Exam 2 Flashcards
What are Hazen & Shaver’s 3 types of adult attachment?
- Secure
- Anxious/Avoidant Attachment
- Anxious/Ambivalent Attachment
Describe secure adult attachment
trust, friendship, positive emotions towards relationship
Describe anxious/avoidant adult attachment
retreating from difficult interactions; might look like shutting down
Describe anxious/ambivalent adult attachment
excessive pursuit of partner, lopsided commitment to the relationship
What are the 5 communication strategies described by Maata & Uusiautti of a healthy relationship?
- communicative strategies
- metacommunication
- anticipatory social strategies
- ceremonies and rituals created in relationship
- sense of togetherness
What are the four horsemen of the apocalypse?
- criticism
- contempt
- defensiveness
- stone-walling
What is criticism?
a complaint taken to the next level by including statements that are blaming, attack character, or are otherwise insulting
What is contempt?
using mockery, sarcasm, and hostile humor with the intent to make one’s partner feel stupid, foolish, or otherwise inferior
What is defensiveness?
defending oneself from real or perceived criticism by making excuses, deflecting blame, or otherwise avoiding responsibility
What is stone-walling?
actively disengaging from a conversation. Includes looking away and not responding to questions. Often occurs when one partner is feeling overwhelmed by the conversation
How does one combat criticism?
use “I” statements, avoid personal attacks, use specific examples
How does one counteract contempt?
focus on the problem not the person, use positive body language
How does one counteract defensiveness?
take responsibility, focus on your own behavior, use active listening
How does one counteract stone-walling?
express your feelings, keep lines of communication open, be open to finding a solution
How do Christopher Hudspeth’s 18 Ugly Truths and contrast the behaviors described in them with the communication skills predictive of happiness identified in Maata’s & Uusiautti’s research
Maata and Uusiautto’s research found that happiness in a relationship often come from good communication skills, such as talking about each other’s day and feelings, discussing the way problems will be solved, how to act towards each other, doing things that remind the couple of old times, and spending time together in meaningful ways. This contrasts to Hudspeth’s 18 Ugly Truths in that Hudspeth claims that in modern relationships, there is very little communication, little caring for the other person, poor communication strategies, little to no planning, no investment in the relationship, no sharing of feelings, and little togetherness.
How did Garcia and Reiber (2008) define a hook-up?
A spontaneous sexual interaction in which 1) the individuals are explicitly not in a traditional romantic relationship with each other, 2) there is no a priori agreements regarding what behaviors will occur, and 3) there is explicitly no promise of any subsequent intimate relations or relationships. The hookup can comprise various sexual behaviors, and may include any or all of the following: heavy kissing and/or petting, oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation, and/or intercourse.
How does parenting promote secure attachment?
- secure base
2. encouraging exploration
What are the 4 qualities of empathy?
- perspective taking
- staying out of judgement
- recognizing emotion in others
- communicating that
What is Thomas Gordon’s Sensitive-Responsive Dialogue?
mirrors the sensitive responsiveness exhibited by caregivers in secure attachment parent-child relationships as characterized by 1) non-judgemental listening and 2) Being yourself as both speaker and listener
What does sensitive-responsive dialogue look like?
being open and honest in your communication with another person and listening to them non-judgmentally
How does attachment play into sensitive-responsive dialogue?
influenced by behaviors of mothers of securely attached infants, specifically that secure attachment is a function of sensitivity and responsiveness of the mother to her infant’s signals and needs.
Why is sensitive-responsive dialogue so hard according to Innes?
you are putting yourself in a “dangerous opportunity” where a disagreement could lead to a win-win solution but could also lead to a crisis resulting in a break up or divorce
What is level of interaction according to Maata & Uusiautti?
the different ways of interacting with each other, width of communication in social interaction
What is content of interaction according to Maata & Uusiautti?
quality and type of expression, positive and negative expressions ratio; if what you said is not what was interpreted, you take it upon yourself to fix it
How did Maata & Uusiautti analyze communication?
1) level of interaction
2) content of interaction
3) accuracy of information communicated
What is accuracy of interaction according to Maata & Uusiautti?
spouses’ ability to express themselves clearly as well as their ability to interpret the other correctly
Why does Innes advocate for developing a self-authored mind particularly around the topic of membership in populations that represent diversity/minority/marginalization?
Robert Kegan (1994) defined a self-authorized mind as having the ability to rise above the boundaries between groups of people and objectively compare and contrast the worldviews of each culture. Innes continues to comments that self-authoring people can examine the cultures of other groups of people in a open-minded and unbiased manner, without sensing a threat to their own identity and self of self.
How do Rhodes & colleagues as described in Barrios & Lundquist, relate the theory of masculinity to sexual behaviors of gay men on college campuses?
Rhodes and colleagues “posit that gay men, in not meeting masculine gender expectations, reaffirm their masculinity by engaging in frequent sex with multiple partners, expressing lesser romantic desires, and taking part in more risky sexual behaviors”
How are cis-gendered women subjected to a double-standard according to the authors?
If a woman engages in sexual activity, she is considered promiscuous; if she does not have sex at all, she may be considered a prude.
Which conclusions drawn from Barrios & Lundquist’s analysis of survey responses contradict commonly held stereotypical perceptions of gay and straight men?
They found that both gay and straight men are more interested in relationships than commonly believed.
What are the 3 types of differentiation in Bowen’s Family Systems Theory?
- Highly differentiated
- Fusion Enmeshment:
- Detachment Emotionally Cut Off:
Describe high differentiation
optimal family system promoting healthy development of members
Describe fusion enmeshment
individual family members lack appropriate boundaries; difficult to determine own feelings or problems stop and someone else’s begin
Describe detachment emotionally cut off
family members emotionally cut off and withdrawn from each other; members feel lonely and lack connection