Couples Edition Flashcards
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What warning would you give yourself about me at the beginning of the relationship
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2
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What do I dislike that most people love?
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3
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What would I most likely be fired for?
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4
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Describe the first time we met through your perspective in detail
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5
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Draw your partner to the best of your ability
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6
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Maintain eye contact for 30 seconds. What do you notice?
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7
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What do my friends reveal to you about me
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8
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What did you think my type was before?
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9
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What’s my coffee order
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10
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What’s your favourite thing to see me wear? NOTHING DOESN’T COUNT
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11
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Write down how many times a week you think your partner would like to have sex. Compare
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12
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How would you describe by relationship with work in one word?
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13
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What is my biggest pet peeve?
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14
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What do you think is the main way I show/give love?
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15
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What do you think my biggest goal this year is?
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16
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How do I show you I’m upset without telling you I’m upset?
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17
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If our first kiss was a song, what song would it be?
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18
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Do you think I have any unconventional views on love?
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19
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If we weren’t in a relationship, how would you approach me to start a relationship?
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20
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What do you think I’m most sensitive to in a fight or disagreement?
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21
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Did you make any assumptions about me based on my appearance? If so, what?
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22
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How would you describe our first date in one word?
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23
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What is your favourite way to spend time together?
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24
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What was I wearing during our first kiss?
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25
What was I wearing during our first date?
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Have you stalked me on social media? How far? Did you find anything that upset/ confused you?
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Do you think I am a jealous person? Why or why not?
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How would you describe our first date in one word?
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What about me first stood out to you physically?
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Do your best impersonation of each other
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What assumption did you make about me that turned out to be right?
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What assumption did you make about me that turned out to be false?
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What was the first thing you noticed about me that wasn’t physical?
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Write down how well you feel you know your partner on a scale of 1-10. Compare
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If our relationship was a book what would it be called? What chapter would we be on?
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What do I love that most people dislike?
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Between the two of us, who is most likely to make us late for something? Write it down and compare
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On a scale of 1-10 how open do you feel I am with you? Explain
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What was the hardest thing for you to understand about me early on?
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What about me intrigued you when we first started dating?
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Did you fantasize about sleeping with me before we did? What did you think I would be like in bed? Was it accurate?
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What do you think my view on marriage is? Explain
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What do you think I’m most sensitive to?
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What do you think I’m most sensitive to?
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What do you think I’d like to do more often with you?
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How important do you feel physical affection is for me? Explain
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What did your friends think about me when we first started dating?
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What did your friends think about me when we first started dating?
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What’s the most attractive thing I do without realizing?
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Write down one small way you can be better in this relationship. Both players, compare
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What are you currently working through that I haven’t noticed, you have kept hidden from me?
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What song best describes our relationship?
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What feelings are hard for you to communicate with me? How can I make it easier?
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What immediately attracted you to me? What attracted you over time?
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On a scale of 1-10 write down the importance of having kids to you. Compare and explain.
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Write down the top 3 things your partner does that makes you feel loved. Compare
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What about you feels hardest to love?
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What do you wish we did more of?
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What made you fall in love with me?
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What is one story from my past that has shocked or upset you the most?
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What is one story from my past that has shocked or upset you the most?
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What is one story from my past that made you happy or made you love me more?
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What’s the most important lesson a past relationship has taught you?
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Write a love song for your partner. 1 minute. Perform for eachother.
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What recent experience made you feel closer to me?
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How do our strengths and weaknesses compliment eachother?
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How do I show that I love you without telling you?
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How do I show that I love you without telling you?
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When was the last time I hurt you, perhaps unintentionally?
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How have you seen me grow in this relationship?
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Have I helped you change your mind about anything?
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Ask your partner something you’ve never had the courage to ask before.
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How does our age affect us?
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What fear do you think holds me back the most?
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When did you know you wanted to pursue a relationship with me?
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What do I do that turns you on?
