Attraction & Love Flashcards
Theories/Frameworks for thinking about attraction Attractiveness Concepts, models, and theories of love
Matching Hypothesis
“Computer Dance” U of Minnesota
Individuals are more likely to form and succeed in a committed relationship with someone who is equally socially desirable.
Attraction
Physical and nonphysical things are attractive - think critically about what is attractive.
Homophily
Birds of a feather
Attraction to people of similar age, ethnicity, religious views, race, adn education.
Tendency to live and connect with people within a community of similar background. Who do you run into?
Do opposites attract?
No.
Unless…
Self expansion model: We bleive that soeone can offer us an opportunity to expand.
Triangular Theory of Love
Intimacy: Emotional component (bonding)
Passion: Motivational component (sexual expression)
Commitment: Cognitive component (decision to love and maintain)
Liking
Intimacy
Compationate love
Intimacy + commitment
Empty Love
Decision/Commitment
Fatuous Love
Passion + commitment
Infatuation
Passion
Romantic Love
Passion + Intimacy
Consummate Love
Intimacy + Passion + Commitment
Love As a Story
Socially constructed theme, plot, and characters.
Your ideal realtionships match with the stories.
More discrepant the stories - less satisfied with partners.
Self-confirming/difficult to change.
Hendrick and Hendrick’s 6 Styles of Love
Romantic Love
Game-playing Love
Friendship
Logical Love
Possessive, Excited Love
Selfless Love
Romantic Love (Hendricks)
Lover fits my ideal
Game-Playing Love (Hendricks)
Keeping lover up in the air about my commitment.
Friendship (Hendricks)
Best love grows out of an enduring friendship.
Logical Love (Hendricks)
I consider a lover’s potential in life before committing myself.
Possessive, Excited Love (Hendricks)
I get so excited about my love that I can’t sleep.
Selfless Love (Hendricks)
I’d do anything to help my lover.
Infatuation
State of intense absorption in our focus on another person, usually accompanied by sexual desire, elation, and general physiological arousal or excitement.
Collectivist Cultures
Group over personal goals
Group membership and harmony is valued
Similar status is emphasized
Based on self-in-relation to others
Value inter-group bonding
Individualistic Cultures
Emphasize individual goals over group or societal goals.
Individual behaviour and intimacy
Cost-benefit considerations
Emotional detachemnt from group is acceptable.
Selected on absis of aattractieveness, similarity, and resources.
Values independence, individuality and uniqueness
Values romantic love.
