ch 4 Flashcards
All the individuals who meet a person’s criteria as a potential romantic partner
field of eligible
Theory that people tend to seek romantic and sexual partners who possesses a level of physical attractiveness similar to their own
Matching hypothesis
Theory hat the closer you are to another person in geographical distance, the greater he probability that you will grow to like or even love that person
Proximity effect
Psychological principle that humans appear to have a natural and usually unconscious tendency to grow fonder of a “normal stimulus” the more often they are exposed to it
Mere exposure effect
Subtle behaviors designed to signal sexual or romantic interest in another person
Flirting
The five steps in typical flirting episodes
1) approach
2) talk
3) swivel and turn
4) touch
5) synchronization
idea that someone you like or love likes or loves you ask - reciprocates your feelings - with approximately the same degree of intensity
Reciprocity of attraction
— — ‘s theory that 3 fundamental components of love (—, — , and —.) in various combinations, define the qualities of a relationship
Triangular theory of love
Robert Sternberg
Intimacy, passion, and commitment
Love based on passion but lacking intimacy and commitment, very sexual but shallow
infatuation
Love based on commitment but lacking intimacy or real passion
Empty love
Intimacy only
Liking (good friends)
Passion only
infatuation (only in the moment)
Commitment only
Empty love (attraction is not reciprocated, unlikely future) Fatal attraction/ stalker/ "for the sake of the kids"
Intimacy and passion
Romantic love (short-term, intensely romantic, emotional and personal) brief affairs
Passion and commitment
Fatuous love (lack intimacy, don’t really like each other, never achieved intimate communication) absurd, foolish, pointless
Commitment and intimacy
companionate love (true love, committed, no sexual arousal.) companions
Intimacy, passion, and commitment
Consummate love ( most completely fulfilling love, rare, difficult to find, harder to maintain)
—’s theory that people follow individual psychological motifs o styles in relating to a love partner
Lee
Style of Love
Erotic, passionate style of love often characterized by short-lived relationships
Eros love
A love style characterized by caring and friendship
Storge love
Possessive, dependent, and often controlling style of love
Mania love
A love style in which partners are selected in a businesslike way on the basis of rational, practical criteria
pragma love
A love style focused on giving the partner whatever he or she may want or need without expectation of receiving anything in return
Agape love
—’s examples of communication
John Gottman’s
Validating
Volatile
Conflict-avoiding
—’s four warning signs
“Four Horsemen of the relationship apocalypse”
1) criticism
2) contempt
3) defensiveness
4) stonewalling
Verbal fault-finding, such as commenting on character flaws
criticism
Disrespect, disgust, or hate expressed when the positive feelings partners once had for each other have dissipated
contempt
Relying on. Passive form of power and aggression by being — when disagreements and disputes erupt
Stonewalling
Unresponsive
5 keys of communication by —, — and —
Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, and Susan Bloomberg
1 - decide don’t slide
2 - do your part
3 - make it safe to connect
4 - open the doors to positive connections
5- nature your commitment
Revealing private sexual thoughts and feelings to another person
Sexual self-disclosure
Sexual self-disclosure can be caused by (6)
- Lack of information (knowledge)
- Embarrassment
- Insecurity about using the right words
- Sexual taboos
- Fear of judgment
- Fear of rejection
10 reasons why relationships fail
- Lack of – —
- Acceptance of sexual — and —
- Ineffective —
- — of decision making power
- Low self esteem, —, and lack of self —
- Failing to — —, lying, or —
- Excessive —
- — behaviors
- — and —
- self-knowledge
- Myths and stereotypes
- communication4.
- . Imbalance
- Insecurity, self confidence
- Isolation
- Keep promises, cheating
- Jealousy
- Controlling
- Abuse and violence
IPV refers to
Intimate partner violence (relationship abuse, domestic violence)
Types of relationship abuse (3)
Physical, verbal, emotional
The repetitive pattern of stages the define most abusive and violent relationships, cycling through the — — phase, the — —- phase, and the — of —-. following the return of the — —- phase and the beginning of a new cycle
Cycle of abuse
Honeymoon
Tension-building
Explosion of violence
Statistics show that — of all women who are murdered in the united states are killed by their male partners
1/3 (one-third)
