Character Building & Taking Responsibility

Question 1

Aristotle wrote, ______________.

Answer 1

“All advancement in society begins with the development of the character of the young.”
This means that advancement in your life begins with the learning and practice of values.

Question 2

The word “character” derives from the Greek _______ (χαράσσω), which means “__________”.

Answer 2

kharassō, I engrave

Question 3

Character building __________________.

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experiences take us out of our comfort zones and force us to ‘dig deep’ to find new resources within ourselves.

Question 4

The experiences that we have when we are young are ___________________________. That is why Schools are in the profession or institution to train people of character-building.

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particularly influential for they shape the adult that we become

Question 5

Character is a psychological notion that refers to all the habitual ways of ________________.

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feeling and reacting that distinguish one individual from another.

Question 6

Sigmund Freud had a sustained interest in the question of character formation __________________.

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since it touches on the major themes that interested him: “anatomo-physiological destiny,” memory traces, and, more generally, the role of acquired traits, as well as the function of sublimation with regard to the “remains” of the pregenital libido.

Question 7

“Core“ - __________________________.

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pertains to what one is inwardly-the very essence of one’s being. This quality of character often becomes evident when one is under stress and pressure.

Question 8

‘Consistency” - ________________________.

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means one strives always to do what is right. Somebody called this attitude “habits of the heart.”

Question 9

“Cost” - ____________________________.

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relates to what one is willing to sacrifice/ dedication to live by his convictions.

Question 10

Abraham Lincoln

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Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.

Question 11

Booker T. Washington

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Character is power.

Question 12

Heraclitus (535 - 475)

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A man’s character is his fate.

Question 13

“Character building” ___________________.

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is experiences which teach you some of life’s lessons; lessons like keep your word, pay attention, don’t run with sharp objects.

Question 14

Many character building experiences hurt _________________.

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and may contain a “significant emotional experience”.

Question 15

Character building themes ______________.

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for kids and others: it sounds simple. Schools should teach character-building. Unfortunately many schools do not consider this an important subject. However, the trend is changing. Parent and civic groups have urged school groups to include character-building in the curriculum.

Question 16

Respect: What does this mean?

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It is to show regard for the worth of someone else as well as yourself. If you don’t respect yourself you can’t respect others. So respect starts with yourself and in taking pride in your achievements and your potential. It also fosters self-control of your actions and emotions so as not to hurt other people’s feelings.

Question 17

Respect also should be shown to people in positions of _______________.

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responsibility and authority such as parents, teachers, ministers, librarians, police and firefighters. Along with that should be an appreciation for the importance of the effort these people made to become authority figures. They have had to go through years of training in school and through internship before joining the ranks. The final element of respect is to be punctual. When you have an appointment or tell someone you will meet them at a certain time, be prompt.

Question 18

Open the discussion on respect ______.

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with questions rather than answers.

Question 19

We learn Values in one or all of three ways:

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Instruction, Study, and Practice

Question 20

Values _______________.

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must be taught from childhood to present, consistently without failure. This is the foundation of once character.

Question 21

One of the chief roles of parenting ________.

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is to teach children values. This requires patient instruction and explaining values to them over and over again as they are growing up.

Question 22

Parents must not only give illustrations ____.

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but also contrast the adherence to a value,

Question 23

Children are very susceptible to the lessons they receive ___.

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from the important people in their lives as they are growing up. They accept what you say as their parent as a fact, as absolute truth. They absorb what you say like a sponge. You write your description of values on their souls, which are like wet clay, so that what you write becomes a permanent mark of the way they see the world and relate to life.

Question 24

The core virtue of character is:

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TRUTH

Question 25

The Law of Concentration says, that:

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“Whatever you dwell upon yourself will grow and increase in your life.”

Question 26

Once these values are “programmed” into your subconscious, _____.

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they create a propensity within you to behave naturally and consistently with those values when the situation requires them. These values will become part of your personality because that is your TRUTH.

Question 27

Thoughts are powerful activity of your mind, ________.

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when habitually done, it can command the body to execute it and later becomes part of your character. TRUTH that is based on Empirical Truth.

Question 28

Empirical truth __________________________.

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is based on evidence, research and reason. It is the truth that scientists seek. It is the truth that people seek when they want to achieve predictable results. Empirical truth is hard to establish and can be inconvenient when it does not serve an immediate need. Politicians and other persuaders love it when it buttresses their policies, but they hate it when such truths point the other way. In relation to time, empirical truth is more about past proof and future value than any present purpose.

Question 29

Empirical truth is the truth of science, which is driven by the ___________.