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How do you like being touched?
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What makes you feel special?
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Have you ever broken someone’s heart? Have you ever had your heart broken?
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Have you ever said I love you without meaning it?
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How many times have you been in love?
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What makes you feel sexy?
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Describe the first time we had sex
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When do you know you’re in love?
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What are your biggest relationship fears?
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What do you think our life will look like together in a year? Five years?
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Would you rather relive your worst heartbreak or erase them from your memory?
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What are some of the most important lessons you’ve learnt from past relationships?
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What’s something you wish you understood more about me?
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What instantly makes someone more attractive?
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What sex position do you not like? Explain
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What do you always get in your head about when being physically intimate?
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What do you always get in your head about when being physically intimate?
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What’s your favourite kind of foreplay?
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What about your sexuality are you still learning to embrace?
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What are you still trying to unlearn about sex?
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What is your favourite sex position we’ve done?
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Are you friends with any of your exs?
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Name one thing better than sex?
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Admit something you are scared to say
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What song feels like falling in love to you?
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What’s the best lesson an ex has ever taught you?
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What’s something you wish you were better at in relationships?
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What do you think the hardest l’art about dating you is?
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What do you now understand about love that you didn’t before?
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Are you avoiding any hard conversations right now?
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How do you maintain a healthy relationship with yourself while dating?
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What can I help you with?
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How do I make you feel loved? What can I do better?
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What’s something you wish I understood about you better?
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What’s the hardest part about dating me?
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What do you enjoy doing with me the most?
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What about me do you find sexy?
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What are your favourite quirks of mine that I do without realizing?
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What’s the biggest fight you’ve ever been in? What went down?
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What would make you feel closer to me?
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What makes you comfortable to be vulnerable?
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What is the worst I’ve ever hurt you? How can I make it up to you?
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What’s something you have wanted to ask me but have never had the courage?
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What’s something you have wanted to ask me but have never had the courage?
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What’s the worst thing an ex would have to say about you?
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What’s the worst thing an ex would have to say about you?
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What’s something we’ve never done that you want to do with me?
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What is your favourite memory of the two of us?
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What is the worst date you’ve ever been on?
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Do you have any kinks or fetishes?
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What draws you to people?
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Who was your first love?
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What are your sexual fantasies?
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How would you define a good relationship?
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In what ways do you think we’re most compatible?
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Was there anything that surprised you about me the more we got to know eachother?
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Are there any patterns that have been revealed in your past relationships and do you see them happening with us? Are there ways we can avoid or resolve them?
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What boundaries do you have with your family and friends?
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What are the biggest red flags you watch out for? Green flags
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In what ways do I bring out the best in you?
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What are your relationship dealbreakers?
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What parts of our relationship do you think we need to work on?
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What are your romantic relationship boundaries?
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What makes you feel confident in bed?
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What are your relationship triggers?
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How do you deal with conflict?
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Are you able to apologize and take ownership for your mistakes easily? What do you think is a proper apology
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What are your priorities in life?
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How do you communicate when I’ve hurt you?
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What are your favourite compliments to receive?
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What makes you feel truly seen and understood?
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What do you think I don’t understand about you?
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Who in your life is most important for me to get along with?
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What is something that could be an issue in our relationship? What could we do to solve this?
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What are your goals for the future?
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What relationships have been the most damaging for you? How have you healed / how are you healing from them?
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How do you process your emotions?
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What relationship are you trying to repair right now? How are you going about that
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What makes you feel angry or frustrated?
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What makes you feel angry or frustrated?
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What makes you feel disappointed or let down
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What makes you feel disappointed or let down
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What makes you feel abandoned and unseen?
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What makes you feel abandoned and unseen?
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What characteristics or traits in yourself do you want to work on?
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What characteristics or traits in yourself do you want to work on?
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What do you do in your alone time? How much of it do you like?
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What do you do in your alone time? How much of it do you like?
