1_non verbal Flashcards
non verbal
A M Non Verbal rule # 1
If you look down you communicate self-consciousness, shame, submissiveness, and low status. A dominant man is not afraid to gaze directly at people, do not look down
A M Non Verbal rule # 2
When speaking, make eye contact with listener. More eye contact the more dominance conveyed. Should spend at least 2/3 of time making eye contact and 1/3 of the time looking away.
A M Non Verbal rule # 3
When listening, try not to make consistent eye contact with listener. As a guiding principle try to make eye contact 1/3 of the time(opposite of when speaking). You can start by making eye contact initially and then removing eye contact and reengaging only as a reward for interesting points of conversation. to distract from making eye contact focus on ambient features in surroundings or other things.
A M Non Verbal rule # 4
when speaking, speak with a tone that is “not questioning” . Do not be afraid to interrupt
A M Non Verbal rule # 5
when speaking, let your words flow. Try not to hedge and hesitate.
A M Non Verbal rule # 6
eliminate verbal fillers: “like”, “umm”, “ahhh”, “you know” from conversation. don’t be afraid to pause for effect.
A M Non Verbal rule # 7
Do not speak in a monotone voice or mumble. Try to vary your pitch in natural ways.
A M Non Verbal rule # 8
Open your body and fill space. Don’t hunch, pull shoulders back. don’t hide body parts or touch face. have open palms, spread arms and legs.
A M Non Verbal rule # 9
avoid face twitching, biting, pursing or licking your lips.
A M Non Verbal rule # 10
avoid excessive smiling. Only smile when there is something to smile about..
A M Non Verbal rule # 11
if you need to think before answering a question, don’t look down. Look up or to the side/
A M Non Verbal rule # 12
When someone call you or wants your attention don’t turn around so quickly or be to eager or quick to respond.
A M Non Verbal rule # 13
Don’t give long convoluted sentences. Keep comments and answers short and too the point. If a long sentence or response is necessary, try to break it them up.
A M Non Verbal rule # 14
Don’t seek approval by ending a sentence with a question or an affirmative. like Isn’t it or right? or raising your vocal pitch in a questioning fashion
A M Non Verbal rule # 15
Assume people are there to follow me because I have my stuff together.
A M Non Verbal rule # 16
Don’t follow other people’s agenda discussing what they want unless its interesting. Especially do not follow other people’s agenda when I find it boring. An alpha only talks about what he wants to. When an alpha male is bored, he doesn’t hide his disinterest. Don’t give people my attention unless they have earned it. the mantle of leadership is a birthright. don’t care about what others think and don’t seek approval from others.
A M Non Verbal rule # 17
Don’t feel like I have to be the smartest person and have to one up everyone. The best leaders can listen to someone else and not feel insecure
