Ch 11: Conflict Flashcards

1
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Interpersonal Conflict

A

When a person’s motives, goals, beliefs, or opinions differ from another person’s

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2
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Conflict

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Occurs when one’s wishes/actions obstruct those of another person’s

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3
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Dialectics

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Opposing motivations in a relationship

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4
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Peterson’s (2002) 4 Categories of Conflict

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  1. Criticism
  2. Illegitimate demands
  3. Rebuffs
  4. Cumulative annoyances
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Criticism

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Verbal/nonverbal acts that show unjust dissatisfaction with another person

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Illegitimate Demands

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Unjust requests that exceed the normal expectations of one’s partner

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7
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Rebuff

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When one person rejects their partner in an abrupt way

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Cumulative Annoyances

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Trivial events that become annoying over time

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9
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Actor-Observer Effect

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Partners will have external explanations for their actions and internal ones for other people

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10
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Self-Serving Bias

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People judge their own actions more favourably than they do others

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11
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Attributional Conflict

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Fighting over who’s right and who’s wrong

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12
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Unintentional Conflict

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Associated with external causes

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Intentional Conflict

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Associated with internal causes

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14
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We’re more likely to voice our opinions on thing our partners ____

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Can change (rather than things they can’t change)

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15
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Peterson’s General Model of Conflict

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  1. Avoidance: both partner ignore the issue
  2. Negotiation: problem-solving to resolve conflict
  3. Escalation: conflict heats up and more issues are thrown into the mix
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16
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Negative Affect Reciprocity

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Partners trade escalating provocations back and forth

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17
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Demand/withdrawal patterns

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One partner complains, criticizes, and pressures for change, while the other avoids the situation

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18
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Negotiation

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Partners work towards a solution in a sensible way

19
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Keys to negotiation

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  1. Be optimistic
  2. Value your partner’s opinion
  3. Take a break from the discussion
20
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Rusbult’s 4 Types of Responses

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  1. Voice
  2. Loyalty
  3. Exit
  4. Neglect
21
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Voice

A

Trying to improve the situation by discussing problems

22
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Loyalty

A

Waiting for conditions to improve

23
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Exit

A

Leaving/threatening to leave an argument, or yelling/hitting your partner

24
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Neglect

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Avoiding issues

25
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Gottman’s 4 Types of Couples

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  1. Volatile
  2. Validators
  3. Avoiders
  4. Hostiles
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Volatiles

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Frequent and passionate arguments

Fight often, but make up with wit and fondness

27
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Validators

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Have heated fights, but show empathy and understanding

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Avoiders

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Rarely argue and avoid confrontation

29
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Hostiles

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Have harmful arguments (4 horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, withdrawal)

30
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Pseudo-Conflict

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Conflict triggered by a lack of understanding

31
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Simple Conflict

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Conflict that stems from different ideas/perceptions

32
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Ego Conflict

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Conflict that is based on personal issues

33
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Expressive Conflict

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Conflict that focuses on issues about the quality of the relationship

34
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Instrumental Conflict

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Conflict that centres around achieving a specific goal

35
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The ‘what happened’ Conversation

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Explore each other’s side of the story

36
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The ‘feelings’ Conversation

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Understand/share/manage your feelings and recognizing the feelings of your partner

37
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The ‘identity’ Conversation

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What’s at stake in the relationship?

38
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Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication Model

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I observe, I feel, I need, I request

39
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Collaborating

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Involves an attempt from both partners to resolve an issue

40
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Competing

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Involves one partner that pursues their own interest at their partner’s expense

41
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Avoiding

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Occurs when neither partner wants to address the issue and ignores it altogether with no resolution

42
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Accomodating

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Occurs when one partner pushes their wishes aside in order to resolve a conflict and satisfy the wishes of their partner

43
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Compromising

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involves both partners finding a satisfying and mutually acceptable resolution