35 Questions Flashcards
practice stage 2
What is the focus of second statge
Self Awareness
Where did we leave off at the end of the First Stage Exercise
8 Change agreements
Would you be willing to lead us in the 8 agreements
I agree to notice my Fatal Peril I agree I will not die I agree I will not be violent I agree to notice my hit man I agree to hold my hit man I agree to fade my hit man I agree to notice myself I agree to give myself relief
What is the 7th agreement?
Notice Myself
How do we begin the process of noticing ourselves
We use our 5 senses
What are the 5 senses
Hearing Sight Small Taste Touch
Who do we need to notice using our 5 senses
Self & Partner
What else do we notice using our in this first step of the Assertion Cycle
The Issue
How do we describe the issue
The Interaction between myself and my partner in the moment
Using your 5 senses, can you notice yourself in the moment of Fatal Peril?
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After we notice Self, Partner and Issue, what is the next step in the Assertion Cycle
Recognize
What does it mean to Recognize
Re-Notice
What are the 2 important things Recognition gives us?
Time and Satisfaction:
Time to take a second look and gather more vital information
it satisfies my need for recognition.
I need to recognize and be recognized
How do we begin the process of recognition
Validate
What does it mean to Validate
Replay and Give Value
Why is it important to Validate?
When we go over something again we gain more vital information which which to made a decision.
We also demonstrate to the other person that we value what they are communicating to us by letting them know we are really paying attention
Would you be willing to validate everything you notice about yourself, your partner, and the issue from your first disclosure?
- more to notice -
What is the next step in the recognition process
Soften
Why is it important to soften?
It help us get in touch with our authentic self
What are two important things that happen when we soften?
We allow ourselves to be open to absorb more vital information and we became vulnerable
Would you be willing to lead us in a Softening Exercise
- I am here now -
Would you be willing to lead us in a Softening Exercise
- I am here now -
Who is her now
My Authentic self who is…
Why is it important to stay here now in the moment and in your authentic self
Because being in my authentic self helps me to keep my power and stay focused on the issue in the moment, not what happened yesterday or the day before and not focused on what is going to happen 5 minutes from now or tomorrow or next week.
It causes me to “Be Here Now” and allows me to be vulnerable and in touch with my emotions not in my hitman
Now that you are in the moment and in your Authentic Self what is the next step in the Assertion Cycle
Acknowledge
What does it mean to Acknowledge?
to know or to declare the truth
What do you need to acknowledge?
My emotions, my boundaries, my power
How does the — truly feel when the Fatal Peril happens?
using the 8 -
define them
Experience of loss
What does the Authentic Self lose when – happens?
describe what I loose at the moment of fatal peril
my _____
Now that you have discovered what was lost in the moment of Fatal Peril, how do you as your Authentic Self begin the process of reclaiming what you have lost.
I need to negotiate my boundaries and respect other’s boundaries
If you can negotiate your boundaries and honor other people’s boundaries, what ca you keep?
My Power, ad My Safety
This is the beginning to the third State exercise: Translate my Vital Safety to a Need and create a fulfillment plan”
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How will you restore (lost) in your life?
I need to create a fulfillment plan