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What similarities in us do you like? What differences do you like?
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What similarities in us do you like? What differences do you like?
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What are your biggest insecurities?
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What are your biggest insecurities?
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How would you describe me to a stranger?
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How would you describe me to a stranger?
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How would you describe yourself to a stranger?
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Which year of your life has been your favourite?
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What makes you the happiest?
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What or who pushes you to grow?
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What is your best memory?
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What emotion do you like feeling the best?
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What makes you feel connected to a person?
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What makes you feel connected to a person?
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Who are your best friends? Describe them
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What makes you feel like the truest version of yourself?
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What do you think is the best way to breakup with someone?
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If someone cheated on you would you rather they confess so you can work on it together or keep it to themselves?
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If someone cheated on you would you rather they confess so you can work on it together or keep it to themselves?
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What do you want your life to look like in ten years?
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What do you want your life to look like in ten years?
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What are you proud of me for?
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Do you get jealous easily?
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Have you ever cheated? Have you ever been cheated on? What do you define as cheating
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Have you ever cheated? Have you ever been cheated on? What do you define as cheating
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Do you have any past sexual trauma? How can I make physical intimacy feel safe for you?
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What about me is the most interesting?
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Do I give you butterflies?
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What part of my life do you want to know more about?
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Are there any things in our relationship that make you feel jealous or insecure? How can we handle these things
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Are there any things in our relationship that make you feel jealous or insecure? How can we handle these things
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Are there any challenges we’ve faced together that have made our bond stronger?
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Are there any challenges we’ve faced together that have made our bond stronger?
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How can we continue to nurture our relationship to ensure we are growing together and not apart?
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How can we continue to nurture our relationship to ensure we are growing together and not apart?
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Which experiences together have been the most meaningful?
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Which experiences together have been the most meaningful?
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How have we influenced eachothers growth?
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How have we influenced eachothers growth?
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What do you appreciate most about our partnership?
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What do you appreciate most about our partnership?
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What is the most romantic thing I’ve done for you recently?
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What is the most romantic thing I’ve done for you recently?
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What has this relationship taught you about yourself?
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What has this relationship taught you about yourself?
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How have I changed you for the better?
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How have I changed you for the better?
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The hardest thing for me to reveal about myself to you was ____
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The hardest thing for me to reveal about myself to you was ____
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Finish the sentence: I am sorry for _____. Write it down. All players
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Finish the sentence: I am sorry for _____. Write it down. All players
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What can we laugh at now that once felt so daunting in our relationship?
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What’s the hardest compromise that you’ve had to make in this relationship?
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What’s the hardest compromise that you’ve had to make in this relationship?
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What’s one way our relationship has gotten better over time?
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What’s one way our relationship has gotten better over time?
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In what way(s) is this relationship different to previous ones?
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Who apologizes first after a fight? Write down and compare
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What fights of ours did you struggle with most? What felt hard about it?
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What fights of ours did you struggle with most? What felt hard about it?
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What’s one small thing I do that tells you everything you need to know about me?
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When do you think I am at my best? Who am I with? What am I doing?
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When do you think I am at my best? Who am I with? What am I doing?
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What did you learn from your parents relationship that you would like to avoid in this one
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What did you learn from your parents relationship that you would like to avoid/ apply in this one
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What did you learn from your parents relationship that you would like to avoid/ apply in this one
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Have I ever betrayed your trust in any way small or big? What would help rebuild that trust?
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When was the last time I made you feel loved when you didn’t feel loveable?
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When was the last time I made you feel loved when you didn’t feel loveable?
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How does social media affect me in my day to day life? How does it affect our relationship
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How does social media affect me in my day to day life? How does it affect our relationship
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What small thing had a big impact on our relationship?
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What’s one small way we can improve our sex life?
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What’s one small way we can improve our sex life?
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Have I changed your world view in any way big or small?
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Have I changed your world view in any way big or small?
