Chapter 11: Attraction, love and communication Flashcards
Mere-exposure effect
The tendency to like a person more if we have been exposed to them repeatedly.
Homophily
the tendency to have contact with people who are equal in social status.
Matching phenomenon
The tendency for people to choose as partners people who match them, that is, who are similar in attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness.
Fluctuating asymmetry
Asymmetry of bilateral features that are on average symmetrical in the population.
Intimacy
A quality of relationships characterized by commitment, feelings od closeness and trust, and self-disclosure.
Self-disclosure
Telling personal thing about yourself.
Eros
According to love styles theory, a powerful physical attraction to the loved person.
Ludus
According to the love style theory, a playful type of love.
Storge
In love styles theory, a very stable, reliable type of love.
Passionate love
A state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal.
Companionate love
A feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person with whom one has an intimate relationship.
Two-component theory of love
The theory that two conditions must exist simultaneously for passionate love to occur: physiological arousal and attaching a cognitive label (“love”) to the feeling.
Misattribution of arousal
When a person in a state of physiological arousal attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present.
Intent
What the speaker means.
Impact
What someone else understands the speaker means.
Effective communicator
A communicator whose impact matches their intent.
“I” language
Speaking for yourself, using the word “I”.
Mind reading
Making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels.
Documenting
Giving specific examples of the issue being discussed.
Leveling
Telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly.
Editing
Censoring or not saying things that would be deliberately hurtful to your partner or that are irrelevant.
Paraphrasing
Saying, in your own words, what you thought your partner meant.
Nonverbal communication
Communication not through words, but through the body.
Validation
Telling your partner that, given their point of view, you can see why they think a certain way.
