Unit 4 Attraction and Love Flashcards
BYRNE’S THEORY OF ATTRACTION
if we are giving and receiving rewards and support from one another we are very synchronized
MATCHING PHENOMENON
we find it difficult to be comfortable with someone who is much less or much more attractive, intelligent than we think we are. If we are uncomfortable we tend not to synchronize.
HOMOPHILY
if we share attitudes, interests, favorite activities then we are much more likely to find a way to be synchronized
MERE-EXPOSURE THEORY
people with whom we interact often and well are those with whom we will develop synchrony
Jourard (1964) found that an important factor in the growth of a loving relationship is
self-disclosure
self-disclosure
Exposing your innermost thoughts and weaknesses helps to nurture love
Thus, the factors identified as contributing to attraction are almost certainly helping to create ___.
synchrony
____ ___ is a state of intense longing for union with another. ____ ____ are absorbed in one another, feel ecstatic at attaining their partners love, and are distressed on losing it.
Passionate love; Passionate lovers
Why is Passionate Love so often the beginning point?
Because it easiest to be fooled into believing you are in passionate love
misattribution
aroused by a potential threat and misattribute the arousal to a present attractive individual
Dutton & Aron (1974 and 1989)
those aroused by the impending threat of electric shock expressed greater attraction toward the female; The men interviewed high in the air were much more likely to call than the men interviewed near the ground
WHAT ARE THE ULTIMATE VERSUS PROXIMAL CAUSES OF LOVE?
The ultimate source of love is the evolutionary advantage we gain through successful nurturing families. The proximal source of love is attraction.
What would be required for “mere exposure?”
proximity
Has any research reliably shown that opposites attract?
No
