Book 1 Part 1 Definition of counseling

Question 1

How may one feel if you talk a problem over with someone wiser or more mature?

Answer 1

• relieved
• gain a clearer view
• have a new perspective to my problem

Question 2

When is best to address problems?

Answer 2

Earliest

Question 3

Counselling is _________

Answer 3

• Lending support to someone who is troubled
• In such a way that they will eventually resolve their own issues
• Talking though to a resolution with a trusted individual

Question 4

Definition of counselling

Answer 4

An activity

which seeks to help people in distress

towards constructive growth or change

in any or every aspect of their lives

through a caring relationship

within agreed relational boundaries

Question 5

What is the aim of counseling?

Answer 5

To bring understanding of the underlying factors

To facilitate change in the situation

Question 6

What changes may counseling bring within the counselee?

Answer 6

Change in :

• Perspective
• thinking
• behaviour
• feel better
• is given better copinig skills to deal with the problem at hand

Question 7

What is the goal of Christian counseling?

Answer 7

Holiness (not necessarily happiness)

Following the truth may not be easy in the beginning, for it calls for self-denial

Question 8

What are the 3 relational boundaries a counsellor must set?

Answer 8

1. Boundary of Confidentiality
2. Boundary of Gender
3. Boundary of Referral

Question 9

What are the exception to the boundary of Confidentiality

Answer 9

Telling parents or guardians when the counselee’s life is in danger

• or when someone else’s life is in danger.

Question 10

What are the two exceptions to the boundary of Gender?

Answer 10

1. Big age difference between counselor and counselee
2. Professional setting

Question 11

When a counselee is referred, what must first be done?

Answer 11

Gently and clear explanation to the counselee, that he/she will not feel deserted.

Question 12

What are the characteristics of a good counselor?

Answer 12

• Close communion with God - living himself guided by God’s counseling
• Comfortable to talk to - relate well to people, friendly, warm, put others at ease, good listeners, people feel easy to open up to
• Compassionate - appreciate difficulties, without begin judgmental
• Competent - aquainted with Scriptures, are teachable, costant desire to learn more
• Commanding respect - good character, integrity, consistency, genuiness, counselee must take his words seriously

Question 13

Who needs counseling?

Answer 13

• Anyone facing difficulties he struggle to cope with
• Adjustment issues
• All ages, cultures, genders, educational or religious background

Question 14

Why do people need counseling?

Answer 14

1. To experience acceptance and support
2. To be listened to
3. To lighten one’s burden
4. To obtain clarity to move forward

Question 15

Describe the counseling process

Answer 15

A conducive, non-threatening environment for counselees

to come face to face with their true selves

to unload

and have a cathartic experience

Question 16

What may the counselee’s reaction be on counseling?

Answer 16

• May feel acceptance and support
• have an opportunity to verbalize their feelings
• enabled to explore their concerns
• gain a better understanding (clarity of thought, disentangling a piece of rope)
• so to better face their challenges

Question 17

How may a counselee feel?

Answer 17

Confused

Indecisive

bewildered

afraid

Question 18

What are the unique characteristics of counseling?

Answer 18

1. Counselee friendly - focus on the needs of the counselee
2. In-depth interaction - past, present, future - sharing thoughts, emotions, wishes, dreams - baring one’s soul to another
3. **Confidentiality **

Question 19

What are the tools for counseling?

Answer 19

1. Human experience
2. Research and studies
3. Word of God - God knows best for us and how we should experience fulfillment