August 2022

Question 1

We will speak calmly and kindly to each other

Answer 1

We will speak calmly and kindly to each other

Question 2

We will listen to each other when we speak about important issues

Answer 2

We will listen to each other when we speak about important issues

Question 3

We will schedule a meeting about important issues if the current time is not good

Answer 3

We will schedule a meeting about important issues if we are in the bedroom, while driving or if the other person says this is not a good time

Question 4

If we need to reschedule it will be done ASAP

Answer 4

If we need to reschedule it will be done ASAP

Question 5

We agree to safety while driving is essential. We drive on our side of the road on blind turns, give a wide birth for cars backing up/honk/or stop, if there is a “dangerous” situation. The other person as calmly as possible will alert the driver

Answer 5

We agree to safety while driving is essential. We drive on our side of the road on blind turns, give a wide birth for cars backing up/honk/or stop, if there is a “dangerous” situation. The other person as calmly as possible will alert the driver

Question 6

Either one of us at any time can call a STOP (and schedule a follow up if needed)

Answer 6

Either one of us at any time can call a STOP (and schedule a follow up if needed)

Question 7

No Self-deprecating

Answer 7

No Self-deprecating in front of partner or self

Question 8

No referencing fat people more than once for that person

Answer 8

No referencing fat people more than once for that person

Question 9

Stop saying the opposite just because or for no reason but to be ornery

Answer 9

Stop saying the opposite just because or for no reason but to be ornery

Question 10

Be professional during jobs

Answer 10

Be professional during jobs

Question 11

No changing agreements without asking (not right after breaking the agreement but can ask for a meeting to discuss)

Answer 11

No changing agreements without asking (not right after breaking the agreement but can ask for a meeting to discuss)

Question 12

Stop contradicting with stupid facts that make no sense

Answer 12

Stop contradicting with stupid facts that make no sense

Question 13

No irritable tones
Words vs Tone

Answer 13

No irritable tones
Words vs Tone

Question 14

No snappy tones

Answer 14

No snappy tones

Question 15

Don’t ask for advice and then argue with the information & it is totally ok to make your own choice what to do

Answer 15

Don’t ask for advice and then argue with the information & it is totally ok to make your own choice what to do

Question 16

Stop pushing for something after a clear no or stop

Answer 16

Stop pushing for something after a clear no or stop

Question 17

Recognize when something is said rudely and apologize as quickly as possible

Answer 17

Recognize when something is said rudely and apologize as quickly as possible

Question 18

I will honor our agreements, immediately acknowledge the broken agreement, and resolve the situation as soon as possible

Answer 18

I will honor our agreements, immediately acknowledge the broken agreement, and resolve the situation as soon as possible

Question 19

Once a week review agreements, successes, grievances, achnowledgements, celebrations

Answer 19

Once a week review agreements, successes, grievances, achnowledgements, celebrations

Question 20

Speak calmly and be heard

Answer 20

Speak calmly and be heard

Question 21

Ok to express emotions just go away from partner and emote as much as needed or desired

If tone is inappropriate “I would really love if you could speak calmly and kindly to me”

Answer 21

Ok to express emotions just go away from partner and emote as much as needed or desired

If tone is inappropriate “I would really love if you could speak calmly and kindly to me”

Question 22

Be best self in home

work on mood if not good outside of the home or in private space

Answer 22

Be best self in home

work on mood if not good outside of the home or in private space

Question 23

George will have a space where he can be messy

Answer 23

George will have a space where he can be messy

Question 24

Melissa will stop eating scabs in front of George

Answer 24

Melissa will stop eating scabs in front of George

Question 25

Melissa will no longer ask for apologies

Answer 25

Melissa will no longer ask for apologies

Question 26

Do not make Melissa wait when we agree to talk etc. while doing all kinds of other things

Answer 26

Do not make Melissa wait when we agree to talk etc. while doing all kinds of other things

Question 27

Stop means Stop all actions by both parties

Answer 27

Stop means Stop all actions by both parties

Question 28

Need only be said once, maybe 2 times, but not more

Answer 28

Need only be said once, maybe 2 times, but not more

Question 29

No ignoring the other person

Answer 29

No ignoring the other person

Question 30

Put Melissa needs first above other people or get an agreement from her to reschedule

