Chapter Nine - Communicating Sexually Flashcards
Attention Stage of Flirting and Courtship
the precursor to courtship, tactics are usually subtle (liking IG post)
Courtship Readiness Stage of Flirting and Courtship
person who made the first move trie do determine if the other person is interested. Subtle enough to back out (smiling, gazing).
Positioning Stage of Flirting and Courtship
Get closer in distance, lean in, gaze and smile at each other, display interest through expression and voice.
Invitations and Sexual Arousal Stage of Flirting and Courtship
Subtle touch and sexual contact. Sexually provocative actions
occur including sex, kissing, unbuttoning shirt, crossing legs to show thigh, etc.; use emojis and send
provocative pictures.
Resolution Stage of Flirting and Courtship
Where you determine if the invitation was accepted
Hinting and Indirect Strategies (for sex initiation)
Indirect communication like compliments, sexual innuendo, hints, & non-verbals. Face saving & safe id partner does not respond in kind.
Expression of Closeness (strategy for sex initiation)
Decelerations of love and attraction»_space; men and women are more comfortable sexually if they are physically and emotionally close.
Logic and Reasoning (strategy for sex initiation)
Persuading someone that it is advantageous to become sexually involved; overcome partner’s concern with logic or negotiation (ex: Not tonight, I have a headache. Sex can fix that!)
Pressure and Manipulation (strategy for sex initiation)
Includes coercive behaviors like repeated requests for sex, threats to break off relationship, use of drugs/booze to decrease resistance, and deception = relational dissatisfaction
Antisocial Acts (strategy for sex initiation)
Responding to refusal by engaging in negative behaviors like trying to make a partner jealous, pouting, holding a grudge, or sexually harassing.
Pillow Talk
takes place after sexual intercourse or sexual climax, often accompanied by relaxation,
physical and psychological closeness, cuddling, and pleasant conversation, including expressions of
affection and liking.
Hookups
Spontaneous, casual sexual encounter with an acquaintance or stranger who is not a regular dating partner with no expectations of a long term relationship (can range from making out to sex). Little communication after sex, people even ignore each other so they don’t lead each other on.
Friends with benefits
Friends or acquaintances who decide to have a sexual relationship but not be a romantic couple. Subtypes include “true” (close) friends who have sex, serial hookups, and various types of transitions into and out of relationships (ex’s having sex after break up). More satisfying than hookups because people continue to have a relationship after.
Traditional Flirting Style
Men chase, women respond. Men communicate their interest more verbally, women express interest through non-verbals.
Physical Flirting Style
Communicating sexual and romantic interest, includes more reference to physical appearance, more touching, and more sexual innuendo.
Sincere Flirting Style
Based on creating an emotional bond and is often perceived as an honest and effective way to make a real connection with someone.
Playful Flirting Style
Based on the idea that flirting can be fun, does not necessarily need to be tied to starting a relationship with someone.
Polite Flirting Style
Revolves around caution and the idea that expression of sexual interest is inappropriate.
