deh Flashcards
Showing of palms
Openness
Doing other things while being confronted
Hiding something
Hiding palms in pockets
Unwilling to talk
Dishonest
Crossing arms in front of chest
Defensive
Unwilling to talk
Palm up
Submissive
Non-threatening
Palm down
Authority
Pointing finger
Negative reactions
Soft handshale
Implies submission
Two-handed handshake, the further up the more? Wrist, elbow, shoulder etc
Intimacy the person wants to convey
The first place to look for the sincerity of a smile is where?
The wrinkle lines of the eyes (orbicularis oculi)
Dropping or thrusting forward the lower lip indicates?
Aggression (warning of bite)
When liars lie, which side of the smile is usually more pronounced than the other?
Left (from liars perspective)
What does the ‘tight-lipped smile’ often mean?
Secret, withheld opinion or attitude that they will not share. (Women who don’t like others do this)
The twisted smile (skråsmil), what does it mean?
Sarcasm
The drop-jaw smile, what does it mean?
Laughing or playful (can be used to fool)
Sideways-looking-up smile, what does it mean?
‘control me’ smile from women
One minute of solid laughter provides how many minutes of subsequent relaxation?
45 mins
How does a woman see a man that makes her laugh?
As a dominant male
Crossed-arms and legs means? Also the same with one or both arms across the chest
Defending from threatening situation. Protecting heart and lungs
Seated in a defensive posture, or a posture which indicates you feel threatenened, has been by research shown to make you how many % less efficient in learning and gaining new knowledge?
38%
Crossed-arms-on-chest means?
Defensive or negative. Uncertain, insecure
What does fists-clenched-arms-crossed mean?
Hostility as well as defensiveness. Aggressive
Double-arm-grip means?
Comforting himself with a form of self-hugging. Negative, restrained attitude
Prince-Philip-Palm-in-palm behind is back indicates?
Feeling superior
Both hands in pocket indicates
Non-involvement
Arms-crossed-with-thumbs-pointing-upward indicates
Defensive, but still feeling important
Partial-arm-cross, often one arm swings across to hold or touch the other arm indicates what?
Lack self-confidence, ‘partially hugging themselves’
Men can use The Broken Zipper Position instead of -partial-arm cross, what does this mean?
Insecurity, feeling dejected, vulnerable
Instead of arms crossed, people may touch or hold handbag, bracelet, watch, shirt cuff, or object near their other arm, indicates what?
Insecurity, nervous
Holding a glass or cup with two hands indicates?
Insecurity
Placement of cup when talking to you, if the person is open and interested will place where? If closed?
Open, same side as hand holding. Closed towards opposite hand
Sitting with chair with armrest, what does the position of elbow indicate, on top and inside of armrest?
On top, indicates power. Inside humble, defeated
Touching a person with your left hand while shaking hands with your right hand can?
Create a powerful result. Example, people will have problems lying to you
Touching another persons elbow for 3 seconds while shaking hands have 3 different effects, which?
- Elbow is public space not intimate, neutral but gets attention
- Touching a stranger is not considered acceptable, so it creates an impression
- 3-second elbow touch creates a momentary bond
When meeting someone and you want to make an impression with handshake and greeting, what to do?
Touch elbow or hand, repeat their names to confirm you heard it correctly
Raised-palm-rub indicates?
Positive expectancy. Also, expecting money
A short palm-rub indicates?
Positive for you
A slow and long palm-rub indicates?
Positive for the person doing it
Thumb and finger rub?
Money-expectancy
Hands-clenched gesture?
Restrained, anxious, or negative attitude
The steeple (hands lightly press against other hand) indicates?
Confident or selfassured attitude
The raised steepler is usually used when?
Talking
The low steeple is usually used when?
Listening
Raised steeple with head tilted back indicates?
Smugness, arrogance
The face platter (woman places hand on top of other and present her face)
Wants to attract your attention
Holding hands behind the back, indicates?
Superiority, confidence, and power
Hand-gripping-wrist behind the back indicates?
