concept is that each of these paraphilic disorders mirrors a typical dating behaviour but in a completely disordered way. For example, flirting and dating follow an obvious sequence for most people; however, for some, the sequence gets cognitively disorganized and thus expressed inappropriately. As a result, these fall under the broader category of a courtship disorder
lack of alternative: disorders occur when normal expressions of sexuality are blocked. For example, this may be because the person has severely limited social skills that make them incapable of forming normal sexual relationships. As a result, they turn to atypical alternatives, usually during adolescence. Some, including the Pope himself, have hinted that Roman Catholic priests who molest children do so because of their inability to marry and enjoy normal adult sexual contact. Another example might be zoophilia/bestiality in remote regions where farming is prevalent and human contact is limited.
other: - It is probable that other personality factors and types of mental illness make sexual paraphilias more likely. Impulsivity disorders, drug and alcohol abuse, mood disorders, and attention deficit disorder also appear to be intricately linked with paraphilic disorders.
behaviour therapy
: aversion therapy, where a highly aversive stimulus (the smell of ammonia or disgusting images) might be paired with something previously viewed as sexually desirable (prepubescent girls) in order to break the cognitive association between young girls and sex. Masturbatory reconditioning is another form of behaviour therapy in which a person might be told to masturbate to the inappropriate stimulus (e.g., young girls), but at the point of orgasm told to switch his fantasies to a more appropriate stimulus (
cognitive behaviour
Cognitive therapy strives to correct disordered thinking in the mind of the patient. Cognitive therapy also attempts to instill empathy in the mind of the perpetrator for his victims, forcing him to truly imagine what the experience feels like from their perspective. Relapse prevention therapy encourages patients to identify the triggers in the environment that set off the inappropriate behaviour. The triggers might include factors that cause stress, feelings of isolation, or sadness. The therapy can also include thought stopping, where the patient is trained to have a rule.
Drugs
SSRIs have the side effect of reducing sexual desire
surgical castration
Surgical castration, the removal of testicles, eliminates the ability to produce testosterone and leads to an eventual cessation of all sexual desire, as well as the ability to have an erection and to ejaculate. The procedure is used as an absolute last resort for sex offenders. Many therapists, therefore, remain opposed to this treatment method for ethical reasons.alternative is prison
three categories
: 271- basic sexual assault (any sexual touching or intercourse without consent, sometimes described as assault of a sexual nature that violates the sexual integrity of the victim), 272- sexual assault with a weapon or threatened violence, 273- aggravated sexual assault, in which the victim is wounded, disfigured, or their life is endangered
rape types
statutory rape. This refers to any sexual contact between an adult (18+) and a person under the age of consent, which is 16, regardless of whether or not there was consent.
- Date rape is not a legal term, but it is used to describe situations in which a consensual sexual interaction is already underway when the rape occurs. Date rape does not necessitate that two people are on a formal date of any kind. Date rape includes acquaintance rape, a broader term that refers to any rape where the perpetrator was a friend or acquaintance of the victim. Most sexual assaults are, in fact, instances of acquaintance rape.