D8 Content Flashcards
1
Q
Would you say you’re emotionally intelligent?
A
I’m probably on the far right of the emotional intelligence bell curve. I’ve spent more than a year of my life total on silent meditation retreats. And I’ve done more than 1,000 therapy sessions. But I’m still tripping over my own mistakes constantly. So no promises I’m any less problematic than any other human being out there. The one thing I can guarantee is this: I’m probably as committed to learning from my mistakes as anyone can be. You can count on that. Otherwise, I’m just a shit show like everybody else.
2
Q
Compliment Techniques
A
- Avoid things they cant choose, like eyes
- Avoid things everyone prob compliments them on
- Choose thing they have put lots of effort into. Or careful decision.
- Choose subtle, detailed things
- Add “it makes me…” to the end
- Compliment other people around you to your date. Or compliment other people in front of your date.
3
Q
Break the 4th wall
A
- We just got totally lost doing blah blah blah
- Omg has this gotten tragically awkward
- Did you just _____??? I love that you just did that!
4
Q
Other People’s Stories List (funniest or most shocking)
A
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5
Q
My Stories (I’m fun & Exciting)
A
- Cuba
- Splitting pants in prison
- Alaska Thunderfuck
- House party room @ Coachella
6
Q
My Stories (Wanted Man)
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- One of my few one night stands was bc Erin & Ian. (Haven’t had one since my 20s I prefer a two-week stand if anything)
- Girl flirting w me w her eyes while at dinner w her dad…. It was not her dad.
- ## Callie changing contacts with “Jess<3<3<3”
7
Q
Bantering
A
- Follow up with a question that is an alleyoop for a joke. Don’t make a joke, set them up for one.
- Misconstrue things to give voice to their repressed parts. If they are snarky, misconstrue things as earnest and show them you feel deeply move and loved and supported. Too much and it’ll seem mean though. Or if they’re innocent and earnest, take pantomime offense.
