Energy Levels Flashcards
Levels with normal ego
1 & 2
Levels with no ego
6 & 7
Levels with strong ego
3, 4, 5
Levels in circle of self
1 & 2
Levels in circle of self mastery
3, 4, 5
Levels in circle of self transcendence
6 & 7
L1 feeling
Apathy
L2 feeling
Anger
L3 feeling
Forgiveness
L4 feeling
Compassion
L5 feeling
Peace
L6 feeling
Joy
L7 feeling
Absolute passion
L1 action/result
lethary/nothing
L2 action/result
defiance
L3 action/result
cooperation
L4 action/result
service
L5 action/result
acceptance
L6 action/result
wisdom
L7 action/result
creation
L1 thought
victim
L2 thought
conflict
L3 thought
responsibility
L4 thought
concern
L5 thought
reconciliation
L6 thought
synthesis
L7 thought
non-judgment
L1 additional thoughts
I lose; I hate myself
L2 additional thoughts
I win, you lose; I hate you
L3 additional thoughts
I win, if you win too great; I forgive you; Things are good enough
L4 additional thoughts
You win; I love you
L5 additional thoughts
We both win; I understand you
L6 additional thoughts
Everyone always wins; I am you
L7 additional thoughts
Winning and losing are illusions; I am
L1 additional emotions
guilt, self-doubt, worry, fear, embarrassment
L1 additional results
hopelessness, anxiety, low self-esteem, mental/emotional focus on self
L2 additional emotions
resentment, hatred, greed, blame
L2 additional results
stress, disappointment, frustration, struggle, antagonism, emotional focus on other
L3 additional emotions
relief
L3 additional results
rationalization, justification, tolerance, release, coping, mental focus on self
L4 additional results
takes nothing personally, playfulness, emotional focus on other
L4 additional feelings
gratitude, love, caring
L5 additional results
fulfillment, strong outer faith, mental focus on us
L5 additional emotions
calm, confidence
L6 additional results
ability to access intuition, emotional focus on universal whole
L6 additional emotions
fearlessness, oneness
L7 additional results
genius, focus on “every” thing and “no” thing
L7 additional emotions
unconditional love, ecstacy
How to coach energy at L1
venting, A+V, reframe past, challenge interpretations, name gremlins (therapeutic referral may be required)
How to coach energy at L2
identify and control emotions, take responsibility for their thinking and feeling, challenge assumptions and interpretations, focus on success via power vs via force or fear
How to coach energy at L3
get buy-in for helping others or being of service, show pain points and what they cost, help them take things less personally, work from heart center
How to coach energy at L4
help them work on self-care, remove judgment (helps eliminate responsibility of fixing them), view challenges as opportunities
How to coach energy at L5
shift to a global perspective, view lies as opportunity rather than a series of events, bring in L4 and heart-center, gain control by not having control or not having to know, gain direction by focusing on tasks that bring fulfillment
How to coach energy at L6
tap into intuition, develop sense of oneness, remove judgment
How to coach energy at L7
tap into energy of creation and passion, release judgment
I lose
L1
I hate myself
L1
There’s nothing I can do
L1
I have no choice
L1
I don’t matter
L1
I’m not valued or valuable
L1
Guilt
L1
Self-doubt
L1
Hopelessness
L1
Powerlessness
L1
Worry/anxiety
L1
Fear
L1
Overwhelm
L1
Embarrassment
L1
Sorrow/sadness
L1
Focus on self
L1
Lack of action
L1
Low self-esteem
L1
Lack of confidence
L1
Doesn’t express feelings/opinions
L1
Avoid confrontation
L1
Won’t move decisions forward
L1
Works in crisis mode
L1
Focus on problems
L1
Lack of productivity
L1
I can’t do this
L1
Every option is lose-lose
L1
No one appreciates what I do around here
L1
I’m so worried about …
L1
Is it Friday yet?
L1
Nobody cares about me.
