2019-09-23 How to Win Friends and Influence People Flashcards
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What are the three fundamental techniques in handling people?
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- Don’t criticize, condemn or complain
- Give honest and sincere appreciation
- Arouse in the other person an eager want
2
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What are the six ways to make people like you?
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- Become genuinely interested in other people
- Smile
- Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
- Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
- Talk in terms of the other person’s interests
- Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
3
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How to win people to your way of thinking? (12 principles)
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- The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
- Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say, ‘You’re wrong’
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
- Begin in a friendly way
- Get the other person saying ‘yes, yes’ immediately
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking
- Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers
- Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view
- Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires
- Appeal to the nobler motives
- Dramatize your ideas
- Throw down a challenge
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How to be a leader? How to change people without giving offence or arousing resentment? (9 principles)
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- Begin with praise and honest appreciation
- Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly
- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
- Ask questions instead of giving direct orders
- Let the other person save face
- Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be ‘hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise’
- Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
- Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct
- Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
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