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principle of empiricism. It is determined through a combination of previously established empirical truths and rigorous experimentation that may be challenged by other scientists before it is accepted as truth.

Question 30

Convenient truth _________________.

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is based on need, desire and emotion. It is the truth that deceivers seek. It is the truth that people seek when they want to be right when they suspect they are wrong. In relation to time, convenient truth is about now and worries little about the past or future. Convenient truth is the truth of populist politicians and journalists, who seek to persuade without worrying too much about empirical truth. Convenient truth is established through confident repetition, assertion and sheer power.

Question 31

EMULATE THE PEOPLE YOU MOST ADMIRE

Answer 31

1: Do a self-inventory.

#2: Research the person you admire.
#3: Set up an informational interview.
#4: Follow up.
#5: Create a vision board.
#6: Set goals.
#7: Challenge yourself and be courageous.

Question 32

Specific

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Know exactly what you are wanting to accomplish.

Question 33

Measurable

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How will you know you met your goal?

Question 34

Achievable

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Make sure your goal is not too far to reach, but far enough to be challenging.

Question 35

Relevant

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Link the goal to something important to you; something that inspires you.

Question 36

Timely

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When do you want your goal to be met?

Question 37

As the Roman Stoic philosopher Epictetus said, __________.

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“Circumstances do not make the man; they merely reveal him to himself”.

Question 38

We develop values by?

Answer 38

repetition

Question 39

Men and women with highly developed characters behave in a manner _____________.

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consistent with their highest values,

Question 40

One of the first steps involves taking an inventory about where you are in life, what you value, and looking about the future. Consider writing down your achievements over the last five years and then adding comments about where you’d like to be in the next 5 years. This applies both personally and professionally. If you are someone who gets caught up in your own thoughts or have been told to “get out of your own way” or “don’t care about what other people think”, you’ll want to think about the connection between your thoughts and actions a little more closely. A trusted friend, family member, or therapist can help guide you if you’re feeling stuck.

Answer 40

1: Do a self-inventory.

Question 41

While this may not always be possible, try your best to make a connection. Informational interviews may seem elementary but can be an incredibly powerful tool. Think about all of the things that you admire about this person and then write out a list of questions to ask. The goal is to pay attention to the path this person took to be successful or achieve something specific and then ask how they got there. If you admire certain personality traits, ask about this person’s life accomplishments and struggles. If the person is known personality, they might have books that you can read or write ups that will give information about their struggles and successes.

Answer 41

3: Set up an informational interview.

Question 42

While this may not always be possible, try your best to make a connection. Informational interviews may seem elementary but can be an incredibly powerful tool. Think about all of the things that you admire about this person and then write out a list of questions to ask. The goal is to pay attention to the path this person took to be successful or achieve something specific and then ask how they got there. If you admire certain personality traits, ask about this person’s life accomplishments and struggles. If the person is known personality, they might have books that you can read or write ups that will give information about their struggles and successes.

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3: Set up an informational interview.

Question 43

Gather as much information as you can about this person in general as well as the things that they’ve accomplished. The internet is a powerful tool for helping us do basic and more in-depth research on people, places, and things. Start by researching this person in general and then if there is a basic theme in the information that you’re gathering, consider a deeper search. If this person is well known in your community or on a broader scale, your local librarian might have a tip or two about narrowing down or broadening your search.

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2: Research the person you admire.

Question 44

Now that you know more about what made this person admirable, it’s time to take your thoughts and put them into action. One of the easiest ways to do this is by creating a vision board. One idea is to create categories of personality
traits or actions that you admire.

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5: Create a vision board.

Question 45

After the interview, be sure to follow up. A handwritten thank you note or e-mail expressing your appreciation for their time is a small gesture that goes a long way. You will want to use your networking skills to continue to follow up with this person periodically if you would like to build and maintain a connection. Ideas for following up include: e-mailing a recent news article that is related to a topic you’ve talked about or the work this person does, congratulating them on an accomplishment that you’ve learned about, or inviting them to coffee.

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4: Follow up.

Question 46

Review your vision board and create actionable goals. Start small to build your confidence and then start setting bigger goals. Becoming someone who has traits similar to the person you admire takes persistence and time, so make sure your goals are sustainable, attainable, and time sensitive.

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6: Set goals.

Question 47

More likely than not, you will be working on changing your thought processes and actions. Committing to this is an incredibly courageous thing, so give yourself flexibility to laugh and celebrate the smaller milestones as you work on a journey of self-exploration and transformation. As you embark on this journey, channel positivity and surround yourself with people who will keep you motivated along the way. Be bold and fearless in the face of obstacles and adversity and you will be on your way to becoming like the person you admire.

