Belonging, Formation, Cohesion Flashcards
Three interrelated processes determine the relationship between individuals and groups:
(a) inclusion and exclusion,
(b) individualism and collectivism, and
(c) personal identity and social identity.
The need to belong
The generalized desire to seek out and join with other people, which, when unsatisfied, causes a state of tension and want.
Loneliness
Cognitive and affective malaise, which can include sadness, dejection, self-deprecation, and boredom, experienced when one’s personal relationships are perceived to be too few or too unsatisfying.
What is a collective group, give an example and the impact on loneliness?
Collectives: Create only temporary, superficial alliances among members.
Ticket buyers standing in a queue, audiences in a theater.
No buffering
What is a social group, give an example and the impact on loneliness?
Social groups: Organize connections with other individuals.
Military squads, work groups, congregations, sports teams.
Reduce social loneliness
What is a intimate group, give an example and the impact on loneliness?
Intimate groups: Promote the devilment of close, intimate relationships.
Lovers, roommates (in some cases), close friends.
Reduce emotional loneliness
What is a intimate primary group, give an example and the impact on loneliness?
Intimate primary groups: Connect members in very close relationships.
Families, communes, family businesses, very close friends.
Reduce social and emotional loneliness
The inclusion-exclusion continuum
Increasing belonging is increasing self-worth on the continuum
Social meter hypotheses
states that your self-worth (how you evaluate yourself) is a function on how you evaluate yourself on the continuum.
* High self-esteem: I belong
* Low self-esteem: nobody wants me
* Self-worth is a social meter!
The temporal need threat model of ostracism
Control, meaning, self-esteem and belonging.
Ostracism
Excluding one or more individuals from a group by reducing or eliminating contact with the person, usually by ignoring, shunning, or explicitly banishing them.
The reflexive stage of ostracism in the temporal need threat model of ostracism?
the initial response to ostracism – if I am excluded, I feel pain, sadness, anger, I feel a threat to my fundamental needs.
- The reaction to exclusion is pain – it means that if using analogy of the candle, if I hold the candle, you withdraw your hand, but also with your mother, it doesn’t matter who holds it, when you are excluded from friends, of from family or from strangers, it is equally hurt.
- The reflexive stage is characterized by a flood of negative feelings— pain, disappointment, and distress—that all serve to signal that something is wrong.
The The reflective stage and resignations stage of ostracism in the temporal need threat model of ostracism?
- The thinking fase, it starts to make sense who did it, and who put the candle there, and how they will cope. If you are excluded, you get a signal from the group, that you need to do something good to be part of the group.
- In the reflective stage you review the experience, searching for an explanation for the way you were treated, and, depending on this analysis, he likely would have adopted a specific behavioral strategy to minimize the negative effects of exclusion. If, however, Patrick was never able to gain acceptance in this group or another group, then he would reach the resignation stage: alienation, helplessness, loss of self-worth, and depression.
Tend-and-befriend response
A physiological, psycho logical, and interpersonal response to stressful events characterized by increased nurturing, protective and supportive behaviors (tending), and initiating and strengthening relationships with other people (befriending).
Cyberostracism
Excluding one or more individuals from a technologically mediated group interaction, such as a computer-based discussion group, by reducing or eliminating communication with the person.
The consequences of ostracism?
fight or flight response and high stress
What is The biology of ostracism and inclusion
Neurological reactions to ostracism: studies of the brain using fMRI technology and the effects of analgesics on emotional reactions following rejection suggest that the pain of exclusion is maintained by the same biological systems responsible for the experience of physiological pain.
Brain: Anterior insula and dorsal cingulate cortex
Cyberball experiment – exclusion – inclusion
- Social pain = physical pain
- Belonging reduces physical pain
- Exclusion social pain – paracetamol reduces the pain (in the book, but he doesn’t think it’s a good study).
Euroball experiment – what if obtaining a ball is beneficial or harmful
Equally bad if you are excluded from the game but you gain money.
Cyberbomb; Effects of being ostracized from a death game. But what if inclusion kills you?
The only time, that in the ostracized setting, it is more painful to be excluded from the Cyberbomb than from the Cyberball.
Overall conclusion: we are social animals; social incentives go make the world far more than economic incentives
Another way to experiment this inclusion and ostrazation
Social media paradigm
o Inclusion condition
o Ostracism condition
What can we do to prevent negative consequences of rejection?
Others
o Educate about the negative impact
o Be aware ourselves (a smile, a head nod, a simple hello could go a long way)
Self:
o Find ways to improve coping
o Distractions/prevent rumination via hobbies
o Pets
o Sports
o Seek other social support
o Reminder of close relationships/partners
The Herd Instinct
The idea that humans are instinctively drawn to gather with other humans is not a new one. Over a century ago, psychologist William McDougall argued that humans are inexorably drawn to “the vast human herd,” which “exerts a baneful attraction on those outside it”
Sociometer theory
A conceptual analysis of self-evaluation processes that theorizes self-esteem functions to psychologically monitor of one’s degree of inclusion and exclusion in social groups (proposed by Mark Leary).