everything Flashcards
Strengths of Latino
-familism (family highly valued, viewed as sacred)
-children highly valued
-religion is BIG (Catholic)
-provide support for each other (collectivistic)
Strengths of Asian American
-both nuclear and extended family important
-filial piety (respect for elders)
-high value on education
-well disciplined children
-extended family support (if financial problems come up)
-family loyalty
6 qualities of strong families SPAACE
Appreciation and affection- caring, respect, playfulness, friendship
Commitment- trust, honesty, dependability etc
Positive comm- compliments, sharing feelings, avoid blame, compromise
Enjoyable time together- quality time, enjoy each other company, fun times
Spiritual well being and shared values- hope, faith, share ethical values
Ability to manage stress and crisis- adaptable, grow together, openness to change
Couple and Family Map (cohesion)
Cohesion- feeling of emotional closeness with another person
4 types- disengaged (very separate), connected (more separate than together), cohesive (more together than separate) , enmeshed (super high togetherness)
Couple and Family (flexibility)
Flexibility- amount of change that occurs in leadership, role relationship, and rules
4 types- rigid (STRICT), structured (sometimes shared), flexible (often shared), chaotic (very lenient)
Couple and Family (communication) CSLDR
Communication- smoothes friction in relationships
6 types- listening skills, speaking skills, disclosure, clarity, staying on topic, respect & regard
Sternberg’s eight types of love FCIRCLE
Nonlove- none of these
Liking- I
Infatuation- P
Empty- C
Romantic- I and P
Fatuous- C and P
Companionate- C and I
CONSUMATE- ALL <3
love triangle theory
Passion- physical chemistry
Intimacy- share feelings, disclosure
Commitment and decision making- stay, endure tough times
Six Traits of Love
Compassion
Compromise
Trust
Intimacy
Mutual Respect
Understanding
Factual Determinants (CFT)
facts of persons life…
events- adopted/child abuse/death/divorces
socioeconomic standing
ethnic background
individual psychology (CFT)
includes…
-psychopathology (mental illness)
-individuation (separate yet connected)
-differentiation (autonomous vs automatic)
-capacity to mourn and cope
systemic transactions (CFT)
includes…
- role assignments (hero, rescuer, rebel, adjuster)
- power alignments
-generational boundaries
-triangulation
-enmeshment
-cutoffs
relational ethics (CFT)
What is the balance of give and take between family members?
What are the visible and invisible contributions of each family member?
Destructive Entitlement
A person unconsciously believes that he or she is entitled to be unfair toward innocent people because he or she has been treated unfairly by others.
examples- lack of affection, discipline, shaming
revolving slate- pattern continues across generations
Parentification:
“When a parent’s support and respect for a child’s personality growth is obscured by goals that are essentially possessive and self-serving.”
rejunction
To move the family in the direction of ethical fairness through the process of responsible dialogue, which includes self-delineation, self-validation and due crediting.
healthy families do 4 things (Beavers Timberlawn Model)
1) nourish interpersonal ships both in and out the family
2) recognize that members affect everyone
3) simple explanations frequently misrepresent complex events
4) promote self efficiency/acknowledge some things beyond human control
5 dimensions of healthy fam functioning
1) family structure (boundaries and power)
2) family mythology “we all get along great..”
3) goal directed negotiation
4) autonomy
- clarity of expression
-responsibility
-invasiveness
-permeability (receptive to others ideas)
5) family affect (range of feelings, mood/tone, irresolvable conflict)
6 dimensions of healthy family (McMaster Model)
-Problem Solving
Instrumental: finances, food, shelter, transportation, and clothing.
Affective: Emotional and Relational
-Communication
-Family Roles
-Affective responsiveness
-Affective involvement
-Behavior Control (4 TYPES)
rigid
laissez faire
flexible
chaotic
8 factors for true friendship MATURESC
enjoyment
acceptance
respect
trust
mutual assistance
confiding
understanding
spontaneity
add 4 Christian perspectives to the 8 factors of friendship
unselfishness
confession
forgiveness
honesty
recipe of real love
christian friendship + passion + commitment
commitment to…
relationship
love
God
commitment to relationship
constraint commitment (finance, kids)
personal dedication (willing to invest/sacrifice
To love… aka
agape
intimacy triangle
God at top
husband and wife in corners
“as you both grow closer to God, you grow closer together”
