attraction Flashcards
what are the six factors that bring people together?
proximity, physical attractiveness, similarity, reciprocal liking, minor blunders, a little uncertainty
how does proximity influence attraction?
proximity is the physical distance between two people and there is a higher chance of meeting people who are close in proximity and having someone you see every day since they are in the same proximity as you will give you something to look forward to (mere exposure effect)
Darley and Bersheid (1967) -anticipated interaction enhances liking
if you are told you are meeting a person you will want to meet them more than if you met someone else
what is the mere exposure effect?
the more you perceive it, the more you like it (hear, see, taste, feel)
Moreland & Beach (1992) Confederates in class study
seeing a TA more, the better students will evaluate than if they had never seen the TA.
Mita et al.
we like our mirror image more than our actual image whereas our friends like our actual image more than our mirror image. we see our mirror image more but out friends see our actual image more this explains this theory.
what is an example where proximity works?
becoming friends with someone you sit next you in class or becoming friends with a roommate
how does physical attractiveness influence attraction?
there is a stereotype called beautiful is good stereotype where people that are more physically attractive are perceived to have beautiful personalities which we are more attracted to positive traits
is the beautiful is good stereotype true?
at first it is but over time it wears off
people who are more attractive does not mean they are more intelligent, happier, dominant, or mentally healthier but they are more comfortable and competent in social settings
give an example of how physical attractiveness influences attraction
the more attractive a person is the more they make
better looking kids get punished less
offenders that are more attractive get less punishment
physical attractiveness
is high bodily symmetry with average features but mere exposure effect gets in the way
very average features=
more attractive
explain physical attractiveness between gender
women are perceived more attractive when they have more of a baby face because it shows they are young and fertile whereas men are perceived more attractive when they have more defined faces because it shows they are older and more mature.
contrast effect
if we are exposed to a very attractive person, we begin to view others (and even ourselves) as less attractive
give an example of contrast effect
jimmy fallon is somewhat attractive but if you put him next to michael b jordan you would say he is not attractive by any means
can personality influence how physically attractive someone appears?
yes after knowing a person has a good personality the more attractive you say they are
matching phenomenon
tendency to choose a partner who match valued traits like attractiveness, intelligence, social economic status, optimism so we tend to find people with same level of these things before getting in a relationship
why does similarity influence attraction?
less conflict when viewpoints/personality/hobbies are similar and validates our characteristics and beliefs
however we believe in opposites attract because…
it creates mystery and we don’t wanna be narcissistic
reciprocal liking
we really like those we have won over and dislike the ones we have lost
minor blunders
things that make you human
how does minor blunders influence attraction?
pratfall effect: so when someone seems to be perfect on the outside and they spill coffee on themselves (minor blunder) it makes you more attracted to them because we can relate to that
how does a little uncertainty influence attraction?
we like the chase and mystery, if you are uncertain about someone you think about them more and thinking about them more causes the mere exposure effect to go into effect
passionate love
a state of intense longing for someone that includes intense physiological arousal, psychological interest, and core for his/her needs
compassionate love
affection people feel for those with whom their lives are deeply connected but do not necessarily experience passion or arousal in their presence
cohabitation=
higher divorce rates
poorer people=
cohabitation=higher divorce rates
when do marriages end?
most divorces occur between the second and third year of marriage because the honeymoon phase is over and kids are involved
marriages end because of
unrealistic expectations where marrying someone with fulfill or make you happy or complete you you can’t make me happy now I’m unhappy and I can’t make myself happy, notion of a soulmate
theories of relationship change
investment model, social exchange theory, behavioral theory, attachment theory: Bowlby, crisis theory, equity theory and satisfaction
