Chapter 9 Pt1: Love and Sexuality (ppt) Flashcards
Why do adolescents date?
- recreation (fun and enjoyment)
- learning (becoming more skilled)
- Status (impressing others by how often one dates and whom)
4.Companionship (sharing pleasurable activities with another person) - Intimacy (establishing an emotional relationship)
- Courtship (seeking someone to have as a steady partner)
What are the qualities adolescents look for when forming romantic relationships?
- physical attractiveness
- interpersonal qualities such as:
. support
. intimacy
. communication
. commitment
. passion
What is a Dating Script?
cognitive models that guide interactions in adolescents’ love relationships
they are still influenced by gender, with the power mostly on the side of boys
What is a Proactive dating script?
- followed by males
- initiating the date
- deciding where to go
- controlling the public domain (driving the car)
- initiating sexual contact
What is a Reactive dating script?
- followed by females
- private domain (dressing and grooming)
- responding to the male’s gesture in the public domain (being picked-up)
- responding to his sexual initiatives
What is Sternberg’s Theory of Love?
different types of love involve combining three fundamental qualities of love in different ways
What are Sternberg’s three fundamental qualities of love?
• Passion:
- physical attraction and sexual desire
- emotional as well as physical
- may involve intense emotions such as anxiety, delight, anger, and jealousy
• Intimacy:
- feelings of closeness and emotional attachment
- mutual understanding
- mutual support
- open communication about issues not discussed with anyone else.
• Commitment:
- loving someone over the long run, through ups and downs that are often part of love
- commitment is what sustains a long term relationship through fluctuations in passion and intimacy.
How are these 3 qualities of love combined?
7 Different forms:
Forms of Love Passion Intimacy Commitment
Liking: no yes no
Infatuation: yes no no
empty love: no no yes
romantic love: yes yes no
compassionate love: no yes yes
fatuous: yes no yes
consummate love: yes yes yes
How does Sternberg’s theory apply to adolescents?
- commitment is either missing or highly tentative (love relationships)
- commitment tends to develop in emerging adulthood, when young people begin looking more seriously for someone with whom they may have a lifelong love relationship.
What are the two principal types of adolescent love?
due to the absence of long term commitment:
- infatuation
- romantic love
How is adolescent passion in non-western cultures?
in traditional cultures, adolescents fall passionately in love but they are not allowed to act on their feelings
romantic love (not arranged) as the basis for marriage is a fairly new cultural idea
What is Consensual validation?
- people like to fin in others an agreement, consensus, with their own characteristics
- finding this consensus supports, validates, their own way of looking at the world
Characteristics: physical attractiveness, intelligence, social class, ethnic background, religious beliefs.
What do Attachment Styles resemble?
attachment styles between lovers have been found to resemble the secure and insecure parent-child attachment styles
What are the two types of attachment styles?
• Secure
- emotional support and concern for the partner’s wellbeing
• Insecure
- either an excess of dependence on the partner or an excess of distance
What is Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love?
developmental model of adolescent love that recognizes the important role played by peers and friends.
What is phase 1 of Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love?
Initiation Phase
- first tentative explorations of romantic interests
- usually superficial and brief, and often fraught with anxiety and fear, in addition to excitement.
What is phase 2 of Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love?
Status Phase
- begin to gain confidence in their skill at interacting with potential romantic partners
- remain acutely aware of the evaluations of their friends and peers
What is phase 3 of Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love?
Affection Phase
- adolescents come to know each other better and express deeper feelings for each other, as well as engaging in more extensive sexual activity
What is phase 4 of Brown’s Model of Adolescent Love?
Bonding Phase
- romantic relationship becomes more enduring and serious, partners begin to discuss the possibility of a lifelong commitment to each other
- usually occur in emerging adulthood rather than adolescence
What traits are looked for in choosing a marriage partner?
• Highest Ranking Traits
- mutual attraction
- dependable character
- emotional stability
- maturity
• Lowest Ranking Traits
- religious/political backgrounds
- good financial prospects
- having a lot of money
sharpest cross cultural division was on the issue of chastity
How are arranged marriages seen in cultures?
• Although romantic love is found in all cultures, it is not considered the proper basis of marriage in all cultures
• Marriage has more often been seen by cultures as an alliance between two families rather than as the uniting of two individuals
• The most important considerations in an arranged marriage is the other family’s status, religion, and wealth
How has Globalization affected arranged marriages?
• Even cultures with a tradition of arranged marriage are beginning to change in their marriage expectations through the influence of globalization
• Globalization has increased the extent to which young people value individual choice and the individual’s pursuit of happiness
• Today, in most Eastern cultures, the “semi-arranged marriage” is the most common practice
How is Cohabitation seen across cultures?
• In Western countries, marriage no longer marks the beginning of living with a romantic partner
• In the United States as well as in northern European countries, cohabitation before marriage is now experienced by at least two-thirds of emerging adults
• Highest in Sweden, where nearly all young people cohabit before marriage
• Cohabitation tends to be brief and unstable for young Americans
• But couples in European countries tend to stay together as long as married couples
