men are goal-orianted Flashcards
men are goal orianted
“Many men find the chase exciting and it strikes their ego to feel they’re the one who is finally going to get her attention - and into bed. Add to this the fact that men are very goal-focused and an elusive goal can seem all that much more interesting.” Dr. Pam Spurr – Relationship expert
Men Place Value On Effort
If a man has to work at a project he’ll value it more. If it comes gift-wrapped on a silver platter he won’t. Men like to think that their efforts are rewarded.
They are doers and as such, like to see the results for their efforts. If they get something for nothing they don’t think much of it. They’d rather work hard and cherish what they’ve earned.
wear red
The color red is associated with lust and sexuality. Even a dash of red lip gloss across your lips is enough to make a man notice you. He’ll be unconsciously reminded of sex and be attracted to you without knowing why.
stop chasing him
The very first thing you have to do is stop chasing him. This is the worst thing you can do. It will put him off instantly. No one likes being chased, not men or women. But particularly a man. That’s his job. Not only does it make you look desperate but it makes him look less of a man.
make him wait for sex
The thing is, you’ve got to make yourself that rare commodity. Because if he gets you straight away you won’t be that prize to chase anymore. He won’t have exerted any effort to win you. You just laid there and he took you. Make sure you make him wait.
Don’t reveal everything on the first date
I never saw him again! What I’m saying is keep the drama out of the first few dates. Don’t tell him everything at the start. You’ll only frighten him off as I did. After all, how would you feel if someone you’d just met started telling you intimate details of their lives after 5 minutes?
Be interested in what he has to say
He wasn’t especially good looking or fit, but the way he made you feel as if you were the most important person in the room was spellbinding. What I’m saying is that we all love attention. We all like it when someone genuinely listens to us. Moreover, we find it attractive. So focus on your guy and draw him in.
Have a sense of humor
Of course, we can’t all be wisecracks like Joan Rivers, but we can be upbeat and talk about fun things. We can also laugh at men’s jokes. We can focus on the positive in life. We can try and play down the negative and try not to always talk about our problems.
You might have heard that men don’t date women with a sense of humor but you’d be wrong. Men love funny women because they have fun with them. In fact, men chase funny women because they feel good with them.
Want to make a guy chase you? Make sure you laugh lots!
Be happy with your own life
What attracts you to other people? Do you want to spend time with the person who sat by themselves in a corner with their head in their hands? Or the one who is up, dancing, laughing, and having a great time with their friends? If you want to make a guy chase you then show him you are happy.
be positive
We are drawn to positive, happy people. Of course, we are! But you’d be surprised at the number of people who concentrate on their guy’s lives instead of their own. Think about it for a second. What do you look for in a man? Someone strong, independent, well-balanced, and happy. Well, that’s what they’re looking for too.
focus on yourself
Sometimes the old adages are actually true. When you stop looking for someone they just happen to appear. This is because when we focus on ourselves we are making the best of our lives. And we shine without knowing it.
We are sending a powerful message out there that we don’t need a man to complete us. That we have a fulfilling life and that any man that wants to be a part of our lives has to be worthy. That’s a red rag to men. That’s a contest they want to win.
ignore him
Lots of women don’t like the trick of ignoring a man because they worry he’ll lose interest. However, in the short-term, it works. The trick is to act as if you don’t really care whether he talks to you or notices you. Remember that fabulous life you’re leading?
You haven’t had the time to notice what’s going on around you. You’re not like the other desperate women who are searching for a husband. You’re different. And that’s what guys are looking for. Ignoring him makes you the woman that stands out from the rest.
Show a bit of interest in him
Obviously, if you keep ignoring him he’ll eventually get the message that you’re really not interested and he’ll back off. So at some point, you’ll have to ease up. The trick is to not bombard him with questions about his life.
Just ask him a few things and tell him a couple of details about yourself. But leave some things hidden to maintain an air of mystery. For example, if he asks what you do for a living keep it vague.
- Learn how to flirt
You’d be surprised at the number of women who don’t know how to flirt. Flirting is a fun way to let someone know that you’re interested in them. You are using sexual undertones to suggest that you like this guy but you’re keeping a distance between the two of you.
You can be as innocent or sexual as you like. Flirting allows you to give him the signal that you appreciate his advances and that you’re open to his suggestions. Easy ways of flirting include playing with your hair, twiddling a swizzle stick in your drink, and fiddling with a necklace.
Show him you are girlfriend material
What makes a man chase a woman? Think about what attracts you to a guy. It’s the simple things like whether he has good friends and strong family connections. Is he kind to people, does he show empathy, is he patient, is he passionate and loving?
Believe it or not, men also look for these kinds of qualities in a woman. Sure, they are visual creatures but that only gets you past the first stage. They’ll be quite happy to sleep with you, then they’ll move on looking for a girlfriend. Someone they can take home to the parents. Show him your heart and soul and you won’t have to do anymore.