L1
Allow others to influence actions/
decisions
L1
Focus is on safety and survival
L1
At best, the bare minimum of work/
performance is undertaken
L1
Don’t have to do anything
L1 advantage
Little energy and effort is spent
L1 advantage
Others do things for you
L1 advantage
Protection from failure, embarrassment, rejection, or undesirable outcomes
L1 advantage
Lack of engagement in role and tasks
L1 disadvantage
Lack of ability to lead self or others
L1 disadvantage
Little to nothing gets accomplished
L1 disadvantage
Often has an undesirable effect on the engagement of others
L1 disadvantage
Low levels of satisfaction and fulfillment
L1 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Venting (allows release of the energy)
L1, L2
Coaching approach: Use acknowledging/validating
L1, L2
Coaching approach: Draw the client’s awareness to the present (allows the client to release energy from the past so they can be present and at choice)
L1
Coaching approach: Challenge them to fight (for themselves)
L1
Coaching approach: Reframe past experiences by challenging interpretations and assumptions
L1
Coaching approach: Name gremlins (separates from whole identity)
L1
Coaching approach: Have client get angry at the situation and take action
L1
Coaching approach: Help them rationalize/cope
L1, L2
Coaching approach: Help clients realize they have a choice
L1
Coaching approach: Increase self-worth
L1
Coaching approach: Connect with what the client really wants
L1
Coaching approach: Identify the things within the client’s circle of control and influence
L1
I win; you lose
L2
I’m right; you’re wrong
L2
I hate you
L2
I know better than you (because…perceptions supported by evidence,
assumptions, interpretations)
L2
Hatred
L2
Resentment
L2
Entitlement
L2
Greed
L2
Discord/dissonance
L2
Pride
L2
Focus on other (-)
L2
Stress
L2
Disappointment in others
L2
Resistance
L2
Frustration
L2
Struggle
L2
Force
L2
Control
L2
Antagonism
L2
Blaming
L2
Self-righteousness
L2
Aggression
L2
If I want something done right, I have to do it myself
L2
Just do it my way, okay? I don’t have time to explain
L2
My team/family member is incompetent (lazy, etc.)
L2
No one meets my expectations
L2
Nobody/nothing gets in my way
L2
My actions are justified
L2
It’s not my fault; it’s yours
L2
Making my numbers is all that matters to me
L2
It’s all about winning
L2
I have to stay on top of them or they’ll slack off
L2
Don’t trust others
L2
Can appear confident to a fault – come across as argumentative, defensive, controlling
L2
Have low emotional intelligence
L2
Think their way is the only “right” way
L2
Ignore others’ responses/ perspectives
L2
Focus on problems
L2
Blame others
L2
Highly judgmental
L2
Tend to micromanage and be controlling
L2
Can be condescending and bossy
L2
Take credit for other’s work
L2
Don’t get buy-in from others
L2
Shortsighted
L2
Exhibit fight, as opposed to flight, survival tendencies
L2
Take advantage of staff
L2
Leadership is determined by title, position, and authority alone
L2
Leaders put themselves ahead of their team (others)
L2
The purpose of life/work is to come out ahead
L2
I must control all aspects of my life and work
L2
I must save face at all costs
L2
It’s a “dog-eat-dog” world
L2
If you want something, you have to fight for it
L2
Others will take advantage of them if you let them
L2
You can get a lot done and motivate others in the short-term
L2 advantage
You can use force to push through and overcome any challenge
L2 advantage
Lack of satisfactory results (due to catabolic motivation)
L2 disadvantage
Burn out
L2 disadvantage
Others will be dissatisfied, disengaged, and ultimately become unproductive and quit
L2 disadvantage
Results aren’t able to be sustained on a long-term basis without damage to self and relationships
L2 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Move past win-lose scenarios
L2
Coaching approach: Help them identify and control emotions
L2
Coaching approach: Help them take responsibility for thoughts/feelings
L2
Coaching approach: Coach energy blocks so that clients can remove conflict that is a result of interpretations and assumptions
L2
Coaching approach: Help rationalize the “agenda” or perspective of the other person(s)
L2
Coaching approach: Focus on success by power instead of force
L2
Coaching approach: Use role play to help them think, feel, and act out new behaviors
L2
I win; if you win too, that’s great
L3
I forgive you
L3
Find and focus on the positive (the “silver lining” or “making lemonade out of lemons”)
L3
relief
L3
Peace of mind
L3
Focus on me
L3
Rationalization
L3
Justification
L3
Toleration
L3
Use of coping mechanisms
L3
Release
L3
I really should do this; it’s the right thing to do
L3
How can I make this work to my advantage?
