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Question 1

What do you have to do to become confident?

Answer 1

You have to take %100 responsibility for your life and stop archetypal role of the “victim” and stop blaming your circumstances and others for holding you back.

Question 2

How do you define confidence?

Answer 2

The absolute certainty that you will do the best you can in any situation with the resources you have available to you regardless of the outcome.

Question 3

WHat do you have to do to be confident?

Answer 3

You have to take %100 responsibility for your life, and not play the archetypal role of the “victim”.

You have to stop blaming your circumstances or others for holding you back

Question 4

How long does confidence take to develop.

Answer 4

It can take a long time but how long is up to you.

Question 5

What does the skill of confidence come from?

Answer 5

Understanding and applying the theory.

Question 6

Many people say they are confident in relationships but…

Answer 6

Have they actually walked the talk? Probably not.

Question 7

Where does true confidence must come from?

Answer 7

Within

Question 8

What are people held back by?

Answer 8

A disempowering belief system.

Usually that they are unaware of.

Question 9

What is perception?

Answer 9

Perception is reality and what you focus on, you move towards.

Question 10

When is the perfect time to go for your goal?

Answer 10

There is non you have start working now.

Question 11

Is 100% confidence attainable?

Answer 11

No. It’s unobtainable. Being bulletproof to everything is external that is happening to you is impossible.

Question 12

What do you do when you feel fear?

Answer 12

Focus on the present. Your focus is your reality so find your focus.

Question 13

Are you born with confidence?

Answer 13

No.

Question 14

What are the three levels of confidence?

Answer 14

1) Surface Level
- your body how you move talk etc.

2) Lifestyle Level
- what you do for work, your hobbies your interests

3) how you feel about yourself, your self-esteem and how you evaluate your self-worth

Problem ex. celebs on public persona

Question 15

How do you differentiate confidence and arrogance?

Answer 15

Confidence is associating with your strengths and accentuating them, and NOT dissociating from weaknesses, but instead recognising them so you can improve upon them and transform them into strengths

Question 16

What does Self-Esteem + Self-Efficacy = Confidence Mean?

Answer 16

Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. How do you talk to yourself.

Self-efficacy is the belief in one’s capabilities to organize and execute the courses of action required to manage prospective situations.

You need both…

Question 17

Your beliefs are ______.

Answer 17

Everything

Question 18

You have to condition your self talk to ____

Answer 18

Work with you.

I.e. called ugly as a child

Question 19

With _________ and _______ you can change any belief.

Answer 19

practice, self discipline

Question 20

Why should you question what others think about you?

Answer 20

Because nobody knows you like yourself.

Question 21

What should you do with affirmations?

Answer 21

Write them down and rehearse them everyday preferably in front of the mirror.

You must make them believable and congruent with who you want to be.

Question 22

Your ego is your _____

Answer 22

self defence mechanism.

Erects especially when threatened and creates a us versus them mentality

if you hear a voice saying don’t do that the last time you did that you failed thats your ego talking.

Question 23

When does your transformation really start?

Answer 23

When you learn to disassociate with your “inner critic” and associate with your “inner fat.”

You first need to really listen to your self-talk and become aware.

What specific words do you hear?

Is it loud?

Is it accompanied by a movie or a picture?

Question 24

How to eliminate bad self talk?

Answer 24

Turn the volume down.

Visualize cartoon far away.

Question 25

Confident people don’t respond to ______. They behave how they want to behave because they are emotionally autonomous. They see the _________.

Answer 25

stimuli, deeper meaning

Question 26

Confidence is bred in _______.

Answer 26

Competency.

I.e. if you feel confident in how you perform at your job you feel confident in it.

Question 27

Confidence Hack Spontaneity

Answer 27

Shake up your routine periodically. Routines get boring after a while and spontaneity shows confidence.

• Play a prank on a friend. Say yes to something you would normally say no to.

Question 28

Confidence Hack Appearance

Answer 28

Honestly evaluate your appearance.

• Brush your teeth
• Hair cut nice
• Shower
• Are you well groomed
• Do your clothes fit and are they congruent with who you are
• ## Posture

Question 29

Confidence Hack Diet

Answer 29

Diet - balanced

Question 30

Confidence Hack Exercise

Answer 30

….

Question 31

Confidence Hack Self Amusement

Answer 31

Goof off even if no one is around to see it.

It’s good to practice not caring about what other people think.

Question 32

Confidence Hack Listening

Answer 32

When people talk. Listen completely. Hold eye contact this takes confidence.

It shows people that you are right there in that moment.

Question 33

Confidence Hack Physiology

Answer 33

Eye contact, facial gestures, smiling, vocal pacing and tonality.

Communication =
55% body language
38% vocal tonality
07% words

Question 34

Confidence Hack Gratitude

Answer 34

Practice this on a daily basis.

Regardless of how bad your situation is, there is always someone worse off than you.

Question 35

Confidence Hack Names !!!

Answer 35

Remember that the sweetest sound a person can hear is their name.

Question 36

Confidence Hack Small Talk

Answer 36

Make an effort to know the small talk stuff.