Com 330 Final Exam Flashcards
what is compulsory heterosexulaity?
you must be hetero
what is heteronormativity?
“The view that institutionalized heterosexuality constitutes the standard (normal way) for legitimate and expected social and social relationships.” (Hetero is the norm)
what is the marriage gradient?
Women marry “up,” while men marry “down.” Men tend to marry women who are younger than themselves, have less income, and have less education. Women tend to marry men who are older than themselves, have more income, and have more education. As men get older and richer, their pool of eligible wives becomes larger while the opposite happens for women who get older and richer.
what does the cream of the crop mean?
Older, more educated, higher learning women face a smaller the pool of eligible men who are older, more educated and make more money (they can only “marry down”).
what does the bottom of the barrel mean?
Younger men with lower income- younger women are “higher than them.”
what are the reasons for marriage gradient transition?
The marriage might be changing because work has become a normal part of women’s lives. So “traditional” ideas about marriage (one works, one stays at home) are changing, and so today… women who are educated and financially independent & successful may value other things in a male partner besides a provider role. In sum, a successful educated woman would expand her pool of eligible husbands by not following the marriage gradient.
what is marriage envy?
unmarried women are jealous of other women who are married
what is postfeminism?
the idea that we no longer need feminism. Feminism is considered ‘outdated’ and obsolete because women have achieved equality with men
what is heterosexual imaginary?
The belief system that relies on romance and sacred notions of heterosexuality in order to create and maintain the illusion of well being.
what does schadenfreude mean?
pleasure at the misfortunate of others
What is brideland?
A place where women are the stars and men are secondary figures that serve women- and where women who claim to have feminist beliefs become “enchanted” by the pretty dresses and fantasy of weddings (like the romantic utopia). Men are shadowy figures at the service of women.
what are the 3 components of hegemonic femininity?
1) Heterosexual sex (must be straight)
2) Romance (all women want romance)
3) Beauty: gets the most emphasis in bridal media.
what is bride lit?
Books about weddings and brides.
what is hierophany?
Refers to the “magic” associated with finding the right “one”: especially the perfect wedding dress (“I knew it was the one,” “I feel like a princess”).
what’s the difference between grooms magazines and bride magazines?
Bridal magazines focus on party planning. Little, if any, space is devoted to Relationships (except wedding etiquette). Groom’s magazine had an article on eloping (to Vegas). The article on relationships was titled “For better or worse,” actually cited Gottman and told men they need to tell their wives verbally how much they appreciate them (communication research).
marriage statistics?
95% of all men/women in the U.S. are married by age 55. The median age at first marriage: WOMEN- 25.8 and MEN- 28.3
divorce research?
Divorce is most likely to occur among people who marry at an early age. People who divorce are often unwilling or unable to modify their identities to cope with the new challenges of marriage.
divorce statistics?
1/3 first marriages end before 10 years. Divorced men remarry at higher rates.
Likelihood of marriage lasting more than 10 years: two factors:
1) If both partners are 26 or older
2) If both partners have at least a bachelors degree
From the bachelorette chapter: according to the author of this chapter, what are the two ‘parents’ of the reality television game?
soap opera and documentary
the author mentions ‘the forming of realistic relationships with media personalities’ as defined by horton and wohl, which we know as this two word term:
parasocial interaction
T/F: trista the bachelorette chose ryan after getting to know him, which went against Myth#2: love at first sight
true
regarding the love myth about the right mate completing you, the message regarding being single is….if you’re single, then there must be something ____with you
wrong
T/F: from the bachelorette chapter: regarding the incomplete without a partner myth, the author actually says wanting to share your life with a compatible partner is not a bad thing
true
T/F: from the bachelorette chapter: one of the byproducts of shows like the bachelorette and the bachelor is that they overvalue the importance of getting married
true
T/F: from the bachelorette: the author of this chapter was unable to identify any love myths in the bachelorette, but did find prescriptions
false
from the bachelorette chapter: even though a woman is in the position of power of this show, how do traditional gender roles and the hetersexual script become reasserted in this program in terms of proposal?
the man still makes the proposal
myths/ prescriptions in the bachelorette premiere episode:
myth#1: perfect partner is predestined RX: consider countless candidates myth#2: love at first sight myth#3: soul mate should know what you're thinking rx#3: communicate courageously myth#5: woman should look like a model rx#5: cherish completeness myth#10: the right mate completes you myth#11: actors/actresses are like the characters they play
from the bachelor ch: besides the central myth examined by the author, what two other myths does the author discuss that the bachelor discuss?
myth#5: a woman should look like a model/centerfold
myth#6: the man should not be shorter, weaker, younger, poorer, etc…