Answer 30

Put Melissa needs first above other people or get an agreement from her to reschedule

Question 31

Aim to Be in Harmony

Answer 31

Aim to Be in Harmony

Question 32

On a weekly basis review desires and needs at Business meetings

Answer 32

On a weekly basis review desires and needs at Business meetings

Question 33

If not happy or OK look for solutions

Answer 33

If not happy or OK look for solutions

Question 34

Fulfill desires as much as possible as soon as possible

Answer 34

Fulfill desires as much as possible as soon as possible

Question 35

Process resentments as they come up as quickly as possible

Answer 35

Process resentments as they come up as quickly as possible

Question 36

Give acknowledgements or ask if desired

Answer 36

Give acknowledgements or ask if desired

Question 37

Do not pick up the phone in the middle of a conversation unless you ask or it's part of the conversation

Answer 37

Do not pick up the phone in the middle of a conversation unless you ask or it's part of the conversation

Question 38

No business or logistic or intense issues disccussed in bed

Answer 38

No business or logistic or intense issues disccussed in bed

Question 39

Send text for info to discuss later

Answer 39

Send text for info to discuss later

Question 40

Ground each day before talking to Melissa

Answer 40

Ground each day before talking to Melissa

Question 41

No advocacy related to the people working or connected to the Smovolo project (any professionals, contacts or related people)

Answer 41

No advocacy related to the people working or connected to the Smovolo project (any professionals, contacts or related people)

Question 42

no business done in the car or the bedroom

Answer 42

no business done in the car or the bedroom

Question 43

If Melissa says "this makes no sense" George stops doubling down and says "I'm not sure, I don't know or something like that"

Answer 43

If Melissa says "this makes no sense" George stops doubling down and says "I'm not sure, I don't know or something like that"

Question 44

No discussion of leaving marriage until review process January 2023

Answer 44

No discussion of leaving marriage until review process January 2023

Question 45

Let Melissa know if something is uncomfortable even if it is not possible to identify

Answer 45

Let Melissa know if something is uncomfortable even if it is not possible to identify

Question 46

No phone use at meals or during intimate conversations

Answer 46

No phone use at meals or during intimate conversations

Question 47

Not going in the kitchen when Melissa is cooking unless necessary then ask

Answer 47

Not going in the kitchen when Melissa is cooking unless necessary then ask

Question 48

I am in harmony with Melissa

Answer 48

I am in harmony with Melissa

Question 49

I pause and take a breath before I say anything

Answer 49

I pause and take a breath before I say anything

Question 50

I always speak out of kindness love and joy

Answer 50

I always speak out of kindness love and joy

Question 51

I am keeping all the agreements, accept them immediately when I break them and own my actions

Answer 51

I am keeping all the agreements, accept them immediately when I break them and own my actions

Question 52

I am attentive and pay attention to my processes

Answer 52

I am attentive and pay attention to my processes

Question 53

I am observing everything that is unfolding in me because of my processes

Answer 53

I am observing everything that is unfolding in me because of my processes

Question 54

I am the best version of myself

Answer 54

I am the best version of myself

Question 55

I am present, attentive and hear everything my wife says

Answer 55

I am present, attentive and hear everything my wife says

Question 56

No contemptuous or mean looks at each other, especially in front of others

Answer 56

No contemptuous or mean looks at each other, especially in front of others

Question 57

Ask about and acknowledge each others expertise and knowledge, be curious about each others resources and wisdom

Answer 57

Ask about and acknowledge each others expertise and knowledge, be curious about each others resources and wisdom

Question 58

Acknowledge the female's wisdom, knowledge and/or expertise, and if this isn't done own that this is sexism

Answer 58

Acknowledge the female's wisdom, knowledge and/or expertise, and if this isn't done own that this is sexism

Question 59

Send the egregore away with light

Answer 59

Send the egregore away with light

Question 60

I will not disturb a conversation and I will excuse myself or ask for my needs to be met when I am feeling overwhelmed or inundated with too much information

Answer 60

I will not disturb a conversation and I will excuse myself or ask for my needs to be met when I am feeling overwhelmed or inundated with too much information