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7: Challenge yourself and be courageous.

Question 48

With great power comes __________.

Answer 48

great responsibility.

Question 49

No excuses by:

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Brian Tracy

Question 50

Your ability and willingness to discipline yourself to accept personal responsibility ____________.

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for your life are essential to happiness, health, achievement, personal leadership and success.

Question 51

Accepting responsibility is one of the hardest of all disciplines, __________.

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but without it, no SUCCESS is possible. Every person who are willing to accept responsibility are people who wants to do the work, willing to learn, can lead and are actually a character of successful people.

Question 52

This means that the more you accept responsibility, _______________.

Answer 52

the greater sense of control you experience.

Question 53

The more you feel that you have a high “sense of control” in the important areas of your life, ___________.

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the more positive and happy you are in everything you do.

Question 54

When you accept responsibility, you feel strong:

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strong, powerful, purposeful

Question 55

Accepting responsibility eliminates the negative emotions that ____________.

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rob you of happiness and contentment.

Question 56

In every situation, the antidote to negative emotions _____________.

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is to say, “I am responsible.”

Question 57

Your intelligence is like a _____________.

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double-edged sword: It can cut in either direction.

Question 58

You can use your intelligence to:

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rationalize, justify, and blame other people for things you are not happy about, or you can use your intelligence to find reasons why you are responsible for what happened and then take action to solve the problem or resolve the situation. You can make excuses or you can move on and make progress or resolve your problem.

Question 59

Things that we are at fault is our responsibility to _______________.

Answer 59

accept and take action to fix it and things which is not our fault is also our responsibility based on how we will react or feel about it and respond to the given situation.

Question 60

The fastest and most dependable way to eliminate negative emotions is to immediately say, _________________.

Answer 60

“I am responsible!” Whenever something happens that triggers anger or a negative reaction of any kind, quickly neutralize the feelings of negativity by saying, “I am responsible.” But never blame yourself, responsibility means, taking action and solution.

Question 61

The Law of Substitution says:

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that you can substitute a positive thought for a negative one.

Question 62

Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, when you deliberately choose the positive thought, “I am responsible,” you cancel out_________________. NO BLAME GAME!

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blame but instead take action and make solution

Question 63

It is not possible to accept responsibility and:

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remain angry at the same time. It is not possible to accept responsibility and experience negative emotions. It is not possible to accept responsibility without becoming calm, clear, positive, and focused once more.

Question 64

As long as you are blaming someone else for something in your life that you don’t like, you will remain a?

Answer 64

mental child. You continue to see yourself as small and helpless, like a victim. You continue to lash out.

Question 65

However, when you begin to accept responsibility for everything that happens to you, you transform yourself into a?

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mental adult. You will see yourself as being in charge of your own life, and no longer a victim. That you can take action or make better solution; be assertive to talk about it and be proactive or find ways to solve it.

Question 66

In Alcoholics Anonymous, _________________.

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a mutual aid fellowship on people who are having problems with drinking, attend meetings with others going through the same situation.

Question 67

The change must start from __________.

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bringing responsibility to change and promise wholeheartedly to have a goal in life and live by it.

Question 68

The mark of the leader, the ________________, is that he or she ____________________.

Answer 68

truly superior person, accepts complete responsibility for the situation

Question 69

This sense of “response-ability” ____________.

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is the mark of the highly developed personality.

Question 70

Furthermore, you especially do not allow yourself to be angry and unhappy in the present because of unhappy experiences or situations from the past. You say:

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“What cannot be cured must be endured.”

Question 71

As Helen Keller said, ______________.

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“When you turn toward the sunshine, the shadows fall behind you.” Then what is the point thinking about negative past?

Question 72

Any self-discipline, self-mastery, and self-control begin with taking responsibility on your emotions. You take charge of your emotions by accepting ______________________________________________________________________. A person that can master herself can control her emotions and can refuse to make excuses, complain, criticize, or blame other people for anything. Instead, you say, “I am responsible,” and then take action to solve the situation or have self control over her emotions and look closely on how to solve it or let go and move on.

Answer 72

100 percent responsibility for yourself and for your responses to everything that happens to you

Question 73

The Only Way To Solve Problem __________.

Answer 73

Is To Take Action.

Question 74

The only real answer for anger or worry is __________.

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purposeful action towards the direction of your goals.

Question 75

When you exert your __________ and _________ in the acceptance of personal responsibility for your life, you take complete control of your _________ and _________. By doing so, you become a much more _________, _______, and __________ in everything you do.

Answer 75

self-discipline, willpower, thoughts, feelings, effective, happy, positive person