Book Flashcards
What do you have to do to become confident?
You have to take %100 responsibility for your life and stop archetypal role of the “victim” and stop blaming your circumstances and others for holding you back.
How do you define confidence?
The absolute certainty that you will do the best you can in any situation with the resources you have available to you regardless of the outcome.
WHat do you have to do to be confident?
You have to take %100 responsibility for your life, and not play the archetypal role of the “victim”.
You have to stop blaming your circumstances or others for holding you back
How long does confidence take to develop.
It can take a long time but how long is up to you.
What does the skill of confidence come from?
Understanding and applying the theory.
Many people say they are confident in relationships but…
Have they actually walked the talk? Probably not.
Where does true confidence must come from?
Within
What are people held back by?
A disempowering belief system.
Usually that they are unaware of.
What is perception?
Perception is reality and what you focus on, you move towards.
When is the perfect time to go for your goal?
There is non you have start working now.
Is 100% confidence attainable?
No. It’s unobtainable. Being bulletproof to everything is external that is happening to you is impossible.
What do you do when you feel fear?
Focus on the present. Your focus is your reality so find your focus.
Are you born with confidence?
No.
What are the three levels of confidence?
1) Surface Level
- your body how you move talk etc.
2) Lifestyle Level
- what you do for work, your hobbies your interests
3) how you feel about yourself, your self-esteem and how you evaluate your self-worth
Problem ex. celebs on public persona
How do you differentiate confidence and arrogance?
Confidence is associating with your strengths and accentuating them, and NOT dissociating from weaknesses, but instead recognising them so you can improve upon them and transform them into strengths
What does Self-Esteem + Self-Efficacy = Confidence Mean?
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. How do you talk to yourself.
Self-efficacy is the belief in one’s capabilities to organize and execute the courses of action required to manage prospective situations.
You need both…
Your beliefs are ______.
Everything
You have to condition your self talk to ____
Work with you.
I.e. called ugly as a child
With _________ and _______ you can change any belief.
practice, self discipline
Why should you question what others think about you?
Because nobody knows you like yourself.
What should you do with affirmations?
Write them down and rehearse them everyday preferably in front of the mirror.
You must make them believable and congruent with who you want to be.
Your ego is your _____
self defence mechanism.
Erects especially when threatened and creates a us versus them mentality
if you hear a voice saying don’t do that the last time you did that you failed thats your ego talking.
When does your transformation really start?
When you learn to disassociate with your “inner critic” and associate with your “inner fat.”
You first need to really listen to your self-talk and become aware.
What specific words do you hear?
Is it loud?
Is it accompanied by a movie or a picture?
How to eliminate bad self talk?
Turn the volume down.
Visualize cartoon far away.
