Chapter 1 Flashcards
Humans have two contrary selves within us, a “lower” and a “higher”…. Which tends to be stronger?
The Lower self
The Ancient Greek word for “mind” or “intelligence”, the force that permeates the universe creating meaning and order
Nous
Like everyone, you think you are ________, but you are not.
Rational
Whenever anything goes wrong in our life, we naturally seek ________________.
An explanation
The first step toward becoming rational is to understand our ____________.
Fundamental irrationality
For millions of years, living organisms depended on finely tuned ________ for survival.
Instincts
It has been shown that ________ can feel envy and desire for vengeance, among other emotions.
Chimpanzees
The mammalian brain is composed of three parts. ________ __________ ___________
Reptilian, old mammalian/limbic brain, neocortex
Instinctive part of the brain that controls all automatic responses and regulates the body
Reptilian
Part of the brain that governs feeling and emotion.
Old mammalian/limbic brain
Part of the brain that controls cognition, and for humans, language.
Neocortex
__________ people rush into action without carefully considering the ramifications and consequences.
Irrational
When it comes to hiring an assistant or partner, rational people will use _________ as a barometer.
Competence
Acquiring rationality is a _______ step process
Three
First step of acquiring rationality
Must become aware of low-grade irrationality.
Second step of acquiring rationality
Understand the nature of high-grade irrationality
Third step of acquiring rationality
Enact strategies and exercises that strengthen the thinking part of the brain
I look at the evidence and arrive at my decisions through more or less rational processes. Finding evidence that confirms what we WANT to believe.
Confirmation bias
I believe in this ideas so strongly. It must be true.
Conviction bias
I understand the people I deal with; I see them just as they are.
Appearance bias
My ideas are my own. I do not listen to the group. I am not a conformist
The group bias
I learn from my experience and mistakes.
The blame bias
I’m different. I’m more rational than others, more ethical as well.
Superiority bias
Name the 5 inflaming factors
1.Trigger points from early childhood
2.Sudden gains and losses
3.Rising pressure
4.Inflaming individuals
5.The group effect
The emotional self thrives on ______
Ignorance
Accept people as ______.
Facts
Ancient Greek metaphor for proper ratio and balance
The rider and the horse
Our survival and happiness depends on the ________ we form with others.
Bonds
People who lack a coherent sense of self.
Deep narcissists
When is the key moment in constructing a “self” that we can hold on to and love?
Between the ages of 2-5 years old
The nightmare for deep narcissists generally arrives in their _________?
Twenties and thirties
A variety of narcissist who is more dangerous and toxic due to the levels of power they can attain.
Narcissistic leader
We are all on the spectrum of ______________.
Self-absorption
____________ have a stronger, even more resilient sense of self. They tend to hover closer to the top of the scale and recover quickly from wounds and insults.
Healthy narcissists
The four components of the empathic skill set?
- Empathic attitude
- Visceral empathy
- Analytic empathy
- The empathic skill
When we make a mistake, we attribute it to circumstances that pushed us into doing it. But when others make a mistake, we tend to see it as a character flaw, as something that flowed from their imperfect personality. This is known as?
Attribution bias
This kind of empathy depends largely on mirror neurons- those neurons that fire in our brain when we watch someone do something.
Visceral empathy
The physical effect of mirroring people on any level and will draw out an empathetic response from them.
The chameleon effect
There are people out there who are not worth the effort—-
Supreme fools or true psychopaths
Who said “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.”
- Abraham Lincoln
What are the two types of feedback regarding empathetic skill?
Direct and indirect
What are the two types of feedback regarding empathetic skill?
Direct and indirect
What are the 4 examples of narcissistic types?
- The complete control narcissist
- The Theatrical narcissist
- The narcissistic couple
- The healthy narcissist (mood reader)
A highly strenuous dance that included much squatting and kicking.
The Gopak
