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Question 1

All the individuals who meet a person’s criteria as a potential romantic partner

Answer 1

field of eligible

Question 2

Theory that people tend to seek romantic and sexual partners who possesses a level of physical attractiveness similar to their own

Answer 2

Matching hypothesis

Question 3

Theory hat the closer you are to another person in geographical distance, the greater he probability that you will grow to like or even love that person

Answer 3

Proximity effect

Question 4

Psychological principle that humans appear to have a natural and usually unconscious tendency to grow fonder of a “normal stimulus” the more often they are exposed to it

Answer 4

Mere exposure effect

Question 5

Subtle behaviors designed to signal sexual or romantic interest in another person

Answer 5

Flirting

Question 6

The five steps in typical flirting episodes

Answer 6

1) approach
2) talk
3) swivel and turn
4) touch
5) synchronization

Question 7

idea that someone you like or love likes or loves you ask - reciprocates your feelings - with approximately the same degree of intensity

Answer 7

Reciprocity of attraction

Question 8

— — ‘s theory that 3 fundamental components of love (—, — , and —.) in various combinations, define the qualities of a relationship

Answer 8

Triangular theory of love
Robert Sternberg
Intimacy, passion, and commitment

Question 9

Love based on passion but lacking intimacy and commitment, very sexual but shallow

Answer 9

infatuation

Question 10

Love based on commitment but lacking intimacy or real passion

Answer 10

Empty love

Question 11

Intimacy only

Answer 11

Liking (good friends)

Question 12

Passion only

Answer 12

infatuation (only in the moment)

Question 13

Commitment only

Answer 13

Empty love (attraction is not reciprocated, unlikely future) 
Fatal attraction/ stalker/ "for the sake of the kids"

Question 14

Intimacy and passion

Answer 14

Romantic love (short-term, intensely romantic, emotional and personal) brief affairs

Question 15

Passion and commitment

Answer 15

Fatuous love (lack intimacy, don’t really like each other, never achieved intimate communication) absurd, foolish, pointless

Question 16

Commitment and intimacy

Answer 16

companionate love (true love, committed, no sexual arousal.) companions

Question 17

Intimacy, passion, and commitment

Answer 17

Consummate love ( most completely fulfilling love, rare, difficult to find, harder to maintain)

Question 18

—’s theory that people follow individual psychological motifs o styles in relating to a love partner

Answer 18

Lee

Style of Love

Question 19

Erotic, passionate style of love often characterized by short-lived relationships

Answer 19

Eros love

Question 20

A love style characterized by caring and friendship

Answer 20

Storge love

Question 21

Possessive, dependent, and often controlling style of love

Answer 21

Mania love

Question 22

A love style in which partners are selected in a businesslike way on the basis of rational, practical criteria

Answer 22

pragma love

Question 23

A love style focused on giving the partner whatever he or she may want or need without expectation of receiving anything in return

Answer 23

Agape love

Question 24

—’s examples of communication

Answer 24

John Gottman’s
Validating
Volatile
Conflict-avoiding

Question 25

—’s four warning signs

“Four Horsemen of the relationship apocalypse”

Answer 25

1) criticism
2) contempt
3) defensiveness
4) stonewalling

Question 26

Verbal fault-finding, such as commenting on character flaws

Answer 26

criticism

Question 27

Disrespect, disgust, or hate expressed when the positive feelings partners once had for each other have dissipated

Answer 27

contempt

Question 28

Relying on. Passive form of power and aggression by being — when disagreements and disputes erupt

Answer 28

Stonewalling

Unresponsive

Question 29

5 keys of communication by —, — and —

Answer 29

Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, and Susan Bloomberg
1 - decide don’t slide
2 - do your part
3 - make it safe to connect
4 - open the doors to positive connections
5- nature your commitment

Question 30

Revealing private sexual thoughts and feelings to another person

Answer 30

Sexual self-disclosure

Question 31

Sexual self-disclosure can be caused by (6)

Answer 31

1. Lack of information (knowledge)
2. Embarrassment
3. Insecurity about using the right words
4. Sexual taboos
5. Fear of judgment
6. Fear of rejection

Question 32

10 reasons why relationships fail

1. Lack of – —
2. Acceptance of sexual — and —
3. Ineffective —
4. — of decision making power
5. Low self esteem, —, and lack of self —
7. Failing to — —, lying, or —
8. Excessive —
9. — behaviors
10. — and —

Answer 32

1. self-knowledge
2. Myths and stereotypes
3. communication4.
4. . Imbalance
5. Insecurity, self confidence
6. Isolation
7. Keep promises, cheating
8. Jealousy
9. Controlling
10. Abuse and violence

Question 33

IPV refers to

Answer 33

Intimate partner violence (relationship abuse, domestic violence)

Question 34

Types of relationship abuse (3)

Answer 34

Physical, verbal, emotional

Question 35

The repetitive pattern of stages the define most abusive and violent relationships, cycling through the — — phase, the — —- phase, and the — of —-. following the return of the — —- phase and the beginning of a new cycle

Answer 35

Cycle of abuse
Honeymoon
Tension-building
Explosion of violence

Question 36

Statistics show that — of all women who are murdered in the united states are killed by their male partners

Answer 36

1/3 (one-third)