L3
He didn’t really mean it; he was just stressed
L3
Let’s see if we can figure out a way to make this work
L3
I’m sure this will all work out fine
L3
We just need to do the best we can with what we have
L3
Just let it go and move on. Life is too short to let things get you down
L3
Motivate themselves and others by finding ways to cope, release, forgive, and explain away resentment, stress, disappointments
L3
Respond, don’t react
L3
Avoid conflict (to keep peace)
L3
Cooperate/compromise
L3
Make excuses (to rationalize)
L3
Judge others (but less so than in L2)
L3
Blame others (but less so than in L2)
L3
Respond with logic, not emotions
L3
Don’t allow circumstances or others to get in the way of what they want
L3
Can avoid/block/release negativity of others
L3
Able to engage others with hopes and promises
L3
Can be manipulative
L3
Good teammates
L3
Take responsibility for getting things done
L3
Have a low level of communication between staff and leadership, but it is there should the need arise
L3
Focus is on short term goal achievement
L3
Calm and peaceful sentiment abounds
L3
Life/work is what you make it
L3
People are generally good; they just don’t know better
L3
Everyone is different and that’s okay
L3
Don’t allow others to hold them back
L3 advantage
They can avoid, block, and release negativity from others
L3 advantage
Solution-focused in order to keep moving forward
L3 advantage
Releases negativity so focus can be reset
L3 advantage
Can be manipulative and self-concerning
L3 disadvantage
Hopes and promises are not given from the heart but as a means to persuade
L3 disadvantage
Not concerned if things don’t work out because they “did their best”
L3 disadvantage
In pursuit of moving forward, underlying issues may go unaddressed
L3 disadvantage
Tolerance can lead to complacency
L3 disadvantage
Can suppress lower energies and prevent real growth by avoiding pain
L3 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Get buy in for helping, service, etc., and the benefits that go with it
L3
Coaching approach: Help them not take things so personally
L3
Coaching approach: Move from the head to the heart
L3
Coaching approach: Use the skill of visioning (where they would like to be) and help them connect emotionally to the vision
L3
Coaching approach: Relate their values to the situation
L3
You win
L4
I love you
L4
I care about others
L4
Gratitude
L4
Love (conditional)
L4
Caring
L4
Trust
L4
Focus on other (+)
L4
Little taken personally
L4
Playfulness
L4
Generosity
L4
Helping
L4
Supporting
L4
Volunteering
L4
Teaching
L4
Self-care
L4
I’ll do it
L4
Can I help with that?
L4
Don’t worry about me
L4
What can I do for you?
L4
Trusting
L4
Loyal (to company, coworkers, team, friends, family)
L4
Lead from the heart, not the head
L4
Nurturing (of people, projects, and the company)
L4
Take little personally
L4, L5
Care for others and help them do their jobs the best they can
L4
The need to compete with other businesses lessens – rather, they know they have unique offerings
L4
Focus is on how their services/products truly help and serve their audience
L4
Customer/people/employee-centric focus are core elements of the organization’s values and are backed up by their actions, policies, and words
L4
Nothing feels better than serving others
L4
I want to make the world a better place
L4
We can work this out
L4
I want to relieve others’ suffering
L4
Take little personally
L4, L5 advantage
Truly care for and help everyone do their jobs the best they can
L4 advantage
Can be overly sympathetic
L4 disadvantage
Motivation can be more for being liked than for being productive
L4 disadvantage
Without clear boundaries, this level’s energy can get out of balance and compromise their own energy and wellbeing
L4 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Help people take care of their own needs and priorities by setting healthy boundaries and knowing when it’s time to step in to assist
L4
Coaching approach: Help people see challenges as opportunities
L4
Coaching approach: Help the client to identify their goals and other’s goals, and use all to create potential solutions that are incredibly beneficial to all involved
L4
Coaching approach: Help clients look for solutions that benefit all involved by creating more of a “we win” attitude (a true “win-win”)
L4
Coaching approach: Encourage them to ask, “what’s the opportunity here?” when faced with a challenge
L4
Coaching approach: Explore what “service” means to the client. Sometimes “helping” also be serving as a resource or support
L4
Coaching approach: When experiencing a challenge associated with a personal value of service, explore ways to negotiate support in a way that honors everyone’s needs and is in alignment with the client’s value system
L4
We both win or we don’t play
L5
I understand you
L5
Life is full of opportunities
L5
I want to understand you
L5
Success comes from within
L5
There are no problems, only opportunities
L5
Everything has meaning and purpose
L5
I’m always in control of my life and my perspective of it
L5
Confidence
L5
Calmness
L5
Focus on us
L5
Little judgment
L5
Fulfillment
L5
Openness
L5
Strong outer faith
L5
What’s the opportunity here?
L5
What might this mean?
L5
Where do we want to go from here? (or, as we like to say at iPEC, “where do we grow from here?”)
