Exam 2 notes Flashcards
Ways of undermining autonomy
1) over-personalizing the argument/attacking the person
2) bringing outside experts
3) directly pressuring the person
4) recanting- agreeing to disagree
ways of displaying relatedness
- validating and listening
- opposite of what a good lawyer does in court
undermining relatedness
- ignoring, interrupting, being hostile to the other person
autonomy and relatedness findings
1) high autonomy and relatedness
- positively correlated
2) undermining relatedness / expressing hostility
- kids more likely to be more delinquent
3) undermining autonomy
- kids become hostile over time
4) attachment & autonomy and relatedness
- secure attachment and disagreeing- not seen as threat to the relationship
- tension is not a threat
autonomy and relatedness in risky environments
1) beyond middle-class kids
- different
2) safe vs. risky environment
3) autonomy depends on context, age, and danger
historical changes in peer relationships
- age grading creates segregation
- primary cause of peer interaction
- cohort effects: different generations of adolescents; when there’s a large percentage of adolescents in the population there’s deviance
- influences population and culture - creates larger footprint
developmental changes across adolescence
1) emergence of crowds and cliques
2) crowds and cliques submerge towards the end of adolescence
3) gender segregation
4) racial and social class segregation
peer pressure and peer influence
1) conformity- trends across age
2) real v. apparent effects of peer pressure
- selection and influence
- kids pick friends that are like themselves, parents often think that their kids are being influenced by their friends
3) advantages to being influenced by peers
- better at conflict management, positive peer pressure, interpersonal relationships
- safer to be a follower than a leader, always running with the pack
4) relation to parental autonomy behaviors
- kids with strictest parents - most susceptible to peer pressure
- kids who argue with parents push back
5) parent vs. peer influence
- peers don’t replace parents
- peers influence culture/day to day activities
- parents influence long-term decisions
popularity
1) preference-based vs status-based measures
- status - cool kids - perceived popularity
- preference- nice, kids- sociometric
2) correlates of status-based popularity
- physically attractive, participating in high status events, mean, good traits with an aggressive edge
3) correlates of preference-based popularity
- more likable kids, better close friendships, likely securely attached, parents promote autonomy, good traits
4) predictions from popularity
- preference-based popularity- less aggressive overtime, more likely to drink/smoke, low levels of delinquency, well socialized into norms of peer group
- status-based- delinquency decreases with time but drinking doesn’t
the ‘cool kid’ effect: pseudomaturity
pseudomaturity and popularity
- coolness and success in popularity measured in 3 ways
1) start romantic relationships earlier
2) start drinking earlier than peers
3) start hanging out with the attractive crowd - have problems in 20s since they didn’t develop real social skills to do well in life- were acting cool when younger
- not being with the cool crowd predicts a healthier life
reconciling different aspects of popularity
- biologically wired to want to connect with people and form relationships
- popularity isn’t bad, but seeking it desperately is
types of rejected adolescents
1) aggressive rejected kids
2) withdrawn rejected kids
- less socially confident- don’t know how to handle give and take- lonely and depressed
- columbine shooters- suffer the most and most likely to lash out
- dropouts- kids failing school
neglect =/= rejection
- some kids are off by themselves doing their own thing, don’t necessarily want to be part of the crowd
- some may be at risk for being lonely, but may not need a lot of interaction
reasons why adolescents reject their peers
- many changes: physical, changing roles, demands
- -> uncertainty
- want to be around people that are similar to you and feel threatened by anyone different
- people who are different from you and your peers become targets for rejection/bullying
sources of conformity pressures
- kids who cannot manage the push for conformity
- kids who are too different
- seen with adults too
sources of conformity pressures
- kids who cannot manage the push for conformity
- kids who are too different
- seen with adults too
who are the most likely targets of rejection?
- insecurely attached kids
- anger/resentment from previous bad relationships will poison new relationships- will feel rejected
- -> don’t trust opposite sex
- those who lack skills- rejected by peers and then fail to have opportunities to develop further skills
- those with troubled homes
- -> kids who are stirred up and behave similarly at school
loneliness
- HS and college years- loneliest time of your life
- the amt of connection you have with people vs. the amt of connection you need
- lots of changes make you long for deeper connections to people but relationships and friendships are very shallow during these periods
cortisol & loneliness
- release cortisol when feeling lonely over an extended period of time
- gears up immune system
- leads to anxiety and depression
- related to heart disease, diabetes, etc