Chapter 3.3 Flashcards
Compare the key communication skills that help achieve desired outcomes
Name 5 purposes of questioning in negotiations
- To condition the other party
- To suggest you are naive/unaware of something
- To create an impression that you are more knowledgable about the subject matter than you actually are
- To test the honesty of the other party by, for examples, asking about something you already know the answer to
- To create and sustain movement in a negotiation if it stalls
Name 5 questioning styles
- Open questions
- Closed questions
- Probing questions
- Hypothetical questions
- Multiple questions
Sales tactics
Sales training gives the other party (a sales person) a number of tactics and processes, for example one international sales school promotes ‘open question, open question, open question, closed question’ as a process. Remember to ABC (always be closing)
When are open questions typically used
At the opening and testing stages of negotiation to uncover needs and underlying motives
What do probing questions aim to do
Elicit more detailed information on the back of the answer elicited from open questions
What are probing questions useful for?
To check that the supplier fully understands their offering as well as your needs
When are hypothetical questions useful?
At the testing and proposal stages
What are closed questions a signal of
That the negotiation is moving into the bargaining and potentially closing phases
Effective listening
Remember that you have two ears, two eyes and a mouth, so use your mouth for just 20% of the engagement
Do good listeners usually turn out to be the best negotiators?
Yes
Name 3 pitfalls negotiators may fall into that hinder effective listening
- They think of negotiation as primarily a job of persuasion, and to them, this means talking
- They tend to over-prepare for what they are going to say net and use their listening time just waiting for their next opportunity to speak
- They fail to hear what they do not want to hear
Name the 8 rules of attentive listening
- Be motivated to listen
- Be alert to non-verbal cues
- Do not interrupt when the other party is speaking
- Fight off distractions
- Write everything down
- Listen with a goal in mind
- Give the other party your undivided attention
- React to the message not the person
Hearing and listening. Which is active and which is passive
Hearing is passive and listening is active
Name the 9 different methods to improve listening skills
- Probing
- Encouragers
- Restating
- Summarising
- Reflecting
- Giving feedback
- Emotion labelling
- Validation
- Use pauses and silence
What do push behaviours rely on?
pressure
What do pull behaviours rely on?
Influence
What is push also known as
Directive
What is pull also known as
Collaborative
What is directive/push
An individual-driven persuasion style in which the person seeking to influence another declares their own view/idea in the expectation that it will be accepted and followed by the other
What 4 situations is the directive/push approach most effective?
- The influencer is an expert while the followers are not
- The people being influenced are new/inexperienced
- The situation necessitates very speedy action
- The situation involves a safety or security critical issue or a strict deadline
What is a risk of the directive/push approach
If it is not used effectively the influencer risks developing a reputation for being heavy handed and dictatorial
What is collaborative/pull
A team-oriented persuasion style in which the person seeking to influence another involves the other party in the decision making process. All parties are encouraged to offer views and ideas about the issue