L5
Curious
L5
Powerful
L5
Inspiring
L5
Proactive
L5
See others as gifted/full of potential
L5
Anticipate greatness from others (and receive it)
L5
Find opportunity in all challenges
L5
Can be over-analytical
L5
Entrepreneurial
L5
Solution-focused and action- oriented
L5
Transparent
L5
Extremely profitable
L5
Fun
L5
Positive attitudes
L5
Have policies that reward desirable behaviors
L5
Autonomy and teamwork are both evident and coordinated
L5
Profit-sharing plans or stock options may exist
L5
Employees are motivated knowing that leaders believe in them, and will hold them accountable to greatness
L5
Invest in employees and keep them happy and engaged in order to retain them
L5
Encourage strong relationships throughout the workplace
L5
There are no problems, only opportunities
L5
I want to understand you
L5
Everything has meaning and purpose
L5
Success comes from within
L5
I only win if you win, too
L5
I’m always in control of my life and my perspective of it
L5
Finds opportunities and purpose in all challenges
L5 advantage
May experience paralysis by analysis
L5 disadvantage
May be disengaged from emotions
L5 disadvantage
May take too many risks
L5 disadvantage
May experience FOMO (fear of missing out) and thus spread self too thinly because of seeing so many options
L5 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Focus on maintaining and/or expanding the use of this level by finding meaning and new insights from every situation
L5
Coaching approach: Help them to move past ego and toward a more global/connected perspective where instead of seeing life as a series of events, they view life itself as an opportunity
L5
Coaching approach: Help them gain control by not having to control or know (i.e., confidence that they are equipped to handle whatever comes their way)
L5
Coaching approach: Help the client overcome paralysis by analysis by relating decisions to their values
L5
We always win
L6
I am you
L6
All that happens has value
L6
We are all connected
L6
Joy
L6
Access to intuition
L6
Focus on the whole
L6
Synergy
L6
Synthesis/non-separateness
L6
See everything and everyone as part of self
L6
Innovation
L6
True visionary
L6
Being in a state of flow
L6
We are all connected
L6
I’m “in the flow”
L6
Everything is a valuable experience
L6
Genius
L6, L7
Lead by presence more than by actions
L6
Role model whom others see as wise, kind, and fair
L6
Know what is going on without asking
L6
Possess a keen sense of intuition
L6
Powerful, yet humble
L6
Can be perceived as aloof and out of touch
L6
Participate in projects instead of fully delegating them
L6
Help others realize their true potential
L6
Interested in growing
L6
Empathetic
L6
Can be high risk takers
L6
Positively affect others
L6
Harmony created between a company’s bottom line, employee satisfaction and development, customer satisfaction, and the organization’s impact on the world
L6
Teamwork is the key to success – and the company is always thinking about how to create teams that utilize each individual’s gifts to the fullest extent possible
L6
Everything that happens is part of the grand scheme of things
L6
Everyone/Everything has an impact on everything else
L6
Everyone and everything that happens creates/shapes who I am
L6
I am living a powerful and purposeful life
L6
Empathetic (have the ability to feel and connect without judgment)
L6 advantage
A permanent sense of pleasure, satisfaction, and joy
L6 advantage
May not be, or may not be perceived as being, grounded
L6 disadvantage
May be out of touch with others
L6 disadvantage
Can appear to be aloof
L6 disadvantage
May be a high risk taker
L6 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Help the client integrate more of this energy by connecting with their intuition
L6
Coaching approach: Help the client deepen their sense of connection and oneness with everyone and everything
L6
Coaching approach: If the client tends to follow their intuition impulsively, help them balance their intuition with logic and emotion (holographic thinking)
L6
Coaching approach: If the client’s level of empathy causes them to get pulled into the emotions of others, help them develop boundaries and an awareness of where their own emotions end and the emotions of others begin
L6
Winning and losing are illusions
L7
There is no right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse
L7
Unconditional love is our true nature
L7
Ecstacy
L7
Unconditional love
L7
Complete objectivity
L7
Fearlessness
L7
Focus on “every” and “no” thing
L7
Full access to all lower levels
L7
Connection to intelligence at highest order
L7
Create, observe, experience at the same time
L7
Unconditional acceptance
L7
This level encompasses the other levels. No human resonates completely here, but with practice, everyone can learn to access it.
L7
Most powerful people in the world
L7 advantage
Consciously co-create their life experiences
L7 advantage
Able to be participants and observers at the same time
L7 advantage
Can’t connect on the level that others are
L7 disadvantage
Can appear not grounded
L7 disadvantage
Coaching approach: Help the client integrate more of this level by connecting with the energy of creation and pure passion, without judgment
L7
Coaching approach: To reinforce this energy, help the client practice detached involvement
L7