Frustration, attempt of self-control (the higher up, the more frustrated or angry)
Protruding thumbs indicate?
Superiority, macho
Thumbs-protruding-from-coat-pocket indicates?
Superior position
Men who frequently gulp saliva may be?
Lying
People who put hands to face while speaking may?
Be lying, have doubt, uncertainty, or exaggerates
Covering the mouth may indicate?
Lying when speaking. Holding a secret when you are talking
Touching the nose may indicate?
Lying, anxiety
Rubbing the eye indicates?
Brain’s attempt to block out deceit, doubt or distasteful thing it sees, or avoid looking at person they are lying to
Ear grab indicates?
Blocking words, lying, anxiety
Scratching atlas 5 times indicates?
Uncertainty, doubt
Pulling the collar?
Indicates lying, anger, frustration
Fingers in mouth indicates? Can also be replaced with sucking on sigarettes, pens, glasses or chewing gum
Feeling under pressure, inner need for reassurance
Supporting head with hand?
Indicates boredom
Drumming fingers on table indicates?
Impatience
Index finger pointing up on face while listening indicates?
They are evaluating
When the hand lightly rests on the cheek and is not used as a head support, this indicates?
Genuine interest
When index finger is pointing up the cheek and the thumb supports the cheek, this indicates?
Is having negative, or critical thoughts about the speaker
Chin stroking indicates?
Person is going through decision-making process
When a person slaps the back of their neck, or rub their neck it indicates?
You are a pain in the neck
When angry, the pupils?
Constrict
When someone becomes excited, the pupils?
Dilate up to x4
The pupils dilates when?
Excited, interested, dark light
The eyebrow flash, indicates?
Fear or suprised. Or. ‘I acknowledge you and am not threatening’, very positive for contact
Lowering eyebrows shows?
Dominance
Raising eyebrows shows?
Submission
Women pluck and redraw their eyebrows higher up the forehead to appear more?
Submissive
Lowering eyelids while simultaneously raising the eyebrows, looking up, and slightly parting lips is a cluster that has been used by women to?
Show sexual submissiveness (also the look before orgasm)
If a person holds your gaze for a long time, what should you look for to indicate whether it is a challenge, or interest?
Pupils, constricted challenge, dilated interest
‘stiff walking’ indicates?
Fear
Walking upright with larger movements, having your front open, you will project?
Confidence, able to defend yourself
Blinking more often indicates?
Being under pressure, f.ex. when lying
Closing eyes for more than 2-3 seconds indicates
you bore them
Darting eyes indicates?
Person is looking for escape routes, insecurity, bored
The social gaze, triangle between eyes and nose is viewed as?
Nonthreatening
The intimate gaze is looking where?
First eyes then down below chin to breast or groin
Where is a person looking if recalling a picture?
Up to their left
Where is a person looking when recalling a sound?
To their left
Where is a person looking when recalling a feeling?
Down to their right
Where is a person looking while talking to themselves?
Down to their left
If a woman steps into your intimate zone and steps out, this signifies? What can you do?
Interest, step into her intimate zone when you make a point
Jiggling the feet is like the brain’s attempt to?
Run away from what is being experienced
Increasing lower body movement is normal when?
Lying
‘At attention’ stance with feet together, shows which attitude?
Neutral
Legs apart, gives which signal?
Dominance?
Foot-forward stance pointing at in one direction indicates?
Who the person is interested in, or towards the exit
Legs crossed indicates?
Closed, submissive, defensive attitude. For women it means either ‘access denied’ or ‘intends to stay, not leave’
When a person sits with both legs and arms crossed, they have?
Emotionally withdrawn from a conversation
Ankle resting over knee, indicates what?
Argumentative or competetive attitude. Viewed as dominant, relaxed, youthful
The ankle lock (of other foot), indicates?
Holding back negative emotions, uncertainty or fear, holding back information
The leg twine, when one foot locks around the the other leg (calf) it is to?
Reinforce an insecure attitude (be warm and friendly to them)
Paralell legs (for women) is done to?
