Chapter 9 Flashcards
What are the 3 factors underlying initial attraction?
proximity (geologically close), familiarity (how often we see them), physical attractiveness (romantic and platonic)
What are attractive features?
baby face qualities, mature features, expressiveness, and grooming
What is the matching hypothesis?
people are attracted to those with similar levels of attractiveness
What is the parental investment theory?
mating selection is based on what each sex has to invest in the means of time, energy, and survival
What is the evolutionary mate selection?
males seek healthy, attractive mates/ women seek mates who can provide and protect
What are the two factors that affect viability in a relationship?
reciprocal liking: we like who likes us
reciprocal self-disclosure: voluntary act of sharing information
Why is similarity important in relationships?
we are drawn to those who are similar to us
What determines satisfaction and commitment in a relationship?
comparison level: balance of costs and rewards
alternative level: available outcome of alternatives
What are the 6 standards of friendship?
symmetrical reciprocity
instrumental aid
agency
enjoyment
communication
similarity
What makes a good friend?
emotional and social support
What are the 3 steps of repair after conflict in friendship?
reproach: confrontation
remedy: responsibility/apology
acknowledgement: acceptance
What is Sternberg’s triangular theory of love?
intimacy, passion, and commitment
What are the two attachment styles in romantic love?
attachment anxiety: worry
attachment avoidance: distance
Why do relationships end?
premature commitment
lack of communication
boredom
availability of another relationship
low satisfaction
How do you help love last?
get to know one another before commitment
emphasize positive qualities in your partner
bring in novelty in long-term relationships
develop effective conflict management skills