Attract attnetion to her legs
If we are interested in a person or a conversation what do we do with our feet? (placement)
Put one foot forward
If we are disinterested in a person or a conversation, what do we do with our feet? (placement)
Put feet back, under chair for example
Shaking your head while making a statement indicates?
A lie
When the head is lifted high with the chin jutting forward, it indicates?
Superiority, fearlessness, or arrogance
Large chins are a result of?
High testosterone levels
Head tilt inidcates?
Submission, or interest
Head down indicates?
Negative, judgemental or aggressive attitude
The head duck (and raising shoulders) indicates?
Submission, fear, trying to appear smaller not to cause offense to others
Picking imaginary lint indicates?
Disapproval of opinions or attitudes of others, withheld opinion
Research shows that when a man mirrors a woman’s facial expressions as she talks, she will describe him as?
Caring, intelligent, interesting and attractive
When mirroring, if a person does it first, and several others follow, what does this say about the intial person?
Leader, alpha
Smoking is an outward signal of?
Inner turmoil or conflict, need for reassurance
Non-smokers that show anxiety signals would?
Grooming, gum-chewing, nail-biting, finger- and foot tapping, cufflink adjusting, head-scratching, playing with something
Playing with jewelry allows the owner to displace which emtions into them?
Insecurity, fear, impatience, lack of confidence
When smoking, a person who is feeling positive, superior or confident, will blow the smoke in which direction?
Upward direction
When smoking, a person who is feeling negative, secretive, suspicious will blow the smoke in which direction?
Downward direction
Glasses-arm-in-mouth is which kind of gesture?
Reassurance
Looking-over-your glasses has which effect?
Intimidation
Wearing sun-glasses on head indicates?
Youthful, relaxed, cool
A speaker which stands straight and faces the listeners straight on is perceived as?
Aggressive
A speaker which stand with his body away from the listeners is perceived as?
Confident, goal-oriented
When standing with friends, how many degrees angel is perceived as friendly?
45 degrees
When two people want intimacy, which body angel is best?
0 degrees
Crossing the knees toward another person shows a sign of?
Interest in, or acceptance
A woman who is interested will?
Emphasize her breasts, tilting her head, touching her hair, exposing her wrists
What are the 5 stages when attracting another person?
- Eye contact
- Smiling
- Preening (emphasize breasts f.ex.)
- Talk
- Touch
During the preening phase of attraction, what does the woman do?
Emphasizes breasts, crosses legs or ankles to show them, tilts her hips and head, plays with her hair (up to 6 seconds), licks her lips, flick her hair, straighten her clothes and jewelry, pointing feet or body toward the person she wants
The head toss and flick from a woman is done to?
Gain your attention, attraction
As a woman gets aroused, which parts of her body becomes larger and redder as they fill with blood?
Lips, breasts and genitals
When a woman slowly and sensually strokes her thigh, neck, or throat it implies that?
A man may be able to touch her in these same ways (if done right)
The limp wrist is a?
Submission signal, attraction
When a woman fondles a cylindrical object, it indicates?
Sexual thoughts
Taking a ring on and off a finger may indicate?
Thoughs of having sex, infidelity(?)
The wrist area is for women considered to be a highly?
Erotic area because of delicate skin
Women exposing wrists indicates?
Interest, attraction
Sideways-glance over raised shoulder, and then holding the gaze just long enough to get attention, then looking away, indicates?
Strong attraction
Rolling hips is done to?
Attraction, gain attention
If a woman places her handbag close to a man, this indicates?
Strong signal of intimacy
A woman putting one leg tucked under the other, is indicating what?
Knee pointing towards the most interesting man
Danling the shoes on the end of the foot indicates?
Relaxed attitude, sexual indication
When a woman is strongly attracted, what can possibly be seen on the cheek and breasts?
Flushed color on breasts and cheek, red blotches also possible on their chests
Crotch adjustments is done to?
Assert masculinity
When a woman removes lint from your clothes or adjusts your tie, this indicates?
Interest, attraction
Leaning on a person shows?
Dominance, intimidation, ownership
Leaning on doorways that belong to other people is seen as?
Intimidating
